Blue one

I am in a failing relationship and soon I will want to move out.

I will need to find myself somewhere to live/rent.

Today I discovered that my ex is going to put our old house up for rent in September to move in with new partner (we are still on speaking terms).

This got me thinking, should I consider renting a house I used to own, as it has everything I need.
Or will this give me an uncomfortable attachment to an ex?

Tiggs

i think you will find the term is failed!

T

ps...DONT rent her house!

Apparition

New pastures would be the best move IMHO. The place will be full of old memories and as you quite rightly say, you will still have a connection with the ex. It might be a hassle finding a new place, but I think a change is as good as a rest every time.
Good Luck
Yve

PCatWork

Burn her house down and move on.

Blue one

I didn't even consider that, thanks.

BTW it is not 'her' house.
(I didn't want to put I was female in the first post because of the sharks.)

PCatWork

Sorry, maybe that''s not such a good idea, then. Either way, check your insurance policy first.

OllyK

No the relationship hasn't yet finsihed so the failure is on going and therefore not in the past tense

T4molie

OllyK - however if Blue One has said "I am in a failing relationship and soon I will want to move out" then to me as far she is concerned then it has already failed because she has already decided that she wants to move out no?

scoobyangel

are you still a "couple" then??

have you already signed this house over to him, or was it never yours in the first place..


my advice would be to get out now.. he has already told you he is moving in with his new partner... whats left for you in the relationship now?? move out, get your own place, and start over.... most of all be happy... and dont let no one walk all over ya!

T4molie

That aside I think it would give you an uncomforatble attachment to an ex....

SVVG

iTrader: (1)

Think you should move out now - Otherwise it could turn nasty if your ex decides to up the rent, fails to fix something, or decides to kick you out so he can move back in with his new partner... IMHO clean break is always the way to go...now if I could only practise what I preach....

Good Luck.

Blue one

Someone misinterpreted along the way.

I was wondering about renting a house that my ex owns (I used to co-own), he is leaving it to move in with g/f. I do not live there now.

scoobyangel

ahhh... you worded ot as it you were still livign together and in a relationship with him!!

i presume its not him you are in a relationship with!!!


if thats the case, and you and your ex are still mates, good mates, with no animosoty whatsoever, i cant see the problem, as long as you have a proper contract between the two of you that states both your rights clearly.

OllyK

Well as far as she is concerned it hasn't otherwise she would have used the past tense

The question is at what point is the relationship terminated, and that's a tough one to answer.

Anyway I was just winding Tiggs up, hence the at the end of the statement!!

Blue one

My ex and I split years ago. I am now with someone else and it is not working.

SO I am thinking ahead about what to do.

OllyK

Err - my relationship is just fine thanks, think you a muddling me up with the thread starte!

scoobyangel

didnt confuse you... was just highlighting what you said i.e it being failing, and not failed!!

scoobyangel

did get confused with origional poster tho.. thought as it stated failing relations hip and renting off ex, that she was thinking of renting off the soon to be ex!!



coat.. door... i m'off!

T4molie

Ahhhhhh reet

Depends on how you are with your ex (the one that will soon be your ex...ex)

If you are friendly with each other then possibly yes

Jamo

iTrader: (23)

[shark]ok so the relationships gone, lets have a photo [/shark]

shaggy