C h a z

About four years ago my father died of cancer. He was ill for about twelve months before it finally took him.
My sister has never really recovered from Dad dying. She was a gifted student at school achieving five A-grades at A-level and going on to study to be a vet at uni, a lifetimes ambition. To my sister Dad was a bit like the cashier at a casino, what ever she achieved meant nothing to her until she showed it to him. The grades at school were her chips and worthless until he converted them with his praise. She was so desperate to receive his admiration as he had done so well academically (Three degrees in three years at uni, chartered physicist, member of the Royal thingmy of mathematics and it applications etc) Dad died before my sister qualified top of her year, she was promptly asked to carry on and do a PHD.
Since my father died Charlotte has suffered terribly from nightmares about him and has generally been a different person, until about three weeks ago, when she bought a horse. She has wanted a horse for as long as I can remember. Her bedroom at home was filled with horse posters, books everything you can think of. This horse has revived the old Charlotte. She’s so much more active, it’s given her a whole new lease of life.
Last night she came round to stay at ours, the first time ever. We chatted watched a video played some music. Did all the things that we haven’t done for so long.

Then this morning disaster. Her bloke over in Darlington phoned because last night the horse had been struck by lightning.

She’s just fallen apart, what should I do? I’ve taken her round to Mum’s today to look after her. If God walked in the room now I’d rip the fcukin’ head off the tw@t.

Any words of encouragement for her at this time would be greatly recieved.

Badger Stuffer

That is a horrible story. Very sad indeed. Sorry to hear about such a thing to happen when she was making so much progress. she needs to remember what your dad would say to her should he still be here.

Life sends tests to you. It is up to you to decide how you are going to handle them. She sounds like a fighter and I am sure that this will not set here back for too long.

Pass on my regards to her and keep her chin up. You sound like a very supporting brother and I am sure that all will turn out OK with your help and support.

Jason.

[Edited by Badger Stuffer - 6/17/2003 1:08:21 PM]

Brendan Hughes

Please add my support.

C h a z

Thanks guys

Jen

Mine to

Jason seems to have summed it up nicely though, the person will never be gone if you remember them - sure your Dad would have wanted her to be strong

Jen

Brun

That is really tough on the girl

NotoriousREV

Maybe just letting her know that you care about her and that other people are thinking about her will help in some way?

I know this may sound harsh, but maybe some counselling would be in order for her to become less dependant on outside things or people, I don't mean it to sound nasty, I just think it would help her.

davyboy

Christain of the year award goes to.....................

daiscooby

Cant add more than to echo Jason's post.
Be there, and be strong.

My thoughts and support to Charlotte and the rest of the family.

Sean

alcazar

iTrader: (2)

It's when you read something like this that you realise your own woes are as nothing.
Please add my support for her. I'm sure she'll be OK. These things are sent to try us.
Alcazar

C h a z

davyboy,
Christians, just a bunch of people in tweed, arguing about who does the flowers on Sunday.

davyboy

I was just trying to inject a little humour

Its very sad

m5

Buy another horse?

LG John

LMAO

PG

chin up and be there for her.
All the best to you all.

turboman786

Sorry to hear the sad story mate, but I think the blasphemy is unwarranted.

I always abide by the philosophy that after every hardship there is ease.....

C h a z

"Sorry to hear the sad story mate, but I think the blasphemy is unwarranted."

Who else is to blame, Zeus?

turboman786

Who said any one has to be to 'blame' for adversities mate??

J4CKO

iTrader: (1)

Terrible, my cousin Sarah had a horse for seven years, she (The horse) was getting on a bit but she still rode her and still won Gymkanahs against posh birds with huge horseboxes and ten grand horses then some sicko plunged a stake into her horses chest during the time that this was widely reported on the news as many had been killed this way, anyway she has got over it, it took a long time but she got another horse and got on with it, life isnt fair but time is a great healer. I am not big on animals myself (maily due to allergies) but can see how some are and she was devastated, the horse was so freindly and was one of those people took their kids to see/pat/feed sugar lumps, shame that people can be so evil and the horse was so trusting

C h a z

Turboman,
Slightly off topic but how can someone be responsable for creating the whole universe and everything and then not be responsible.
Thats a bit like buying a car off a one man manufacturer who takes all the praise for his excellent car, the leather seats the alloy wheels etc then when something goes wrong says.
"nothing to do with me that bit mate."
"But it must be, you designed it and built it. There is no one else in this factory, you must be responsable."
"No I'm not mate. Anyway isn't it time you sang a song telling me how fantastic me and my car are?"
"But this bit is cr@p."
"As I said before nothing to do with me that bit, why arn't you singing yet?"

super_si

Thats terrible

My misses heard that storm too apprently a big one

Really sorry about that
Si

south-star

Buy her a new horse.

C h a z

I would do but I haven't got a bean at the moment lend us a tenner.

red_dog104

She may well benefit from councelling. Not about the horse but about the underlying cause, the death of her / your father. I saw a councellor when my boyfriend died and even though I thought it would do me no good whatsoever, it helped me put things into perspective and I could be as angry, sad, stupid as I wanted in my sessions without hurting the people around me. When my sessions finished, I still hurt sometimes and felt a little lost but I felt more in control of my life. It's worth considering.

Please let her know i'm thinking of her.

Lisa xx

C h a z

Thanks Lisa,
She did try counciling (sp?) but the nightmares seemed to get worse so she gave it up.

Jay m A

iTrader: (2)

Chaz you shouldn't blame God, he doesn't exsist IMO. Simple as.

Best wishes for your sister, I'm sure if your family and her boyfriend are there for her she'll pull through this testing time.

Justin

TelBoy

Is your sister religious Chaz?

C h a z

No the whole religion topic was jsut started because a friend of mine said.
"Act of God mate, what you gonna do?"