mrtheedge2u2

I know asking serious questions on here is like asking a woman to explain the off-side rule.....so I ask this loosely as I am sure some people have been in a similar position.

In 2002 my misses cheated on me twice ad it cost the relationship, house and a lot of money....since then I simply struggle to trust women. Even if they give me absolutely no reason to mistrust them.....

Any tips or advice on how you or people you know have handled/overcome this????

LegacySTi

iTrader: (13)

Dont marry them or get into mad finance agreements etc and just have fun with them..

Nothing to trust them about.

Funkii Munkii

You know what the issue is, you just need to work on it, although 10 years is a long time, counselling might be the answer.

Good Luck

ALi-B

iTrader: (1)

Love everyone and trust no one


Sorry that doesn't help much

birchy2010

iTrader: (12)

If it has **** or wheels it will cause you problems, sad truth really!

addi monster

iTrader: (6)

pre nup mate (money solved)
understanding women (no feckin chance bro)

jh1-2009

As Legacy say,s just have fun and don,t get to attatched.
It takes time to earn trust and be trusted. Coming to think of it,
I can,t trust myself to be faithfull so why should i trust anyone else.

dpb

Don't get hung up about sex,?

Jamescsti

No one can tell you how to start trusting someone. I trust no one personally, hate having to rely on other people to do anything, I always want to do things myself to make sure it's done.
Just stay single is the easy answer

the hamster

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I totally understand chap, I'm in the same boat, but my wife didnt cheat. She rang me one night and said that all my stuff was in my other car, the locks were changed and that was that.

I lost everything coz I just wanted an end to it all so i've had to start from scratch over the last 2 years. I trust no-one, especially women, maybe I shouldnt be so sensitive but I cant help it.

I think it will always be like that until I find someone I feel 100% comfortable with.

RobsyUK

iTrader: (2)

Trust grows so just take things slow with the next one. be honest and tell them that if they arn't happy they can walka way etc without the hurt. Stupid as it sounds but I don't know how but I just knew my wife would never cheat from day one.

The history of her family is that they have never cheated and married from 17 - 84 for her grand pearents and her parents ar eon the same route..

RoShamBo

iTrader: (1)

1) Never trust anyone 100%, they will let you down at some point.

2) We never, ever, REALLY know someone.

I know I sound like an old fart but I have lived and experienced a lot, and I believe in the above.

Ro.

JTaylor

Have you considered entering in to a personal relationship with bioforger and placing your trust in him and him alone?

davegtt

Snap and Im actually happy on my own now, I have alot more fun doing what I want to do without a woman questioning what Im doing and why Im doing it all the time, I feel like a free man tbh. Dont get me wrong there are parts of a relationship I miss but I find the hassle is not worth it. Most of my friends dont understand why I dont want to settle down and think just cause Im in my 30's I should grow up. To me that sounds like stop having fun, sod that, life is for living to the max

the hamster

iTrader: (7)

Dave, you must be my twin mate coz thats exactly how I am. My ex was massively insecure, i'd get texts all day asking where I was, what i'm doing, who with etc.

All my mates are now married, most of them moaning about something and most of them under huge pressures of homelife/relationship etc. Thanks, but i'll stay happy n single for a bit ta

jef

iTrader: (13)

take your time in any relationship

too many people rushing in feet first

theres no need to go further than your comfortble with, if they cant accept that, there not right for you.

the more experience you hve of them the more educated discision you can make, none will evr be 100% secure though, ever

Lydia72

I thought it was that there had to be a player from the opposing team between you and their goal when the ball is passed to you. Or something like that

Dingdongler

Can you text me her number?


Thanks

Leslie

That is an unfair and inaccurate generalisation.

Les

jef

iTrader: (13)

i agree les,

total sweeping generalisation,

how do you know everyone will let you down? and again its subjective to your own interpritation of being let down, so thats totally a skewed opinion, but its certainly not a fact.
and im confident i really know quite a few people tbh, , i know there behaviour, there emotion, there flaws. ive grown up with a group of friends, where we now have over 18 yeasr friendship and while i knwo some are more open than others most hide absolutley nothing. im pretty sure they know me, not everyone goes behind doors and does a jekyll and hyde lol

SHUGSTERC

get a really ugly burd that way noone else will wanna hump her..works for me

scoobeenut

Better hope she doesn't read this forum.

DJ_Jon

iTrader: (7)

99% of people have been shat on from a great height. My advice, keep 10-15% of yourself back, make sure she loves you more than you love her. Don't be needy, don't talk about negative stuff, don't get involved with people that waste your time.

The only way you will ever trust anyone is if they earn it, that goes both ways, you have to give a little to get some back, but remember, it's all just a numbers game & don't take women personally.

Women are easy to understand when you stop thinking about them in men's terms - what I mean by this is, women are nothing like men, they don't think like men, they think like women, once you get that through your noggin, then you can start to see the fog lifting.

One last thing, there are 3 billion women on the planet, some good ones, some bad ones. Don't settle for anything less than you are worth & have some self respect.

mrtheedge2u2

Cheers Jon.....some good advice there.