ENGAGEMENT RING
13 August 2010, 11:33 PM
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ENGAGEMENT RING
I recently ask my gf to marry me, why you might ask and on most days I ask the same question...... The question is does it matter where the ring is bought from in your eyes ??
Dont know if im just becoming a soft lad or what but I thought it was all about what it represented and that I bought it with care and all that **** (prob wrong site for this question having thoght about it)
I told my partner were going shopping for this in town (Leeds) and I was told it can olny be bought from this or that shop and its gota look like this and all types of demands, wish I bought it before I asked her now as it would have been alot easier and stress free otherwise.
Just really pissed me off about all the demands, I must be getting old or soft or both.
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Dont know if im just becoming a soft lad or what but I thought it was all about what it represented and that I bought it with care and all that **** (prob wrong site for this question having thoght about it)
I told my partner were going shopping for this in town (Leeds) and I was told it can olny be bought from this or that shop and its gota look like this and all types of demands, wish I bought it before I asked her now as it would have been alot easier and stress free otherwise.
Just really pissed me off about all the demands, I must be getting old or soft or both.
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13 August 2010, 11:45 PM
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Congrats mate. I am afraid you might have to listen to your other half on this. For you and i its all that goes with the ring but for them it's THE RING, and everything that goes with THE RING.
This is only going to happen once in your life so you might have to let her have her way on this.
This is only going to happen once in your life so you might have to let her have her way on this.
will earn you lots of favours
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I proposed to the mrs in New York and then went shopping for the ring, I was surprised when she picked something simple and relatively cheap! 
3hrs later it was ready andshe was a happy bunny! Not all women are greedy!
3hrs later it was ready andshe was a happy bunny! Not all women are greedy!
14 August 2010, 09:34 AM
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I got engaged in April and my lovely bf got the ring made to order - for me that meant a lot as it was individual to me....http://www.bluenile.co.uk
And many congratulations to you both!!!!
And many congratulations to you both!!!!
14 August 2010, 10:38 AM
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I got engaged to miy girlfriend on the Friday 6th August and we both went and looked for a ring together.
We had discussed the prospect of marrying only the week before and agreed it was a good idea. We then arranged to look for ring. Before going I went to my local Catholic Parish Priest (my family are catholic) and asked him about dates for next year. We popped for Sat Aug 6th next year so looking for a ring was very fitting exactly on year before we actually marry.
We trawled the shops but found nothing we were attracted to but ended up buying an Edwardian 18carat 2 diamond and sapphire ring in an antique jewellery store.
My girlfriend absolutely loves it. She doesnt ask for much off me so I was more than happy to indulge her.
She loves it and that is all that counts to me. Hopefully she will ony ever be engaged once in life and that is to me so she can have want she wants.
If she was a constant moan however things would be different. I wouldnt be with her let alone marrying her. I have had my fair share of moaney **** women.
We had discussed the prospect of marrying only the week before and agreed it was a good idea. We then arranged to look for ring. Before going I went to my local Catholic Parish Priest (my family are catholic) and asked him about dates for next year. We popped for Sat Aug 6th next year so looking for a ring was very fitting exactly on year before we actually marry.
We trawled the shops but found nothing we were attracted to but ended up buying an Edwardian 18carat 2 diamond and sapphire ring in an antique jewellery store.
My girlfriend absolutely loves it. She doesnt ask for much off me so I was more than happy to indulge her.
She loves it and that is all that counts to me. Hopefully she will ony ever be engaged once in life and that is to me so she can have want she wants.
If she was a constant moan however things would be different. I wouldnt be with her let alone marrying her. I have had my fair share of moaney **** women.
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I recently ask my gf to marry me, why you might ask and on most days I ask the same question...... The question is does it matter where the ring is bought from in your eyes ??
Dont know if im just becoming a soft lad or what but I thought it was all about what it represented and that I bought it with care and all that **** (prob wrong site for this question having thoght about it)
I told my partner were going shopping for this in town (Leeds) and I was told it can olny be bought from this or that shop and its gota look like this and all types of demands, wish I bought it before I asked her now as it would have been alot easier and stress free otherwise.
Just really pissed me off about all the demands, I must be getting old or soft or both.
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Dont know if im just becoming a soft lad or what but I thought it was all about what it represented and that I bought it with care and all that **** (prob wrong site for this question having thoght about it)
I told my partner were going shopping for this in town (Leeds) and I was told it can olny be bought from this or that shop and its gota look like this and all types of demands, wish I bought it before I asked her now as it would have been alot easier and stress free otherwise.
Just really pissed me off about all the demands, I must be getting old or soft or both.
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14 August 2010, 01:09 PM
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Thanks for opinions guys, Just to add i`m not been tight far from it she can have the ring she chooses but the whole reason I didnt propose with one is because of this big thing of where it comes from. I was going to ask a jeweler to make one for me to my exact spec but when I mentioned that(in passing talk) she said she didnt want one made as "u might be able to tell someone made it" When anything is made by hand rather than a machine its not going to be perfect and in my eyes thats the whole charm about having one taylor made but obviously I was wrong there. I also mention looking at older rings ie antique rings as in my eyes the have a lil more charm and mystery but NO she doesnt want that either. I`m not a great lover of generic machine made rings that god knows how many ppl have. I just wanted some thing a lil different that when she looked at it it made her eyes light up and think of US.
As much as it for her I also want to have a lil input into what she gets but it looks like that wont be happening.......
WOMEN.... no disrespect intended ladys lol
As much as it for her I also want to have a lil input into what she gets but it looks like that wont be happening.......
WOMEN.... no disrespect intended ladys lol
14 August 2010, 02:17 PM
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Well in my opinion if that how she thinks, get out now. Sounds like she is more interested in the material side of things than what getting married is all about.
If shes demanding the above at this stage, imagine how she is going to be later on.
If shes demanding the above at this stage, imagine how she is going to be later on.
14 August 2010, 02:31 PM
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I'd tell her to save that crap for the wedding. 
(not phrased exactly like that) You get the drift; Go to town on the wedding, but keep it simple and sentimental for the engagement.
If its pretty and she likes it why does it matter where it came from or how much it cost.
I think she needs a slap IMO. A custom one off ring is unique - nobody else in the world will have one quite the same.
A machine, or mass produced ring is just that. Like a shopping trolley - they are all the same. Not unique and cheaply made. Although being cheap maybe an advantage - as long as the retailer doesn't stitch you by charging RRP (like many chain/franchise jewelers Goldsmiths. etc)
But hey ho, if makes her happy, it makes you happy, right? If not, you need to think things over more.
(not phrased exactly like that) You get the drift; Go to town on the wedding, but keep it simple and sentimental for the engagement. If its pretty and she likes it why does it matter where it came from or how much it cost.
She said she didnt want one made as "u might be able to tell someone made it"
A machine, or mass produced ring is just that. Like a shopping trolley - they are all the same. Not unique and cheaply made. Although being cheap maybe an advantage - as long as the retailer doesn't stitch you by charging RRP (like many chain/franchise jewelers Goldsmiths. etc)
But hey ho, if makes her happy, it makes you happy, right? If not, you need to think things over more.
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14 August 2010, 02:34 PM
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i agree me my half got engeaged 6 years ago havent married yet we cant afford it but a peace papper mean nuthink but my ring cost 30 pound not about he money or diamonds in my eyes
14 August 2010, 03:21 PM
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There is a lot of junk sold on the highstreets at inflated prices.
If you are spending a reasonable amount, avoid being conned by buying a properly certified diamond (ie only GIA, AGSL). Most jewellers will try and fob you off about why they don't need to be certified or how "other" certs are just as good.
Some diamonds are cut for beauty, others are cut for weight. I would go for a beautiful diamond any day over a larger less beautiful one.
Educate yourself over on PriceScope and arm yourself with enough info that will have your local jewellers running a mile.
Congrats and best of luck
If you are spending a reasonable amount, avoid being conned by buying a properly certified diamond (ie only GIA, AGSL). Most jewellers will try and fob you off about why they don't need to be certified or how "other" certs are just as good.
Some diamonds are cut for beauty, others are cut for weight. I would go for a beautiful diamond any day over a larger less beautiful one.
Educate yourself over on PriceScope and arm yourself with enough info that will have your local jewellers running a mile.
Congrats and best of luck
14 August 2010, 03:22 PM
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There is a lot of junk sold on the highstreets at inflated prices.
If you are spending a reasonable amount, avoid being conned by buying a properly certified diamond (ie only GIA, AGSL). Most jewellers will try and fob you off about why they don't need to be certified or how "other" certs are just as good.
Some diamonds are cut for beauty, others are cut for weight. I would go for a beautiful diamond any day over a larger less beautiful one.
Educate yourself over on PriceScope and arm yourself with enough info that will have your local jewellers running a mile.
Congrats and best of luck
If you are spending a reasonable amount, avoid being conned by buying a properly certified diamond (ie only GIA, AGSL). Most jewellers will try and fob you off about why they don't need to be certified or how "other" certs are just as good.
Some diamonds are cut for beauty, others are cut for weight. I would go for a beautiful diamond any day over a larger less beautiful one.
Educate yourself over on PriceScope and arm yourself with enough info that will have your local jewellers running a mile.
Congrats and best of luck
14 August 2010, 06:27 PM
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I think that women are much more discerning when it comes to items of jewellery such as rings. I went along with my girlfriend and it was only when we had looked around for a while did I realise that I would have definately got it wrong had I gone and bought something on my own.
My girlfriend is too kind a person to say I got it wrong and would have hidden her disappointment so as not to disappoint me. I am so glad we went together as we got something we both like.
At the end of the day I agree that a ring is just a ring but if its meant to signifiy one of the most important events in life surely its worth ensuring that its a ring you both (or at least your girlfriend) likes.
The girl needs to feel proud to show it to her family and friends and for them to see you really do think the world of her and not palming her off. It doesnt need to cost the earth.
My girlfriend is too kind a person to say I got it wrong and would have hidden her disappointment so as not to disappoint me. I am so glad we went together as we got something we both like.
At the end of the day I agree that a ring is just a ring but if its meant to signifiy one of the most important events in life surely its worth ensuring that its a ring you both (or at least your girlfriend) likes.
The girl needs to feel proud to show it to her family and friends and for them to see you really do think the world of her and not palming her off. It doesnt need to cost the earth.
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Congrats! Depending on how much you're planning to spend, certificated diamonds may not be worth it. If you're going to spend £1k plus then maybe, otherwise just put up with her choices of shops and get ready with the credit card!
When I bought my wife's engagement ring we went shopping together and she was given a budget and made her own choice But then, she works for De Beers so I wouldn't have been much use anyway!
When I bought my wife's engagement ring we went shopping together and she was given a budget and made her own choice But then, she works for De Beers so I wouldn't have been much use anyway!
