scoobywrxwagon

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Prob so but he ho its not done any harm.... well I hope not lol

was a lil under the influence at the time lol

Pink_Floyd

Where's Gerald Ratner when you need him

p.rite.sh

Very true!

Hysteria1983

When Mr P proposed it was a ring that he, his mum and younger sister had all been to choose.
I had no idea about it, the ring was perfect!!

Not because it was yellow or White gold, or because it had a nice shiny diamond.

It was perfect because he bought it for me, and it meant he wanted to share the test of his life with me.

It's no cheap ring, it was from a shop in the jewelry quarter (Birmingham) and is a very simple design, and only a few were made.


It would be great if all people could be happy with the symbolic gesture, but some women do like their rings in your face and blingin'!!

We do plan on having our wedding rings hand crafted at this shop, and I wear my grandmothers gold wedding band on a chain on my neck, and that is where some of the gold for the rings will come from.

Honestly, if she has an idea of what she wants and you are already engaged then take her shopping and let her browse as much as she likes and you cab save your time and efforts. That way she will gets what she wants and then you can simply pay.

dpb

How testy has it been for him

James Neill

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Take trip to Hatton Garden and talk to people that know what they're doing.

http://www.hatton-garden.net/

Markus

Granted it's an engagement ring, but spending stupid amounts of money on a ring (isn't it meant to be something like two or three months wages?) is, well, a bit silly. It should be about what the ring means, ok with a little bit of style too, but not some bug off big bling type thing, or something simply so she can show off to her mates or others in a "look at what I've got" type of deal. I bet if you had got a nice ring from, oh, I don't know, Goldsmiths, and not told her where it came from, she'd probably have liked it. Of course she'd want to know where it came from, but simply don't tell her.

I knew the type of thing my wife would like, so had a bit of a look around. I had seen some rather nice rings, rather simple, but silly prices, $1500 - $5000, sorry but that is just stupid money to spend on a ring.

Due to various things I ending up proposing without having a ring at all, however about 30 mins later we popped out and picked out a ring, and it was exactly what I would have got her. It's nothing flashy, but she likes it. She did not want a wedding ring so it serves as her wedding ring too.

I will admit that it came from a store that is part of a chain, and not some unique little jewellers, but that isn't really a problem.

She did say if I'd had spend silly money on the ring she would have made me take it back, and she wasn't just say that. There are far more useful things one can spend silly money on than a ring.

dpb

My ole man makes these and other rings for a living ( his 2nd careeer ) - not a great living lol , retired now , but hes had stuff in various gallaries here and in the states,

If you want something genuine , you could possibly commission something direct from the student

Hysteria1983

Does he work for a paticular shop, or just sell custom pieces to anyone?

dpb

Hes worked in other peoples workshops in Maine , otherwise its been his own commissions ( workshop at home , and on his boat believe it or not ) .

His wife earns the real money tho , ( pyhsio ) .

and he does other stuff ,like volunteer fireman , building ramps for the disabled etc

ScoobyDoo555

I must be the only one who thinks that (a) the ring is to notify of YOUR intent to marry this girl. If my family(s) had got involved, I would have told them to F.O
(b) if there are conditions being put down about the style etc of ring, WALK AWAY. The ring is merely a trinket. It's the sentiment behind it.

Sadly, in today's society, the whole engagement/wedding is just a p1ssing contest, undertaken by generally vile, horrendous people.
FWIW, yes, I spent a considerable amount of money on my wedding (certainly not the month's salary on the ring!), and it was NOT a 5-figure wedding.
We didn't have a honeymoon as such (we bought a house instead).

Both of our outlooks were that the wedding day was a device to get *married* and 13 years later we're as strong as we ever were, if not more.

Materialistic sh1te is just that.

<rant over!! >

DCI Gene Hunt

Contractually the engagement ring remains your property and always on loan to the intended, so after a week, month or 13 years you can still demand that it's returned - unless you actually get married..... then it's all downhill from that moment onwards

Ant

+1

We spent £150 on our wedding bands, just simple gold bands. I spent the same on her engagement ring.

Not a tight **** but she's not materialistic, we got married abroad for about £3k including rings suits and dresses. Our friends spent £10k on their wedding and it was ****' and it rained.

Ps they're no going through a divorce

mattvortex

what aload of Bullsh*it! Ive been there pal, and getting married and all the Boring , thats any excitement in my lifes over, that goes with it is a complete waste of outdated time!! Dont do it unless your 110%!!

After finding out the hard way, that its not for me, i know now that id never go through all that crap again!!

1900- thats what people did

2010- the worlds changed and all that is very old fashioned now!


Each to there own and theres probably alot of "traditional guys" out there but personally would never go down that route again!!

Ant

Someones still bitter

mattvortex

Yep, bitter that i made the biggest mistake of my life in the first place!!

Water under the bridge now (10 years ago) but just a warning to the innocent!!

DCI Gene Hunt

We learn by our mistakes though so it's not a completely bad thing.

Leslie

I quite agree with you. Not down to her to dictate what it is like, it is a presentation from you to underline your proposal.

Not the way to start really!

Les

Markus

One could be seriously pessimistic and say if she's demanding about the ring, imagine what she'll be like about her "big day". We were pretty lucky. We got the reception place we wanted, but the future mother-in-law did the whole "I'd really like it if you got married in a church" thing to the wife, when what we were originally going to do was in a nice gazebo down by the water, still, you pick your battles, so we conceded. It was rather nice though.

P1Fanatic

Im planning on proposing to my girffriend of 3.5yrs when we go travelling in November. I will just buy a cheap temporary ring and we can go shopping together for a proper one when we get back to the UK. Mainly because a) we are away for a month so anything expensive may get lost or stolen and b) I wouldnt know where to start on what ring to buy as she doesnt wear much jewellery.

By the tone of the op's post, if that was me Id really be questioning if I was making the right decision. Harsh as that may sound if its prompted you to come on SN questioning it to all and sundry then something is not right.

Simon

Ant

Get a pic up so we can judge if She's worth the hassle

Agree with the above post, if you're not 100% don't do it.

Leslie

Maybe you could find a mutual friend who is prepared to straighten up her thinking in a tactful manner without letting on.

Les

scooby L

I proposed in Egypt, we then bought a 1ct diamond there.

On our return we had the stone fitted as a center piece to one of her other diamond rings (her mum's engagement ring so had sentimental value by the bucket load).

Best grand I ever spent...and she's very happy with the result... plus it's now worth £3.5k

Lydia72

Judging by the other replies I'm in the minority but if I was going to be wearing something every day for the rest of my life then I would like some say in what it looked like.

Hysteria1983

So you wouldn't want to be swept off your feet with a ring picked by your partner?

Ant

If you cant trust your partner to pick a ring you know that you'll like then maybe you're not ready to be engaged.

Hysteria1983

Quite true!

If you plan to marry someone, the man should at least know his partner well enough to pick a ring his partner would like.

And the woman should trust her partner enough for them to do it.

DCI Gene Hunt

That's true on many levels

Lydia72

No
I think it depends on the individual though. I have friends whose partners picked their rings and they were happy with them but know just as many women who wanted to choose their own.
Equally I wouldn't go out and buy something expensive for my OH (a watch for example) without finding out first which one he wanted.

Lydia72

It's not a trust issue. If I'd never had an engagement ring before then I wouldn't know myself what I wanted unless I tried them on first, so how could I expect my partner to know?

To me getting engaged/ married means that you make decisions together as a partnership
I can see that the man choosing a ring is romantic but it's not ideal for me.
If you know your partner well enough to know that she would like a surprise ring then that's different.