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Old 20 December 2006 | 08:23 AM
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Different user name of course but anyway, story goes like this my boyfriend was with a girl before me for a long time, they split up (no children involved) and haven't really spoken in years, he all of a sudden wants to get to know her again!? I feel really funny about it though, I don't know how I should feel!?

Am I being paranoid or should I be worried??

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Old 20 December 2006 | 08:27 AM
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Old 20 December 2006 | 08:28 AM
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Men only want to be friends with girls they want to ****.

...you've a good right to be worried.
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:28 AM
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I tell you what love, why don't you post some pics of you and her in your most sexy underwear, and we'll tell you if you have anything to be paranoid about.


DJ Vinyl Ritchie........ Can't be any fairer than that
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:34 AM
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Originally Posted by DJ Vinyl Ritchie
I tell you what love, why don't you post some pics of you and her in your most sexy underwear, and we'll tell you if you have anything to be paranoid about.


DJ Vinyl Ritchie........ Can't be any fairer than that
somehow I don't think thats going to happen, for one it would give my identy away!!..

Seriously though, I have no idea what he's thinking!? we've had 3 happy years together!?
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:38 AM
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Seriously though, I have no idea what he's thinking!? we've had 3 happy years together!?

He's thinking of ******** his Ex's
Put a stop to it straight away
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:39 AM
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How is your relationship at this present time?

sit him down and be honest and open without trying to sound like a bunny boiler. Ask him how would he like it if you wanted to be busom buddies with your ex-boyfriend (pick the most muscular biggus dickus ex you can think of)

and see how he likes it?

was he engaged to this girl? how serious was he with her?

To be honest if after a while he wants to be friends thats ok if its a female - but its a little dodgy if its an old flame.


There's no smoke without fire as the saying goes.
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:39 AM
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Originally Posted by needhelp
he all of a sudden wants to get to know her again!?
What are we talking about.

1. Wants you all to meet for drinks

2. Wants to meet her on his own for drinks

3. Not getting enough at home

If it's 2 or 3 dump him.

If it's 1 - punch her lights out on your first meeting .

I think you're right to be worried !
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:40 AM
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Seriously, dump the loser..... he want's to be friends with an Ex!! If my g/f said something like that I'd be showing her the door..... rapido like .... lifes too short to waste on losers like him....
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:41 AM
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Worry.


HTH
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:45 AM
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Originally Posted by DCI Gene Hunt
It's you isn't it

She wouldn't have to worry if it was me

Old 20 December 2006 | 08:47 AM
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Dooooh! The OTHER way round......

Old 20 December 2006 | 08:50 AM
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Originally Posted by DCI Gene Hunt
Dooooh! The OTHER way round......

Now I'm confused


That didn't take long today

In answer to the thread question, I have one ex I am friends with but his wife and mother of his 3 children still doesn't like me being his friend. It's her problem but I find it strange she is still worried also bearing in mind they have been married about 5 years and live in another country It's a genuine friendship that she can't ruin


But he still doesn't tell her when he phones me
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:51 AM
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Everyone says dump him but its not that easy after 3 years - surely you dont just chuck a relationship away like that you try and salvage it first (before dumping him)


Sit him down, tell him what you've told us, ask him outright if he wants to get back with her?

One thing i've learnt over the years is not to pussyfoot around and always trust your instincts!!
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:54 AM
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I don't know what to do, i feel worried about this whole thing but I know if I say to him he will just make it out that i'm being paranoid!?
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:54 AM
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Originally Posted by The Chief
Everyone says dump him but its not that easy after 3 years - surely you dont just chuck a relationship away like that you try and salvage it first (before dumping him)


Sit him down, tell him what you've told us, ask him outright if he wants to get back with her?

One thing i've learnt over the years is not to pussyfoot around and always trust your instincts!!

Agree If he loves you he will try to involve you and hope you both become friends

If he doesn't, dump him
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:55 AM
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Originally Posted by needhelp
I don't know what to do, i feel worried about this whole thing but I know if I say to him he will just make it out that i'm being paranoid!?

Just say you are really looking forward to meeting her and watch his face really closely
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:55 AM
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Any **** that hangs about as friends with their ex is trouble.
Old 20 December 2006 | 08:56 AM
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Originally Posted by lightning101
Any **** that hangs about as friends with their ex is trouble.

That is so not true I only want to sleep with one of my ex's

Old 20 December 2006 | 09:05 AM
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It sounds strange because theyve had no contact for 3 years now all of a sudden this, tbh I see no reason why someone cant stay friends with an ex, afterall you probably would have shared all your thoughts and life with that person for a decent period of time etc, theres not always cause to fall out and be nasty to an ex.

Id speak to him if I was you. No point asking us because we simply dont know.
Old 20 December 2006 | 09:10 AM
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Ok, for those that are saying just dump him, its not that easy, I've been with him for 3 years and I love him very much. He wasn't engaged to her and he broke it off with her and the amount of stories he's told about her being a nutter and a complete bitch I wouldn't have thought he would have wanted to speak to her again!? They were together for about 5 years..
Old 20 December 2006 | 09:11 AM
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Just tell him how you feel and see what he says. Lifes too short for game playing and second guessing You will also drive yourself mental if you don't speak to him straight.
Old 20 December 2006 | 09:15 AM
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Old 20 December 2006 | 09:16 AM
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Old 20 December 2006 | 09:17 AM
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Old 20 December 2006 | 09:18 AM
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i'm probably just being paranoid, I'll talk to him about it..

Thanks
Old 20 December 2006 | 09:21 AM
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But on the other hand he is hardly going to be honest and say he just fancys a christmas **** is he?
Old 20 December 2006 | 09:23 AM
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Old 20 December 2006 | 09:26 AM
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Originally Posted by davegtt
But on the other hand he is hardly going to be honest and say he just fancys a christmas **** is he?
No i don't think he will..

It is hard to believe him sometimes because he's lied to me in the past about stuff!


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