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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 09:10 AM
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Probably That's the problem with open forums, speaking your mind n all that.
You and others are just thinking out loud, trying to understand - shows that people care, I'd say.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 09:20 AM
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Shocking news, absolutely stunned.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 11:02 AM
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At least he didnt go down the shotgun route , that would have been very anti-social
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 11:12 AM
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Originally Posted by richiewong
The majority of the comments in this thread are laughable and the opinions of people without a bloody clue, I just pray no one suffers any sort of break down at any point within their 'perfect lives.'

One in four people within the UK will suffer from some type of mental health issue at some point within their life!

R.I.P Gary
Well sadi RW

This thread has been ruined by the bickering, start another thread on the subject, it's an argument that no side will win.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 11:26 AM
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Originally Posted by paulr
I hate threads like this, they are the worst thing the internet has brought us. People should just keep their opinions to themselves.
Spot on!

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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 11:31 AM
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Originally Posted by LEO-RS
Les, this is an Internet discussion forum where speculation is rife.

I am not trying to prove anything, just think of something logical that would drive someone to suicide. The most obvious explanation would be severe depression however this was not apparent publically. Getting on great in the Wales manager position, wife, 2 kiddies and assumptions of being financially sound.

It's the Internet, these rumours are already rife on Facebook and the likes. I guess it's just how people react into making sense of things.

None of our business of course but then neither is 90% of the stuff we read in the media.
Fair enoiugh to want to state an opinion, but without any inside information it is unfair and even dangerous to speculate in such a case especially when it involves comment on a person's personal life which might be less than complimentary. So far no one has any idea what drove him to suicide.

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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 11:40 AM
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Originally Posted by Leslie
Fair enoiugh to want to state an opinion, but without any inside information it is unfair and even dangerous to speculate in such a case especially when it involves comment on a person's personal life which might be less than complimentary. So far no one has any idea what drove him to suicide.

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It doesn't change the fact Les that he believed that taking his own life was an option.
I just can't fathom it.
If you are on your own with no dependants or loved ones, then fine.

But, he had a family.
This WILL destroy them.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 12:18 PM
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Originally Posted by Gear Head
It doesn't change the fact Les that he believed that taking his own life was an option.
I just can't fathom it.
If you are on your own with no dependants or loved ones, then fine.

But, he had a family.
This WILL destroy them.
Oh I agree with you. I don't think suicide is the right thing.especially when there are others such as immediate family involved.

My point was all about speculating on his reasons for doing it.

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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 12:47 PM
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Originally Posted by The Rig
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its weird tho, you dont (hear about anyway) of homeless people, prostitutes (forced into it ones) etc commiting suiced,its always well off people who lose it all or rich period.

even in local rags you hardly read about the ones i mention topping themselves
That's because their lives are not as important as people who've kicked a ball about and made some cash.

That is over simplifying it but that's the truth of it really.

I found a chap hanging in a tree once. He'd done it with a tie and stood on a stool. He could have actually stood up it was so low but the tie was silk and had pulled very very tight.

Called the cops and waited on them arriving and warned people not to let kids come past.

He'd done it because his mrs had refused to let him see his daughter. Not a single news story about it.

No idea what issues Gary had, he's actually outside the 'normal' suicide range. It tends to be blokes between 18 and 35 and hanging is the normal way of going. The theory is, it is because blokes are less likely to ask someone for help when they find themselves getting depressed about something.

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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 01:34 PM
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Originally Posted by JTaylor
David Walliams, Ruby Wax, Stephen Fry, Lenny Henry, Tony Hancock (suicide, 44), Freddie Starr etc....smiling depression. I'm not saying this was Speed's condition, just countering your point.
So what are you trying to say?
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 01:48 PM
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Originally Posted by fivetide
hanging is the normal way of going.
Why's that?

I would have thought there there are much easier ways of going than choking to death.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Alg
Ok that's that done.

Can we get back to speculating now?
Seems that there is a consensus out there that he was gay, and was about to be "uncovered" by the media.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 01:52 PM
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Originally Posted by urban
Why's that?

I would have thought there there are much easier ways of going than choking to death.
I don't know. We did some work for the 'See Me' Campaign www.seemescotland.org

And those were the stats.

Of course people do jump of bridges etc too but young men and hanging is the most common.

At risk of being blasted, the really selfish ones are the ones that jump in front of a train etc because then you've essentially forced soemone to kill you and they might not find that easy to deal with. The memory of doing it stays with them for the rest of their lives.

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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 01:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Leslie
Oh I agree with you. I don't think suicide is the right thing.especially when there are others such as immediate family involved.

My point was all about speculating on his reasons for doing it.

Les
His reasoning is now irrelevant.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 02:00 PM
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I've been on a train that had someone jump in front of it off a bridge. There was no sympathy from any passengers, in fact people were even making jokes about anyone want a pair of shoes etc. It was during the World Cup a couple of yeas ago and people just wanted to get home to watch the footie. They didn't give a toss about the person killed as in their view they were selfish to involve so many other people, worst of all the driver of the train.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 02:02 PM
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Id just move
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted by JTaylor
There's been a spate of hangings near my village in Bridgend, South Wales. It got to the point where if you walked into Halfords for a tow-rope they'd ask for your collar size.
I know I shouldn't but.....

I think in these modern times, the pressure just gets to people.
There is nowhere to hide in this digital age. Everything can be accounted for.

I am not saying he did, but I wouldn't be surprised if he cheated on this mrs or something similar.

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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 02:08 PM
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Originally Posted by Gear Head
I know I shouldn't but.....
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 02:08 PM
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Originally Posted by Gear Head
I know I shouldn't but.....
I deleted that because I thought in hindsight it was inappropriate. Ah well.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 02:12 PM
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Originally Posted by dpb
Id just move
Trains are on rails, Duncan, it's not that simple.
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 02:17 PM
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Originally Posted by fivetide
the really selfish ones are the ones that jump in front of a train etc

I kind of saw a person doing that about 20 years ago.
Now, I didn't see all of the splatter, but I certainly heard it
I seen some of the mess sadly.

I suspect the train drivers are completely traumatised as a result
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 09:20 PM
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Originally Posted by bioforger
It is selfish. If you are that manically depressive to the point where you have a split personality and have no control, then you go and seek medical help/therapy.
I can't believe nobody ever thought of this before
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Old Nov 28, 2011 | 09:32 PM
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Rip

People don't realise how bad depression can get, unless you see it 1st hand
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Old Nov 29, 2011 | 12:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Gear Head
His reasoning is now irrelevant.
Yes as far as he is concerned naturally.

I am surprised that you have made a guess above nevertheless.

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Old Nov 29, 2011 | 06:38 PM
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I have heard rumors about a Sun story that was about to be released about him.

I hope its not true

RIP to great player.
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Old Nov 29, 2011 | 08:30 PM
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Very unfortunate for his family and now his children are without a farther.

There is no situation that is bad enough to deprive your own children of the benefit of your love and life experience with support and guidance, not much of an example, and his actions cancel out all his previous achievments, as sadly this is all he will be remembered for now.

Very very sad for his children.

And by the sounds of the direction of the speculation, it was not depression but the fear of shame that led him to this, if that turns out to be the case, then he was indeed a coward, and very selfish.

I really do hope thats not true for the sake of his family.

RIP.
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Old Nov 30, 2011 | 08:40 AM
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If it is true, then the gutter press have effectively killed him. I hope that person sleeps well at night.
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Old Nov 30, 2011 | 11:19 AM
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Originally Posted by Clarebabes
If it is true, then the gutter press have effectively killed him. I hope that person sleeps well at night.
The same gutter press that are running page after page in tributes, there is no shame for these people.

I see the Sun interviewed one of Speed's best mates yesterday, Shearer, it did make me think if they had something on Speed would they now bother to run it knowing how well thought of Gary Speed was ? They know the public clamour for this type of journalism but it could back fire massively.
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Old Nov 30, 2011 | 07:37 PM
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my sources tell me that the Sun was indeed given a story regarding Gary's sexuality

it was "given" to the Sun by the Local Paper
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Old Dec 1, 2011 | 12:11 PM
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The same stories have been around for years regarding Shearer, oddly enough.
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