Do I have the legal right ?
18 January 2008, 11:04 PM
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It certainly is mate -- it means that life isn't all dark and brings hope to any of us who are in this situation to know there is better out there. Good luck to you mate in your endeavours I really hope it all works out for you in the way that you want. I see hard choices and many arguments for me in future over things like pick up and collect but I won't be treated like a doormat even though I know she will play the kid-card (using them against me -- bad dad won't do what I want). A vile, spiteful, shrew of a woman I hope to get rid of soonest so I can get on with my life.
18 January 2008, 11:10 PM
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It certainly is mate -- it means that life isn't all dark and brings hope to any of us who are in this situation to know there is better out there. Good luck to you mate in your endeavours I really hope it all works out for you in the way that you want. I see hard choices and many arguments for me in future over things like pick up and collect but I won't be treated like a doormat even though I know she will play the kid-card (using them against me -- bad dad won't do what I want). A vile, spiteful, shrew of a woman I hope to get rid of soonest so I can get on with my life.
Not all women are like that. Good luck
18 January 2008, 11:14 PM
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It certainly is mate -- it means that life isn't all dark and brings hope to any of us who are in this situation to know there is better out there. Good luck to you mate in your endeavours I really hope it all works out for you in the way that you want. I see hard choices and many arguments for me in future over things like pick up and collect but I won't be treated like a doormat even though I know she will play the kid-card (using them against me -- bad dad won't do what I want). A vile, spiteful, shrew of a woman I hope to get rid of soonest so I can get on with my life.
18 January 2008, 11:17 PM
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As for the point of being taxi, the judge in my case actually put it in my court order that I would do the picking up and dropping off. So if you don't have it in a court order and if you queried in court the likelyhood is the judge would make you do it anyway as I think its the norm.
18 January 2008, 11:21 PM
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fair point and I dont mind. For the last 2 1/2 years I have dutifully picked them up every wednesday night on my way home from work and taken them to school the next day. then come every other friday, I pick them up again and deliver them back on sunday. She is only about 5 miles away in the same town, so its not the distance that is the issue here, its the fact that she just wont bloody do anything.
18 January 2008, 11:22 PM
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It certainly is mate -- it means that life isn't all dark and brings hope to any of us who are in this situation to know there is better out there. Good luck to you mate in your endeavours I really hope it all works out for you in the way that you want. I see hard choices and many arguments for me in future over things like pick up and collect but I won't be treated like a doormat even though I know she will play the kid-card (using them against me -- bad dad won't do what I want). A vile, spiteful, shrew of a woman I hope to get rid of soonest so I can get on with my life.
I try and keep my distance from the ex but unfortunately I know that for the rest of my life to some extent, that woman is going to be part of my life purely down to the shared thing we have, the kids
But if anything is shown , then the fact that tons of people are in the same boat and what distinguishes us from the hundreds of absent parents, is that we try and do right, even though the other half may make life difficult.
Oh that and a large bosom helps
18 January 2008, 11:22 PM
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I know Sal and I appreciate it. Some of the people I've met on here have been just great and I really appreciate their support and friendship...given all the crap (not wanting to go off topic) recently about the infraction system and the discussions that have gone on, I think ppl might have lost sight of the fact of just how good this forum is and the bonds people make because of it.
18 January 2008, 11:22 PM
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fair point and I dont mind. For the last 2 1/2 years I have dutifully picked them up every wednesday night on my way home from work and taken them to school the next day. then come every other friday, I pick them up again and deliver them back on sunday. She is only about 5 miles away in the same town, so its not the distance that is the issue here, its the fact that she just wont bloody do anything.
18 January 2008, 11:26 PM
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Well hopefully this thread and many others will help you in your endeavours
I try and keep my distance from the ex but unfortunately I know that for the rest of my life to some extent, that woman is going to be part of my life purely down to the shared thing we have, the kids
But if anything is shown , then the fact that tons of people are in the same boat and what distinguishes us from the hundreds of absent parents, is that we try and do right, even though the other half may make life difficult.
Oh that and a large bosom helps
I try and keep my distance from the ex but unfortunately I know that for the rest of my life to some extent, that woman is going to be part of my life purely down to the shared thing we have, the kids
But if anything is shown , then the fact that tons of people are in the same boat and what distinguishes us from the hundreds of absent parents, is that we try and do right, even though the other half may make life difficult.
Oh that and a large bosom helps
Do you know if Spoon's other half has a sister?
18 January 2008, 11:26 PM
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Sorry to say this Swiss but surely SHE is doing all the running around for the kids at all other times. Maybe its good for her to have someone else help out every now and then. Just trying to see it from the other side. Caring for them and running them around 24/7 is tiring.
I dont have an issue with that at all. Why would I ?
But dont forget she chose the divorce in the first place, she chose for this situation to happen. also I dont like it when she uses the fact that if I dont pick them up, I dont get to see them. That is just plain wrong.
18 January 2008, 11:30 PM
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That's blackmail and a good reason to get a lawyer involved IMHO. Sorry, but sometimes war is war (and given what I've already written I'm hardly in the best state of mind to be conciliatory).
18 January 2008, 11:30 PM
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18 January 2008, 11:30 PM
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It definitely does Swiss. I'm keeping my distance from my soon-to-be-ex even though we have to share the same living space -- less talk means less insults thrown my way. And yes, I'm going to have to live with the fact that I will have to see her when we have the kids involved... I love them dearly.
Do you know if Spoon has a sister?
Do you know if Spoon has a sister?
, but his missus is apparently a twin 
(there is god somewhere mate
)I admire your attitude
. Its the best way, keep it civil and try not to let onto the kids what an evil, twisted person their mum is.(or what you think of her) I reserve those insults and feelings to be expressed when I have dropped them off and can vent my anger in the comfort of my own car
P.s I have also advised her to get a carpenter to look at her doorframe as I dont think it can stand any more slams
18 January 2008, 11:32 PM
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Joking aside, I really feel for you guys. It must be awful, having to pay to look after your kids and having a real witch of an ex itching to get her hands on whatever she can.
Good luck to you all
Good luck to you all
18 January 2008, 11:33 PM
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You get your eyes opened sometimes by other people's circumstances. SOme of the stories I hear makes me give thanks for my situation, other times I feel I am a mug. It all levels out in the end I hope
18 January 2008, 11:37 PM
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no dont worry, it is a fair point and one that she has made to me on many an occasion . I completely understand that. She takes them to school every other day (well not all the time) and picks them up, weekends etc.
I dont have an issue with that at all. Why would I ?
But dont forget she chose the divorce in the first place, she chose for this situation to happen. also I dont like it when she uses the fact that if I dont pick them up, I dont get to see them. That is just plain wrong.
I dont have an issue with that at all. Why would I ?
But dont forget she chose the divorce in the first place, she chose for this situation to happen. also I dont like it when she uses the fact that if I dont pick them up, I dont get to see them. That is just plain wrong.
Whoever 'chose' the divorce also has to be let go of to be able to move on........
When I reach that point of reasonableness I will let you know! (You can probably tell i did NOT chose my situation!)
18 January 2008, 11:38 PM
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Thanks Leslie, I know nice women exist (otherwise marriages would all fail) -- next time the big head will rule the little head
18 January 2008, 11:39 PM
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18 January 2008, 11:42 PM
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Lesley or Lee if you please, female
18 January 2008, 11:48 PM
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18 January 2008, 11:49 PM
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Right moaning bitch = no boyfriend
Just moody cow = boyfriend (suffering )
My situation is made even more complicated as my g/f has a little daughter as well, so I try and juggle all 3 of them at the same time and keep everyone happy..no mean feat I can tell you. but I try
18 January 2008, 11:52 PM
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