She had unwaivering faith and I think that pulled her through, she was very accepting that her time was up, she never gave us an indication of just how sick she really was.

My dad said she went with a smile on her face.

The traumatic thing was when my mum arrived, the paramedics had arrived and due to protocol they are to keep trying to resucitate until a doctor declares the death. They were working on her for 40 minutes and my mum was distraught.

I am flying back to pay my respects to her, I was going to call her last week but never did....,,,I also want to be there for my mum, she is taking this very badly.

Thanks for the thoughts.......

Although I haven't passed on my thoughts in this thread since I last posted, it doesn't mean that I haven't been thinking of all of you fighting through and this thread is a gem for support and friendship.

All the best to all of you.

Steve, I hope that everything went well for the funeral and your grandfather rests in peace, my consolences to you and your family also.

 

So sorry to hear this news, my love and thoughts go out to you and your family.

 

"She'd cleaned the house, done all the washing up and laundry as if she knew it was her time. She was sitting on the couch with a crucifix and lit candle by her side."

That's incredibly moving but I think the old folk DO know when they are ready, so please take the greatest comfort from that.

My Dad told me a few day before he died that he had loved my Mum who died a few years prior and he was sure he would see her again. He told me he had enjoyed being a Dad and a Grandad but he was ready to go now . . . and so he did, waking at midnight to ask the nurse for a glass of water which he drank as though readying himself for the journey and then just slipped away.

So don't forget to laugh as well as cry: we did and Dad's funeral was a really good family and friends day that we all remember with the feeling of a life well lived and properly celebrated.

God bless.

 

Sincerest condolences Michelle.

 

My Mum starts her Radio on Monday, fingers crossed for an easy time. All over Christmas and New Year and she loves that She is still positive, which is a good thing,My nephew and Godson, not so good. 7 years old and fighting lueakemia(sp), poor little thing. He is really poorly, and wondering, why him.Its awful, I have no idea what to say.
Am finding this really hard and have no idea how to deal with it. Good thing I have friends who have big ears and are prepared to listen. You know who you are
Good luck to all fighting this ghastly illness xx

 

Sorry I haven`t posted for a while.

Nige, great news.

Michelle, please accept my sincere condolences on your sad loss.

It is hard to know what to write when there are so many mixed emotions on this thread. If you can grasp what I am trying to say.

I guess I am one of the lucky ones, but I shall still continue to support you all. It may return, but I have learnt to deal with it now. Que sera sera.

Leslie (84), the best thing that you can do to help. Is by being there and listening. Stay strong for them. I can understand that this maybe difficult for you.

Thinking Of You All

Ant

 

I hope no one will take offence at a little humour on this thread but Leslie talking about an "embarrassing camera check up" reminded me of a radiologist friend who had to perform some kind of examination on a very attractive young lady which involved inserting a plug in her bottom so he could literally blow her up a bit with an inert gas in order to be able to do the examination.

They had just taken delivery of a brand new, multi-million pound machine.

Everything was going well with the aforementioned young lady lying on her front while they inflated her innards.

Unfortunately the "bung" in her botty suddenly let go and, due no doubt to her nervousness about the whole exercise, the following fountain of diarrhea covered my chum and his new piece of kit!

The young lady was extremely embarrassed and, as my friend said later, he'd never realised until that day that when you blush your bottom turns pink as well!

Anyway, I hope no one is offended by this little levity.

Indeed for many people suffering serious illness, humour is a very good way of getting through the trials and tribulations.

 

My Mum is getting by, but my Godson, well, a different story. It's horrible. No doubt about it. Its awful for those experiencing it and for those trying to support it. its a case of what to do for the best. I have been talking to good friends, which has been a Godsend for me but no doubt a nightmare for them.
I feel terrible, relying on friends ears all the time, but luckily, they are and have been there.
My Mum will, I hope get through this and my Godson, poor lamb, its not looking good.
Again, all my best to all fighting this terrible illness

 

Yes that must have been a bit of an occasion that one. Luckily when they do the examination I had they give you a laxative to beat all others and you just could not produce anything after that!

Lesley,

I do hope your mum and your Godson will come through alright. I know how you must be feeling, she sound very brave to me. It is amazing what they can do these days, my friend was give 2 months about a year ago but they have managed to reduce the tumours to a very small size and we are hoping that the second chemo he has just finished will have knocked it for six.

The important thing to remember is that there is always hope. I just want to see it all come good for them both and you.

Les

 

It doesn't seem fair that Little Ones suffer serious illness too. It makes it very hard to believe that God exists, yet I suspect that when we're up against it, we all pray anyway.

I wish I could find comforting words for you, but like others on this thread, they can fail us when we most need them so please accept this electronic hug from a complete stranger who's thinking of you and your Godson.

 

Accepted, He isn't doing too bad, but.................its hit and miss. All we can do is hope. Brave kid

Thanks, Les. Tower of strength as usual

 

Hey Lesley,,

Give your mum a big hug from me - my dad had radio so I have seen first hand what it is like.. A gentle christmas with lots of TLC Give her loads of 'Simple' bath stuff which she can pamper herself with, and which wont irritate the radiotherapy area which can be quite sore.

I really hope your godson wins his fight - what a brave little chap. When it is someone so young, it can be even more distressing as they are so little... and you feel so helpless..
Give me a shout if you need to chat
xx

 

Lesley,

My friend rang up after his latest scan to say thet his tumours have been stabilised and he will not have any more chemo for 3 months. It shows that the chemo is doing the job and that there is always hope.

Hope you get some good news too.

Les

 

1 yr tomorrow

 

i knew your anniversary was coming up...

i passed my year milestone in August

this is the worst time for me, Christmas. i feel really sad atm as i am missing mum more now than i have done.

hope its not too bad dynamix, thinking of you


and good luck to everyone else on the thread who is going through difficult times
sara

 

A bottle of wine last night certainly seemed to help

 

just make sure you dont go out wearing your beer goggles

 

 

Hi all,

Posted earlier in the thread, a close relation of mine has been fighting cancer for 10 months.

She's actually my wife's Aunty but lives close by and both her Husband and Son work in the same line of work as myself and they are both Subaru owners. So as you can imagine we have always been close.

Carol has been brave and positive throughout her battle. A week ago she was taken into the Hospice and even upto two days ago she was able to laugh with us and even joking that I should give my Subaru coat to her husband and remembering the V6 4X4 Sierra I bought off them in the early 90's. My wife and myself had a hug and kiss from her which I'll always remember.
Today she's not really with it and we all know it's just a matter of time and that time is now very short.

My Wife's very upset and so am I. Her Husband has been solid all this time and I really feel for him having to go home alone. As well as her son she has a Daughter and a very young Grand Daughter who will not get to know what a wonderfull grandmother she had.

My Prayers at midnight tonight will be for Carol, her loving family and all those and their families who are fighting with or dealing with the loss of a loved one from this terrible disease.

Lee

 

Carol managed to hang on for Christmas day but passed away 1am Boxing Day morning.

She was brave and cheerfull right upto the end and she will be sadly missed by us all.

Lee

 

Lee.. was going to post that I know how you felt about her going scatty whilst in the hospice, same thing happened to my Bro In Law last year, then I read the next post.

such a shame,
thoughts go out to those close.

John

 

Sorry to hear this Lee. The sooner they find a cure, the better. My wife lost her Nana last year, due to something else. But very hard to stomach all the same.

IT comes to us all, but this way is by far the cruellest.

My sincere thoughts go out to everyone fighting this in one way or another.

Ant

 

I haven't read all of this thread and I hope that you all, as the family you so clearly are, don't mind a newbie like me putting my two pennies in.

I lost my dad just over four years ago to a very rare form of cancer-Carcinoid syndrome. He was originally given less than 12 months to live, but with a positive mind and sheer dogged, stubborn determination, lived for over four years after receiving his terminal diagnosis.

He too ended up in a hospice for the last week of his life, which he desparately didn;t want and he also became very weak and disorientated....but the one thing that he didn't lose was his sense of humour!

The day he died, all of his immediate family (wife, kids, kids-in-law, siblings, aunts and best friends) were with him. It was a difficult day and we got through it by telling our favourite stories of his funny episodes and reminding ourselves what a joker he was - people must have thought we were insensitive as his room was full of laughter. To this day, I think it made it easier for him to let go (he really didn't want to) because he knew we'd be ok.

Not a day goes by when I don't think about him and I still miss him so so much. BUT whilst it doesn't really get easier over time, I feel less guilty about living and enjoying my life. Life isn't the same, it's very different, but I know he'd be proud.

My thoughts and prayers are with anyone (patient or family) living this experience now. You all have a great family here on SN who will help you make it through.

 

Thanks for that oustanding post Ritchie. I know just how you feel about your dad from my own experience.

Yes you are right about the SN family too.

Les

 

Totally agree Les

 

Thought it would be appropriate for all those who read and/or been involved in this thread to be informed of the passing of Bug Eyed Peas (BEP). A thread has been set up for everyone to leave their condolences to his wife and son. See link below.

https://www.scoobynet.com/non-scooby...esday-rip.html

 

Its so scary the things that can take us from this life.

My heart goes out to Andy's family.

Me being 28 & with two sons would not like them going through what Andys family are going through right now.

RIP

 

I second that.

Les

 

It feels weird that we will never see him posting on here again after him offering so much support on here and we didnt really know how ill he really was. Im really gutted to hear about this

RIP Ant you will be missed

Steph xx

 

Sorry folks, needs must

I just wanted to see when my Mum had her op and sure enough, virtually a year ago.

She has had to have another mammogram, which was inconclusive, whatever that means and is in again on Friday for another one.

She has an infection that has failed to clear up and they are concerned there is something there, but they don't know what A mass is showing but blurred????? Lisa, can you be of any help, re your Mam ???

Fingers crossed for her please and thanks to my msn pal who has been a tower of strength these last couple of days xx Oh and Sal, xo Sorry to bore the knickers off you, but I am a tad worried