Anyone had stress or any form of counselling?
11 September 2010, 05:14 PM
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Anyone had stress or any form of counselling?
And does it actually work?
Not really marriage counselling, but more stress, grief etc.
Have put myself down for some as I have realised im in a bad place right now, but just wondered if I'm wasting my time.
Not really marriage counselling, but more stress, grief etc.
Have put myself down for some as I have realised im in a bad place right now, but just wondered if I'm wasting my time.
11 September 2010, 05:22 PM
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Lol cheers dude, we are talking about getting away for a few long weekends, so I might just take you up on that.
Poor sod, take a break soon dude, or download the game I sent you. Causing others pain is great therapy.
Poor sod, take a break soon dude, or download the game I sent you. Causing others pain is great therapy.
11 September 2010, 05:22 PM
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People need to man the **** up.... and if you have a meltdown make it "spectacular" all this going to see a specialist... well you may as well get a boob job and be done with it.
DCI - More stressed than I care to think, on a meltdown - hmmm most likely... will it be SPECTACULAR, definitely...
will I sit in some chair talking to some random twonk about the colour blue.. certainly not.
DCI - More stressed than I care to think, on a meltdown - hmmm most likely... will it be SPECTACULAR, definitely...
will I sit in some chair talking to some random twonk about the colour blue.. certainly not.
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People need to man the **** up.... and if you have a meltdown make it "spectacular" all this going to see a specialist... well you may as well get a boob job and be done with it.
DCI - More stressed than I care to think, on a meltdown - hmmm most likely... will it be SPECTACULAR, definitely... will I sit in some chair talking to some random twonk about the colour blue.. certainly not.
DCI - More stressed than I care to think, on a meltdown - hmmm most likely... will it be SPECTACULAR, definitely...
will I sit in some chair talking to some random twonk about the colour blue.. certainly not.
11 September 2010, 05:25 PM
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People need to man the **** up.... and if you have a meltdown make it "spectacular" all this going to see a specialist... well you may as well get a boob job and be done with it.
DCI - More stressed than I care to think, on a meltdown - hmmm most likely... will it be SPECTACULAR, definitely... will I sit in some chair talking to some random twonk about the colour blue.. certainly not.
DCI - More stressed than I care to think, on a meltdown - hmmm most likely... will it be SPECTACULAR, definitely...
will I sit in some chair talking to some random twonk about the colour blue.. certainly not.Do i think sitting and talking to a counsellor helps? No idea, hence I'm asking if it's worked for anyone. Right now I will try anything to get back on track, including a boob job lol.
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11 September 2010, 05:26 PM
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Serious reply - never had counselling but if you feel that your in a bind I would give it a shot. Try every (safe) avenue IMO.
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11 September 2010, 05:27 PM
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Have a chat with you GP usually they have 'guides' (books/handouts) about this sort of thing.
Basic rule of thumb;
You need some stress in your life the important thing is to know how much is enough and remember there are things you can do something about - deal with those. Things that are out of your control are best not worried or stressed about acknowledge them do not ignore them but do not let them bend you out of shape worry about stuff you cannot do anything about.
Good luck
Basic rule of thumb;
You need some stress in your life the important thing is to know how much is enough and remember there are things you can do something about - deal with those. Things that are out of your control are best not worried or stressed about acknowledge them do not ignore them but do not let them bend you out of shape worry about stuff you cannot do anything about.
Good luck
11 September 2010, 05:40 PM
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Have a chat with you GP usually they have 'guides' (books/handouts) about this sort of thing.
Basic rule of thumb;
You need some stress in your life the important thing is to know how much is enough and remember there are things you can do something about - deal with those. Things that are out of your control are best not worried or stressed about acknowledge them do not ignore them but do not let them bend you out of shape worry about stuff you cannot do anything about.
Good luck
Basic rule of thumb;
You need some stress in your life the important thing is to know how much is enough and remember there are things you can do something about - deal with those. Things that are out of your control are best not worried or stressed about acknowledge them do not ignore them but do not let them bend you out of shape worry about stuff you cannot do anything about.
Good luck
Cancer, losing friends in accidents, poor health are some of the things all adding up. Easier to imagine ignoring that actually doing.
Ok, ok no pressure eh lol
Certainly never make a final decision based on the internet anyway lol
11 September 2010, 06:22 PM
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11 September 2010, 07:01 PM
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I prescribe a holiday by the sea with fast jets and awesome empty roads 
PS. Better make it quick before they close the base down
Oh and I had counselling once, I only lasted about two sessions, there was something about the way the nice lady spoke in an oh-so-gentle-yes-I-really-do-understand way with her head cocked theatrically to one side whilst her arms were folded in a defensive pose across her nicely-knit cardi that made me want to laugh my head off. She couldn't get to the root of my 'issues' either, despite me giving her some massive clues and trying to lead her down the path to ask me about them. It was too funny
BTW, I'm not saying all counsellors are like this AT ALL, I guess I was either a) unlucky or b) TOO mental
Anyway, after all you've been going through it's only natural that it will have an impact on your head. I think you're a good enough self-analyst to sort it out yourself but that talking to someone independent may be all you need to find some stress relief. I am currently available for such purposes plus it's well cool up here and I'm not talking about the weather
Dr Sal. MD
PS. Better make it quick before they close the base down
Oh and I had counselling once, I only lasted about two sessions, there was something about the way the nice lady spoke in an oh-so-gentle-yes-I-really-do-understand way with her head cocked theatrically to one side whilst her arms were folded in a defensive pose across her nicely-knit cardi that made me want to laugh my head off. She couldn't get to the root of my 'issues' either, despite me giving her some massive clues and trying to lead her down the path to ask me about them. It was too funny
BTW, I'm not saying all counsellors are like this AT ALL, I guess I was either a) unlucky or b) TOO mental
Anyway, after all you've been going through it's only natural that it will have an impact on your head. I think you're a good enough self-analyst to sort it out yourself but that talking to someone independent may be all you need to find some stress relief. I am currently available for such purposes plus it's well cool up here and I'm not talking about the weather
Dr Sal. MD
11 September 2010, 07:16 PM
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Hey Snazy, it's always worth a try. Sometimes it helps to talk through these things with somebody who isn't connected to the issues. Never had it myself (though my wife has been telling me for years I've got 'issues')
Btw, you always cheer me up with jokes via BB messenger mate, so I wish you all the best
)Btw, you always cheer me up with jokes via BB messenger mate, so I wish you all the best
11 September 2010, 07:54 PM
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Hey Snaz, If YOU think its worth talking to someone then YOU go for it. If you think ignoring the warning could do you damage then do something about it. One of my friends went about ignoring the same signs and eventually his brother had to section him.
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11 September 2010, 08:05 PM
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I asked my Doc about some sort of treatment for depression as I get tipped over the edge rather easily which leads me to becoming physically ill. He told me to man up and get some exercise.
At the moment, i'm very up and down due a few things but haven't had the time to deal with it.
As some have said Michael if you think it will help, definitely do it! Least with a qwack you can say what you think and feel without offending or being regretful about it which can happen if you confide in friends or family.
At the moment, i'm very up and down due a few things but haven't had the time to deal with it.As some have said Michael if you think it will help, definitely do it! Least with a qwack you can say what you think and feel without offending or being regretful about it which can happen if you confide in friends or family.
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Everything you have had going on in your life Snazy, I am not surprised you are feeling as you are.
Go for it, it certainly won't do you any harm. Good luck
11 September 2010, 08:43 PM
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The counselling is supplied by the work medical plan, will get the gp involved if it becomes a proper stress issue, but the company doctor is able to help there too.
Cancer, losing friends in accidents, poor health are some of the things all adding up. Easier to imagine ignoring that actually doing.
Cancer, losing friends in accidents, poor health are some of the things all adding up. Easier to imagine ignoring that actually doing.
it can and does wear people down normal people usually able to make rational decisions quickly and easily can suddenly find themselves unable to do so.
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And here lies part of the problem- actually doing is not easy and not easy to distinguish what you can and cannot do sometimes due to the stress you are under.
it can and does wear people down normal people usually able to make rational decisions quickly and easily can suddenly find themselves unable to do so.
it can and does wear people down normal people usually able to make rational decisions quickly and easily can suddenly find themselves unable to do so.
.Seriously - I think Paul's right - Make the appointment and get yourself better
11 September 2010, 09:02 PM
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Slow down and take some time to have an honest introspective look at your situation and see if you can identify the root causes of your stress - only you can do that. Counsellors will not offer you any solutions to your current set of problems, all they will do is get you discussing them and steer you towards identifying solutions for yourself. They will tell you their services don't come with any warranty, your problems can only be addressed with your solution which you must find for yourself albeit with their steer.
Before getting to the counselling route I would look at other practical areas of your lifestyle.
Caffeine intake
Alcohol intake
Number of hours sleep per night
Do you take time for regular exercise?
Is you diet full of crap convenience food?
Do you spend long periods alone without contact with friends / family?
If you have addressed all these areas already then maybe consider the counselling route - if not I would put these in place first and re-evaluate your situation in a few weeks.
From personal experience - steer well clear of any offers of anti-depressants or sleeping pills. you will look back in a few years and think that things were not as black as they may seem at this point in time.
Before getting to the counselling route I would look at other practical areas of your lifestyle.
Caffeine intake
Alcohol intake
Number of hours sleep per night
Do you take time for regular exercise?
Is you diet full of crap convenience food?
Do you spend long periods alone without contact with friends / family?
If you have addressed all these areas already then maybe consider the counselling route - if not I would put these in place first and re-evaluate your situation in a few weeks.
From personal experience - steer well clear of any offers of anti-depressants or sleeping pills. you will look back in a few years and think that things were not as black as they may seem at this point in time.
11 September 2010, 09:04 PM
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Thank you all for your views, both positive and negative. Sal see ya next weekend lol.
Some thought inspiring comments posted here, and all taken on board. I am waiting to hear back about when the first session will be, so will see from there on in if it's worth it.
In the meantime a short break or 2 and some time for me will do the world of good it think.
Cheers guys and gals.
PS, non drinker, non smoker, non drug user so I'm limited to outlets lol
Some thought inspiring comments posted here, and all taken on board. I am waiting to hear back about when the first session will be, so will see from there on in if it's worth it.
In the meantime a short break or 2 and some time for me will do the world of good it think.
Cheers guys and gals.
PS, non drinker, non smoker, non drug user so I'm limited to outlets lol
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Thank you all for your views, both positive and negative. Sal see ya next weekend lol.
Some thought inspiring comments posted here, and all taken on board. I am waiting to hear back about when the first session will be, so will see from there on in if it's worth it.
In the meantime a short break or 2 and some time for me will do the world of good it think.
Cheers guys and gals.
PS, non drinker, non smoker, non drug user so I'm limited to outlets lol
Some thought inspiring comments posted here, and all taken on board. I am waiting to hear back about when the first session will be, so will see from there on in if it's worth it.
In the meantime a short break or 2 and some time for me will do the world of good it think.
Cheers guys and gals.
PS, non drinker, non smoker, non drug user so I'm limited to outlets lol