vallumlj

I have had 1 serious relationship before and quite a few girlfriends but 5 months ago i met the girl of my dreams. We spend roughly everyday together and recently she had hinting she wants to get engage we even had a quick look at some rings. I never thought i could get a girl like her she is perfect in everyone but i think its a bit soon and am a bit worried about what everyone else would say. We are both 24 and i think its a good time to settle down. We have been on 3 holidays in are time together and got on great.

what are your views any help would be good.

Snazy

Personally I would say way too soon. Especially when the woman is hinting. Should be a natural thing. Assuming of course you mean propose?

On the other hand, it is only one step towards the big commitment. As long as you aint signing your whole life over.

I have been with my missus 5 years, and neither of us have even considered engagement or marriage.

Each to their own

Spoon

Have you tried her sister?

Paul3446

11 years and still not engaged for me!

I can't think of anything worse than getting married, it'll cost you about £18k for something that's over in a day, and you'll probably be divorced within 5 years.

Why not save the money and put it towards a decent holiday each year for the next 10 years?

hectic

dude, i met, got engaged and was married within eight months !!

still together now and been wed over 25 years
you'll just 'know' if its right

New_scooby_04

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I would say you've just answered your own question.

Maybe I'm an old romantic and hopelessly out of date, but IMHO when you really want to be with someone, you don't really care what others think.

That said, if you were to consult anyone about this, then I think you should be talking to those who know you and this relationship the best rather than the SN lot

All you'll get here is requests for pics of her bewbies!

Ns04

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PS Show us some pics please

SwissTony

iTrader: (19)

bloody hell you are an old git

Paul3446

Obviously breast size is an important consideration when making a decision of this magnitude!

jods

Hmmmmm.

3 Holidays in 5 Months??

Where too and who stumped up the majority of the ££?

Even if 50/50 or if she paid the majority - Are you sure she isn't gonna want 6 holidays a year going forward?

I'd say probably too early - there's no rush - If she gets stroppy if you say you'd like to wait "To save up for a ring that does justice to her" then I'd say she's a wrong 'un.

If you feel pressured into getting engaged then you'll spend the rest of your life together playing 3rd fiddle. She'll be first, cash will be second - You might be lucky to make 3rd place.

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Also Echo the need for photos - Get up hosted. No Chopped liver please

PaulC72

if it feels right then do it you could spend all of your life wondering what if and if it doesn't work out you can always do it again

hectic

Po is six days older than me
.. go figure

stuart n

The bigger the better

vallumlj

34 d there you go boys

we have only been on a few city breaks we paid 50/50 i might leave it another month or so. Just wanted your views.

s70rjw

iTrader: (2)

In my experience, they change considerably after marriage.....what's the rush? If its working well now why risk changing things?

fivetide

iTrader: (1)

As said, it is a step to commitment. Getting engaged doesn't mean you have to follow it immediately with a wedding, that could be quite a few years off. Living together, getting a house etc would all be better things to splash the cash on like but engagement makes it more solid i guess.

5t.

phil_wrx

iTrader: (2)

dont get married at all i got married in 1999 then we kid of split and divorced) now we are back together and happy :P been with her over 12 years now







p.s she has big breasts

jods

pps
And a face like a blind cobblers thumb?

Chrisgr31

I don't think it's too soon. I got engaged after around 5 months and now been married for 4 years.

If you want to get married then there is no point staying with someone you don't want to marry!

So you should either get engaged or dump her! Mind you maybe as you have plenty of time you could wait a while.

HankScorpio

If it's right, it's right - I got engaged after two weeks, moved in together in 6 weeks, married after 9 months and just had 7th anniversary so I don't think there's such thing as too soon.
I do agree with Ns04 - if it's right for you two, everyone else can gtf. We had to put up with crap from many sides but we're still here, together and as happy as ever.

Billgtt

Why get married? Just find a bird you hate and buy her a house

Dracoro

Yes too soon. Not because of it "only" being 5 months, no prob with that. I say it's too soon simply due to the fact that you have to ask!

stilover

Marrage = Kids = no money.

Don't do it. 5 months is not enough time to convince yourself you want to spend the rest of your life with this girl.

Even before getting engaged I'd have to be with someone for at least 5 years.
Bad and annoying habbits come to the fore when she feels comfortable that your hers.

zs_phil

iTrader: (1)

how on earth did you know that ,ive never met you yet you know i have no money


hes right dont do it

97TURBO

Me and the missus moved in together after 4 years of seeing each other, 6 months later got engaged, 12 months later our daughter arrived and now...........well **** knows if we will get married as it just seems like we have missed that part out somewhere and are way beyond it Still have'nt worked out if thats a good thing or not

stilover

Pillow talk. How do you think your wife afforded those new shoes.

scooby2!

As has been said before a proposal doesnt mean u have to rush into marriage right now, altho it might be best when/if u propose to ur gf to talk about this, as once u tell ur family/friends, etc they will want to know a date!!!! : )

Klaatu

**** struck IMO. If the first thing she is thinking about is an engagement ring rather than you, and the relationship between you two, forget it!

24 is not a good time for a male to settle, he is not mature enough IMO.

davegtt

RUN LIKE THE WIND...........

Especially if shes hinting, she probably isnt even interested in getting married, just wants a pretty ring on here finger to show of to her mates.

New_scooby_04

iTrader: (4)

PMSL

So delicately put!

scooby2!

and to an extent I agree with u there!! ; )

but if u think shes the one, then go for it!!!!! : )