Fuzz

Having not seen the old man for about three years and not had a card off him for two.
I'm as slack as he is in that I haven't sent him any or rang him up either..
But this week I got a Crimbo card with a short note and a mobile number in it.
Great, it said he was in the next town and we should meet up.
The next night I rang him and to cut a long story short, not only was he in the next town for a while he also stopped off at a Motorhome park AT THE END OF MY ROAD... (2 miles away at most)
Anyway, in amongst the hello how are you's I mentioned the meet up idea..

Ahh he said, I'm in Cornwall now then off to Crete and then Cambodia.

2 miles away and he couldn't drop in to say hello.


Andy

Lee247

Go with him

Fuzz

I'm already taking three weeks off over Crimbo, two of which to see my bro in Thailand.
Can't take any more time off.


Andy

KiwiGTI

**** him, it's his loss. Mine hasn't bothered with us for nearly 20 years apart from the odd email to my brother/sister.

Lee247

My Dad is dead, I would love to have the chance to see him again
Life is too short Andy, he has made the effort, try to see him before he goes off on his jaunts

slackbrown

Sorry - couldn't resist!

Fuzz

I'm working Saturday day, Christmas do Saturday night, Packing Sunday and fly off to the Maldives on Monday morning before daylight..

When were you thinking of.

(I'm 200 miles away from Cornwall)

Andy

Lee247

You asked the question, you got my reply
It's up to you
Parents aren't around for ever
I would find the time

Wish

iTrader: (2)

Im in the same boat as 84of300.
I would give ANYTHING for 2 mins with my Dad

cookstar

iTrader: (6)

Not all dads are perfect, in fact some are just crap. Still thats just who they are.

Be the bigger person swollow your pride and make the effort you thik he should have made, it might be the start of a new relationship with your ol man.

You will feel good for making the extra effort to I hope

Abdabz

Not up the riggot that's for sure

chocolate_o_brian

iTrader: (22)

from one andy to another...

i personally would meet him, even if its the effort on your part. ive never known my father, seeing him last when i was 2. he wasnt interested in being a fathr as my mum had found someone else... this someone else ended up being a total tw@t towards me and my mum for 14 years, and was the cause of my mental breakdown at 17. sounds like im delving into my past, but she fooked him off after i nearly did something silly to myself, but i wish i had more than one letter off my father in the 22 years ive been on this planet.

make the effort andy, you may regret it. if you meet and argue like hell, so what, at least there isnt any ifs or buts...

my tuupence

andy

Chip

I'm working Saturday day

Throw a sickie

Christmas do Saturday night

Hardly important is it.

Packing Sunday

All day for packing. Are you a woman or something

Go see him.

Chip

911

Trying not to be to sentimental, but my father died suddenly when I was 17.
I never went to the pub with him for a pint before sunday lunch and all that, but we did make model aeroplanes together, fly them, go fishing and so on.

It would be wrong to let miles or time get in the way and make the bridge too far to cross, because the bond will break and then it really is like he will have died in your life.

Graham

Jamo

iTrader: (23)

am I the only person that read it?

to just highlight what andy said..

his dad dropped a letter through his door when he was staying just 2 miles away, when andy rang him, he had already moved on to cornwall with an intention of then going abroad. obviously not bothering to just knock on the door and give him the time of day.

I would suggest your father has issues about seeing you, probably embarresment in regard to the fact he hasnt bothered with you for the last 2/3 years.

Have you explained your situation to him? how long is he going to cambodia for? maybe he will return shortly after you do from thailand and you can meet up looking a similar colour?

jamo

Robbie T

iTrader: (8)

I read this and thought you were getting fat

Leslie

Whatever happened in the past, once your parents are gone you will always think to yourself that you ought to have done something about staying in real contact.

Les

scoobywrxuk300

I totally agree with the above, Also think that, Yes it was awful of your dad not to have called in to say hi.. Lifes too short, and in my opinion sometimes in some situations, we need to be more Adult than our folks...!

200 miles away isnt far, or even arrange to meet him half way? Id think of the What IF'S, If i was you..!

David Lock

Cambodia, Thailand, 2 brothers.......... can't be too difficult.

Love to have known my dad (especially now I have a son) - bailed out when I was one

Chip

No your not, Cornwall isnt that far from Derby is it??

Chip

Jamo

iTrader: (23)

long way yoof

alcazar

iTrader: (2)

I'm with 84 of 300 and Wish. My dad died last week, his funeral was this last wednesday. I keep wanting to ring him up and tell him who I just saw...........at his funeral.

When they are gone, it's too late. No matter HIS attitude, what you'll have to live with after his death, is YOUR attitude

Alcazar

Jaydee5

I could easily cry just reading all that

Please, please, please don't add up 2 and 2 and make 5

Do whatever it takes to sort things out between you....even if it comes to nothing. You never get another chance when it's too late

brumdaisy

I'm with him, well apart from the shocking spelling

Ok so getting so close to you then not actually seeing you might sound really crap but who knows what his intentions were, its sounds to me like he bottled out at the last minute.

My Dad is a waste of oxygen but I made every effort and put opportunities for him to make an effort practically in his lap for him. Only when he still didnt bother did I walk away and I walked away knowing it was the right thing to do. Ive not regreted it yet.

Good luck whatever you do matey

Maz

iTrader: (34)

Tricky situation Andy. Don't act in haste and repent at leisure.

Julz1983

I would go see him, my Dad died 4 yrs ago in January when I was 19, and like others have said, I would give anything to see him especially at at time like xmas, I'm feeling quite down just now as I'm going round buying presents for everyone but theres one person I can't buy for and isn't it strange that every shop I go in to theres something I would have bought but now can't, life's too short, just give him a chance, I'd rather be able to say hes been 2 miles down the rd all this time instead of 6ft under, sorry to be so blunt but thats how I see it.


In regards to what others have said, well alcazar really, I done exactly that, wanting to get on the phone, even now I still think of something i need to say or something happens and I wish I could have him on the other end of the phone. I'm not religious in anyways, but last year when I was living further away from home my Aunty (dads sister) came down to see me, we went out for the day and went in to the cathedral where they had a big line of candles to light to remember someone, it helped me for that time of year and I felt good about it, it was sad aswell though, I would never have done anything like that before.