sti-04!!

Right .... i aint one for spreading my personal feelings over the t'internet & to be honest its something i have thought about quite a lot.
I dont have many friends that i can discuss this with due to the fact that we are a very close group & we all know each others business.

My problem is that a while ago i met a girl that turned not only my world upside down but she changed it for possibly the better.
She probably helped fine tune me into the person i am today.

At the time when we met i just wanted to live life as if there was no tomorrow, i was living life to put it plainly ....... like a Rockstar (no bubba not you).

We had a great time & it ended as she couldnt handle the way i was & the way that i couldnt calm down. A while later we got back together & tried it again but it ended as i still couldnt calm down.

Thing is i would honestly say that NOW i am as stable as i will ever be & that i would love to get her back but i know she wouldnt go there as i have let her down a lot in the past.

So over the last few months i have been trying to get her out of my head but its just not happening ....... no matter what i do.

I was seeing another girl but that ended as i just wasnt interested. I kept comparing her to this other girl.

So SN give me your opinions on what i can do to square up my head, as i said its probably been the first time in nearly 9000 posts i have opened up as to whats on the other side.

A few words of wisdom maybe from some of you people that have been in a similar position.

Thanks for listening.

Stephen

Ps i hope it makes sense.

JTaylor

Have you told her what you've just told us?

sti-04!!

****, i have just reread that & it sounds like Poor Guy

sti-04!!

At the moment she wont speak to me.

KiwiGTI

£3000 and 2 weeks in Thailand.

Fuzz

If she says no and means no then there is ABSO FECKING LUTELY nothing you can do.

Life must go on.
**** happens
Been there, felt lost without.. eventually picked myself up and moved on as it's the only thing you can do.

Andy

brumdaisy

wot he says ^^^ and show her this thread... it'll still take a lot of work to prove to her that you're serious but making a t!t of yourself on t'internet is a good start

Fuzz

Flights only cost £800 and I'm off there for two weeks in oooh two weeks lol

Turbohot

Stephen, you blew the chance so, either put up with it or, do something about it.
In many cases, once you have actually got what you craved for, you lose the worth for that too. my suggestion is to give it time. Time is the best healer.
But, If you feel so strongly about her, contact her again and ask her out. She might tell you to begger off but hey, ego can't be all that important in such circumstances! You can face it

Good luck

little-ginge

^^ what they said. If she won't speak to you, print out a copy of the thread and mail it to her..

sti-04!!

I am trying to move on ..... but its been a few months & i cant stop thinking about her.

I am far from the stalker type & can take no for answer. I havent spoke to her for about 6 weeks & even then it was a 2 minute conversation.

Turbohot

Write to her

sti-04!!

Swati - Ego is my problem. I know that, but i am willing to change.

sti-04!!

Wouldnt need to leave the country never mind the city to get comfort of that sort.

Turbohot

Noooooooooooo! She may not like being discussed in public ( even when her name is not quoted)
He needs to write to her in a seperate/personal note

little-ginge

Good point.. don't listen to me STI, I'm ****e

sti-04!!

TH - LG - I dont know what she wants.

I was with her a long time & i thought i knew her but when it gets to the nitty gritty i know i didnt.

Turbohot

Make sure you really are prepared to change, Stephen. I know you are over 25 ( I think) and, your hormones are settled and all that, fingers crossed. But, hope it is not the challenge to overcome the rejection, that is attracting you to her. Hope it is some genuine appreciation, that's all

Fuzz

I wrote a letter.. flipping pages long as well, very unlike me back then to write anything meaningful.
Met her at her mates house (safe house lol) she read it and took it away to deliberate on, two days later she came back with a no, despite the fact I realised the error of my ways and did concrete things to prove it..

Still think about it now (6 years on !!! ) with a lump in my throat, the fact I thought she was "the one"....


Andy

andythejock01wrx

Yep, write to her. Let her have a wee think about it, and give her a call a week later to see what she thinks.

If she still says "no way Hose", the that's the time to move on, and learn from the experience.

(Says Andy, so great with relationships LOL !)

sti-04!!

I am not that far over it

It is genuine appreciation, as i said from my 9000 or so posts i would say 10 of them are personal. Writing this thread shows that i need a little help to achieve what i want most. (No its not a Conti GT )

JTaylor

This is depressing me this thread. Reminds me of me and my ineptitude with all things love.

You love her, you do. Win her back!

Turbohot

People change. But, if you miss them and if you want to be with them, tell them so. You have nothing to lose.
Go for it

sti-04!!

Andy, the problem i have & for the past few years is i know & she knows she is the one.

JTaylor

JTaylor

So how can you get her to start talking to you again? What will work?

sti-04!!

**** knows.

Even though a few years back i was due to get married to another girl. ( i shat out of it & fcuked off to spain 2 weeks before the big )
She is the only other person i have discussed doing the big deed with & i meant it.

**** knows what to do.

Turbohot

Human emotions are so complex, J. There's always a deep rooted connection, even in conflicting relationships. It has to be realised and expressed, one way or the other No point keeing it to oneself.

JTaylor

<Calire Raynor>

So really it's not about getting her out of your head, but finding a way to show her that you love her and that you want to commit to her. Only you can work that one out.

</Claire Raynor>

Fuzz

This wildness you have got, the fact you wont calm down as you put it, how has she said that affects the relationship in a way that she doesn't want to be with you any more????

I'm a bit lost there as I would have thought an up beat, happy go lucky, free as a bird attitude would be just what you WOULD look for in another person?
(weird thoughts of you with a brolly, singing in the rain so to speak) if you catch my drift!

Andy