JCScooby

How many folk on here would admit to having cheated on there other half?

It was just after a conversation i had with a mate on saturday night about this, it got me wondering what most folk think. He said if his g/f was to cheat on him he could let it go as everyone makes mistakes. I wish i could have such a laid back attitude, but instead i'm fairly paranoid about the whole thing.
I mean how many folk hate the idea of being on the recieving end but then when they are out get tempted if put in a situation?

logiclee

I'm married and I've always said that any affair on either side and the marraige is over. I can't see how you can go on when the trust has gone.

Cheers
Lee

Butkus

I'm single at the moment, but I still have very strong views on this. If someone cheated on me, it would make me sick to the stomach. It's similar to the thought of an ex (usually a recent ex) with someone new - sickening.

So, because of this I would have to say if I was on the receiving end, or if I did it to someone else (because of my views, I would like to think I will NEVER do it to anyone), then the relationship would have to be over. No compromises.

Turbohot

I think people can go on.Sometimes,due to deep emotional attachment,people forgive their cheating partners.If not fully,partially.Such relationships may go on but they are not same as before,ever.But it happens.
Sometimes people forgive their cheating partners because they lack trust within themselves.
Human being is a strange animal.

Fuzz

have been cheated on.... gf then left me.
I have cheated on.... and then I left her.

I could of taken the first one back if she wanted to come back but she didn't. funny really as I thought "she was the one".

Second one, well I left... then wanted to come back
Trying to have my cake and eat it


Andy

kingofturds

iTrader: (1)

I would never cheat as i know what it feels like to be on the recieving end and it crushed me finding out after 5 years together. Ended up taking her back only for her to do it again 6 months down the line
Although it is tempting to cheat when you are out with your mates, i was never really tempted because it was never worth losing what i had at the end of the day

molko

would any of you lot cheat if you absolutly would not get found out, i mean if somehow it was an inpossibilty for you to be caught. Hypothetically ofcourse

Fuzz

dam right... but then I am coming from a single persons point of view now.


Andy

StudentScooby

Yep..

Tiggs

married...would split in a second if she cheated and vice versa.

matchmaker

Nope - but I've been married for 21 years

sti-04!!

Saying nowt

Miss Kinky

me too

Lee247

Would be the end of our marraige. Neither of us would be prepared to take back second hand goods.
So faithfull we stay
Anyway, why go looking for mince, when there is steak at home

Fuzz

cos it might turn out to be Venison

JamieMacdonald

I hate the thought of being cheated on. I have done it once though (drunk blah blah blah ) and she didn't find out, but we split up shortly afterwards anyway (mutually).

I feel bad about it and I know it was wrong, but the fact it didn't mean anything to me stops me feeling too bad!

If I was ever cheated on, I'd hope it would be in a similar way i.e. she'd had too much to drink, and it was a one-off thing, just sex.

I could forgive my girlfriend, but it would make me feel physically sick for a while and the relationship would not be the same for a long time.

But if it was a long term cheating episode, then it's "see you later love"
I think sneaking around behind someones back is 100 times worse that a one-night stand.

Richard_P

I had this discussion at work and was amazed at the number who couldn't forgive a partner for a drunken one off kiss. Situation was described as partner got very drunk and was kissed (then kissed back) a stranger which meant nothing to them.

My personal take on it was that if the person was honest as clearly regretted it then that situation I could forgive.

A secret affair though is surely a trust breaker, I don't see how that could be forgiven.

Leslie

The marriage would never be the same. It is just not worth the candle.

Les

kingofturds

iTrader: (1)

I could have forgiven my ex a lot easier if it was just a drunk one night thing, the fact that it was going on for a month behind my back was the biggest kick in the teeth.

sarasquares

iTrader: (1)

deer deer

Ben v7

My views are that cheating on a boyfriend / girlfriend is that it's no big deal. If I found out my girlfriend had been intimate with another bloke sure I'd be angry, but as long as she hadn't had sex with him (oral included) then I'd get over it if she was worth it.

I say this because, I can't say in all honesty that having a girl friend would stop me from having a bit of fun on side and if she were to find out I'd hope it wouldn't be the end of things. Everything is so damn serious these days and I do think some people take their whole girlfriend / boyfriend relationship that bit to seriously... you wouldn't want your current girlfriend / boyfriend to stop you getting to know the women / man who could be the one for you.

However, once married I think any form of cheating is completely wrong. Firstly I don't intend to get married for a very long time, because I'm not prepared to be in a sweet shop just eating crunchies and people change a lot when younger so I think it's better to wait until your 100% sure. Don't want to get it wrong and end up with a ball and chain.

Once your married then any cheating to me is completely unacceptable and would definately end a marriage - those vowes have to mean something and the trust for me would be totally destroyed.

Saying that I think many people do have affairs once married and I think women are very very good at keeping any affair secret from a husband. I believe a women can look you in the eye and tell you something with complete apparent sencerity, whereas blokes have a lot more trouble pulling this off when they know they have blatently done wrong. Something to bear in mind.

watto52

tbh. id feel to guilty if i cheated on a possible g/f. (im single), i wouldnt like it if she cheated, so i wouldnt do it.

sarasquares

iTrader: (1)

i would turn into a bunny boiler

Fuzz

My ex totally changed after she'd been with someone else, was'nt too hard to work out what she'd done...

Spoon

Always seek her approval first of all, and maybe share.

AudiLover

Before cheating, ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with your other partner. If not then cheat but finish the relationship straight away.

Swen6

Always comes down to how would you feel if it happened to you, always that thought in the back of my mind. [Plus i couldn't lie to save my life ]

On a more serious note, trying to use drink as an excuse?, it's pretty poor, if your that easy after a couple of drinks prehaps you should give the drink up. No matter how much you have your always aware of what your doing sub-consiously[spelling]

Miss Kinky

me too

watto52

why would you and sara want to boil bunnys?

Fuzz

you think that's a twist on what she said to be funny....

How true it really is though...

From the 1987 film Fatal Attraction. The plot concerns a woman scorned, played by Glenn Close, who obsessively pursues her ex lover, played by Michael Douglas. The phrase comes from the plot device where the woman boils the man's daughter's pet rabbit.