Scary stuff....
#1
Scary stuff....
Before your kids were born did you lie in bed at night and think:
'**** - this is it; the end of my life as I know it' and 'How the hell am I going to look after it?'?
Other half is excited - it's me thats freaking out!
'**** - this is it; the end of my life as I know it' and 'How the hell am I going to look after it?'?
Other half is excited - it's me thats freaking out!
#3
Yes, similar. Had our first when i was 38, now 41 so getting on a bit and i was not very maternal or interested in children.
It all changed the first time i held Ayla in my arms (like someone threw a switch) and the positives of parenthood soon outweigh those thoughts or misgivings.
Hope this helps
oh and,
Now got two of 'em, Olivia is just 3 months old.
Would not change things for the world.
except the early morning feeds maybe
Paul
It all changed the first time i held Ayla in my arms (like someone threw a switch) and the positives of parenthood soon outweigh those thoughts or misgivings.
Hope this helps
oh and,
Now got two of 'em, Olivia is just 3 months old.
Would not change things for the world.
except the early morning feeds maybe
Paul
#4
Originally Posted by eClaire
Before your kids were born did you lie in bed at night and think:
'**** - this is it; the end of my life as I know it' and 'How the hell am I going to look after it?'?
'**** - this is it; the end of my life as I know it' and 'How the hell am I going to look after it?'?
#5
Bit late for me to think that way Olly Due in 10 days!
That helps a lot Paul I thought this would be the case - I don't suppose there is anything as life changing as having children. I suspect even the most maternal people get worried.
I will just miss things like cuddling up every morning eating breakfast in bed together Or cuddling up on the couch with a good film and a curry.
That helps a lot Paul I thought this would be the case - I don't suppose there is anything as life changing as having children. I suspect even the most maternal people get worried.
I will just miss things like cuddling up every morning eating breakfast in bed together Or cuddling up on the couch with a good film and a curry.
#7
I'm with OllyK on this one. Your life is now over
Given that kids can't flee the nest until they are about 40 you are now stuck with them, even if you don't like each other. Still, that's the joy of parenthood with all that worry, finance, priorities on the kids, etc.
At least you enjoyed a few years before
Given that kids can't flee the nest until they are about 40 you are now stuck with them, even if you don't like each other. Still, that's the joy of parenthood with all that worry, finance, priorities on the kids, etc.
At least you enjoyed a few years before
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#10
Originally Posted by Hanslow
I'm with OllyK on this one. Your life is now over
Given that kids can't flee the nest until they are about 40 you are now stuck with them, even if you don't like each other. Still, that's the joy of parenthood with all that worry, finance, priorities on the kids, etc.
At least you enjoyed a few years before
Given that kids can't flee the nest until they are about 40 you are now stuck with them, even if you don't like each other. Still, that's the joy of parenthood with all that worry, finance, priorities on the kids, etc.
At least you enjoyed a few years before
You have kids - don't you?
Even though I am only 22 , I have done a LOT of things. Things I am glad I did, but even more things I regret and still cringe about to this day. I have done things some people don't get round to doing until they are in their 30s. Thinking about it this way I don't know what I am worrying about
#12
Originally Posted by OllyK
2 bumps on the front of a woman is just fine, no need for a third
The third often has a positive impact on the two bumps you refer to I have been VERY lucky - I just hope it stays that way!!
#13
Originally Posted by eClaire
HANSLOW!!!
You have kids - don't you?
You have kids - don't you?
My sister has two little 'uns and I've just seen her life go to pot and know full well that it isn't for me.
I'm sure you'll love it when they are writing all over your walls, being stubborn, having temper tantrums, getting pregnant at 12, etc.
Seriously though, if it's your thing, hope it all works out for you
#15
Originally Posted by Hanslow
I'm sure you'll love it when they are writing all over your walls, being stubborn, having temper tantrums, getting pregnant at 12, etc.
#16
Originally Posted by eClaire
Nothing a spanked erse won't sort!
Now you know you're not even supposed to look at your child the wrong way or the PC brigade will be down on you like a ton of bricks, child in care, mother dragged through the papers as a bad parent, etc. etc.
Or was the spanked **** for you
#17
Just wait until they get to the teenager stage - then you'll really know you fooked up!
I'm with Olly - just wish I'd stuck to it all those years ago!!
It's not all negative though eClaire - don't let us cynical folk spoil it for you.
Den
I'm with Olly - just wish I'd stuck to it all those years ago!!
It's not all negative though eClaire - don't let us cynical folk spoil it for you.
Den
#18
Not for me Hanslow
I suppose thats another topic for discussion; spanking your kids - never done me any harm
Hmmm, Den, I think I will just keep on rereading Paul's post
I suppose thats another topic for discussion; spanking your kids - never done me any harm
Hmmm, Den, I think I will just keep on rereading Paul's post
#20
Doubts before are easy. The aftermath is the killer.
Hope it all works out for you chocolate.
In my case it completely destroyed an otherwise excellent relationship. I wouldn't go there again for all the marmite in Geneva.
Women are very strange when they have a new toy!!
Hope it all works out for you chocolate.
In my case it completely destroyed an otherwise excellent relationship. I wouldn't go there again for all the marmite in Geneva.
Women are very strange when they have a new toy!!
#21
The sleep thing is an issue for me, REV - I can be a total bitch at the best of times
Thanks Spo I know hubby and I will be ok; it will be hard but we will get there. I am sorry to hear it wasn't what everyone makes it out to be for you
I don't blame you not wanting the marmite though - it's rubbish
Thanks Spo I know hubby and I will be ok; it will be hard but we will get there. I am sorry to hear it wasn't what everyone makes it out to be for you
I don't blame you not wanting the marmite though - it's rubbish
#22
Originally Posted by eClaire
I am sorry to hear it wasn't what everyone makes it out to be for you
#23
Originally Posted by Spoon
Doubts before are easy. The aftermath is the killer.
Hope it all works out for you chocolate.
In my case it completely destroyed an otherwise excellent relationship. I wouldn't go there again for all the marmite in Geneva.
Women are very strange when they have a new toy!!
Hope it all works out for you chocolate.
In my case it completely destroyed an otherwise excellent relationship. I wouldn't go there again for all the marmite in Geneva.
Women are very strange when they have a new toy!!
This results in major down turn in the rooting department coupled with a massive hike in the responsibility stakes which is not what I signed up for and despite friend's protestations that it won't change their lives one bit, once the baby is born you hardly ever see them.
I've left it to others.
#24
Originally Posted by Flatcapdriver
This has always been my theory in that women transfer all their attention and love on to the baby which if you are as selfish as me is a big no, no.
Gives us men plenty of time to continue in what we do best
Play fifa, champ manager, watch footie on the telly, go to the pub & wash our cars
Suits me
This happened with the last one & will probs happen with the next
#26
Originally Posted by Spoon
Doubts before are easy. The aftermath is the killer.
Hope it all works out for you chocolate.
In my case it completely destroyed an otherwise excellent relationship. I wouldn't go there again for all the marmite in Geneva.
Women are very strange when they have a new toy!!
Hope it all works out for you chocolate.
In my case it completely destroyed an otherwise excellent relationship. I wouldn't go there again for all the marmite in Geneva.
Women are very strange when they have a new toy!!
#27
Just recently had a conversation about all this with my brother who is now 42 and embarking on what could possibly be a baby making relationship.
I'll tell you what I told him.
It impinges greatly on one's life. It's a one way ticket, no returns. You have to sacrifice a great deal if you're going to do the job correctly.
I sadly, suffered Post natal depression for 2 years after my Ben was born. I resented his demands on my time.
BUT I would never ever turn back the clock if I had the chance. He and his sister are the most precious things in my life and they have and are still bringing me so much pleasure,(including 2 soon to be 3 brilliant grandchildren!)
So, yes, its a life changing experience, but for the good.
Yve
I'll tell you what I told him.
It impinges greatly on one's life. It's a one way ticket, no returns. You have to sacrifice a great deal if you're going to do the job correctly.
I sadly, suffered Post natal depression for 2 years after my Ben was born. I resented his demands on my time.
BUT I would never ever turn back the clock if I had the chance. He and his sister are the most precious things in my life and they have and are still bringing me so much pleasure,(including 2 soon to be 3 brilliant grandchildren!)
So, yes, its a life changing experience, but for the good.
Yve
#29
FCD : "This has always been my theory in that women transfer all their attention and love on to the baby which if you are as selfish as me is a big no, no. "
Yes it's true it seems that way to many men.
But it doesn't last forever.
The man soon becomes an indispensable DAD and plays as big a part in their child's life as MUM.
Yve
Yes it's true it seems that way to many men.
But it doesn't last forever.
The man soon becomes an indispensable DAD and plays as big a part in their child's life as MUM.
Yve