'mixed' religions & marriage
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'mixed' religions & marriage
G/F and I will at some point get wed, things going well. However she's a catholic, not big time but enough that the wedding has to be in a catholic church. I, on the other hand am not religious (in the slightest!). I don't have any objections to it being in a church and her having a 'blessing' in a religious context etc. I however will not say anything religious etc.
So anyone know how these things are done. I guess it's the same as people getting married when they are both religious but of different religions (i.e. a christian and a muslim or hindu etc.)
So anyone know how these things are done. I guess it's the same as people getting married when they are both religious but of different religions (i.e. a christian and a muslim or hindu etc.)
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Insist on a Humanist ceremony, its shorter than the Catholic one and free of the Religous Mumbo Jumbo, if she isnt all that into it she may agree, but then most of Catholocism seems to be a big guilt trip so you may have to do the Catholic thing to keep her conciensce clear. We did the C of E thing, the whole thing was nice but nowadays, though I respect other peoples religions/beliefs I am anti religion for myself.
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being protestant myself if i was to marry a catholic, i would have no choice in the matter of where i get wed as a protestant church would not marry us, so it would defo have to be in a catholic chaple, to be honest i wouldnt get a flyin ****! its not about the location.
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If you don't object to it being in a church, then surely you don't object to saying a couple of words if it means all parties involved are happy?
Words are just words - it's how you feel that counts - good luck
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Originally Posted by BigJay
being protestant myself if i was to marry a catholic, i would have no choice in the matter of where i get wed as a protestant church would not marry us, so it would defo have to be in a catholic chaple, to be honest i wouldnt get a flyin ****! its not about the location.
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I have to differ with you there Jay - I am baptised Roman Catholic and was married in an Anglican Church. As long as you respect the Church and its beliefs you will be welcomed... in fact the whole group at the church were amongst the friendliest people we had the pleasure to meet (apart from the new Assistant Vicar, who frankly, was an evangelical pain in the ****)
Me too, I'm Catholic but was married in CofE church. A Catholic wedding was too much for my Father in Law to stand
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Originally Posted by MattW
Me too, I'm Catholic but was married in CofE church. A Catholic wedding was too much for my Father in Law to stand
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RUBBISH - he just thought "good grief, if I have to give my daughter away to THAT bloke, I'm doing it on my turf"
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I think you'll find it just about impossible to get married in any church without saying 'anything religeous'.
If she's Catholic then you might want to have an in depth discussion about what happens when you have kids - a lot of practising Catholics are very particular about kids being bought up in the faith etc.
If she's Catholic then you might want to have an in depth discussion about what happens when you have kids - a lot of practising Catholics are very particular about kids being bought up in the faith etc.
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I am not religious but married a good [lapsed] catholic girl. I objected to the religious mumbo jumbo so in the end we got married in a civil ceremony, but in a church building. Church was protestant, but a church nonetheless.
Compromise is the name of the game. if she had insisted on the religious wedding I would have done it, because it is her day after all!
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Compromise is the name of the game. if she had insisted on the religious wedding I would have done it, because it is her day after all!
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Originally Posted by davyboy
Muslim getting married to a Hindu
lol thats something let me tell u , it happens alot in india
i feel sad for the kids, one parent teaches worship of the one true God the unseen while the other teaches about worshipping so many and where islam forbids idols the hindu parent doesnt
man kids are in the middle they dont know what to do
catholic and protestant aint really a problem their both christians still a few hurdles though
jew and muslim aint too bad, very similiar but i do prefer if i had to marry someone it would have to be someone who converted to islam before we ever met , not converted coz of the luv for me but for the luv of God with a true heart
coz if someone does convert coz they wanna marry u whats to say tomorrow when u split they wont change
the wife is gonna take the kid to her own culture or religion, worshipping idols, a man or anything else and a culture of having different partners every week or out of marriage sex, u dont want your kids to become like that
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If she is a devout Catholic then she will want to bring up the children in her own faith. The Catholic religion requires a promise it that respect if you marry in a Catholic ceremony. Its something to consider of course but if you are not religiously inclined that may not bother you.
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Originally Posted by Leslie
...but if you are not religiously inclined that may not bother you.
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It worries me greatly when religions feel the need to impose themselves in such a manner.
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Thats a difficult one to answer accurately in all respects.
Some will say that a child should be brought up at least in a Christian or with some kind of a basic religious belief to hang their hat on to guide them in their formative years. This would stem from the parents' personal beliefs of course. I know you would not agree with that OllyK.
The important thing in my mind is that at least the child should be brought up to understand natural law so that it is guided to live in a decent manner without causing distress to others and with a respect for authority which is necessary for people to live together in harmony.
Most religions teach people to live like that so in general not too much harm is done with the average religious upbringing.
I am grateful that during my education we took Apologetics as a subject where all religions were compared honestly and the choice was left to us without any specific form of persuasion one way or another. I am a strong believer that the most important thing in life is to honestly follow your own conscience.
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Some will say that a child should be brought up at least in a Christian or with some kind of a basic religious belief to hang their hat on to guide them in their formative years. This would stem from the parents' personal beliefs of course. I know you would not agree with that OllyK.
The important thing in my mind is that at least the child should be brought up to understand natural law so that it is guided to live in a decent manner without causing distress to others and with a respect for authority which is necessary for people to live together in harmony.
Most religions teach people to live like that so in general not too much harm is done with the average religious upbringing.
I am grateful that during my education we took Apologetics as a subject where all religions were compared honestly and the choice was left to us without any specific form of persuasion one way or another. I am a strong believer that the most important thing in life is to honestly follow your own conscience.
Les
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Originally Posted by Leslie
Thats a difficult one to answer accurately in all respects.
Some will say that a child should be brought up at least in a Christian or with some kind of a basic religious belief to hang their hat on to guide them in their formative years. This would stem from the parents' personal beliefs of course. I know you would not agree with that OllyK.
Some will say that a child should be brought up at least in a Christian or with some kind of a basic religious belief to hang their hat on to guide them in their formative years. This would stem from the parents' personal beliefs of course. I know you would not agree with that OllyK.
The important thing in my mind is that at least the child should be brought up to understand natural law so that it is guided to live in a decent manner without causing distress to others and with a respect for authority which is necessary for people to live together in harmony.
Most religions teach people to live like that so in general not too much harm is done with the average religious upbringing.
I am grateful that during my education we took Apologetics as a subject where all religions were compared honestly and the choice was left to us without any specific form of persuasion one way or another. I am a strong believer that the most important thing in life is to honestly follow your own conscience.
Les
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I would prefer no religion to be taught rather than just one religion be taught in isolation. In the world as it stands, all, or at least as many as practical religions should be taught in parallel, and while it is not a religion in itself, critical thinking should also be taught as a mechanism to explain the possibility that there is no supreme being(s) and the problems with faith based systems.
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If you feel strongly about not gibbering on about religious mumbo jumbo then get married somewhere else - the day is for both of you and you both need to feel comfortable with what you are being asked to do.
ps. If you do decide on the church don't ask the priest for any change for the condom machine and don't look for one in the church bogs.
ps. If you do decide on the church don't ask the priest for any change for the condom machine and don't look for one in the church bogs.
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GD, you need to find out what her faith actually means in practical terms, and also the depth of your own feeling.
I married a Catholic girl and it was a major issue for her parents, me being divorced, not baptised, and a fairly ambivalent atheist. At the time, I couldn't give a damn about telling a few white lies as it kept everybody happy.
But what about kids and contraception? You going to Mass everyday, or just Sundays? Happy to send your kids to Catholic school on the other side of town when the school down the road is perfectly good? Do you want your children indoctrinated with some quite severe religious bollox?
As it turned out, religion has never come between us, despite my own anti-Catholic views strengthening. It came to a head when I refused to attend the Christening of our second child. The Christening went ahead, but a line had been drawn in the sand and was never again crossed.
She will have got her religious beliefs from her parents, who will have a big influence, and you may not find how deep they go until much later. Try not to make a drama out of it, but some up front honesty will pay back long term.
Richard.
PS Sex before marriage? An entertaining test...
I married a Catholic girl and it was a major issue for her parents, me being divorced, not baptised, and a fairly ambivalent atheist. At the time, I couldn't give a damn about telling a few white lies as it kept everybody happy.
But what about kids and contraception? You going to Mass everyday, or just Sundays? Happy to send your kids to Catholic school on the other side of town when the school down the road is perfectly good? Do you want your children indoctrinated with some quite severe religious bollox?
As it turned out, religion has never come between us, despite my own anti-Catholic views strengthening. It came to a head when I refused to attend the Christening of our second child. The Christening went ahead, but a line had been drawn in the sand and was never again crossed.
She will have got her religious beliefs from her parents, who will have a big influence, and you may not find how deep they go until much later. Try not to make a drama out of it, but some up front honesty will pay back long term.
Richard.
PS Sex before marriage? An entertaining test...
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PS Sex before marriage? An entertaining test...
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