Think I may have got somebody pregnant...
17 May 2005, 10:49 AM
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Think I may have got somebody pregnant...
How worried / concerned am I 
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Really not sure what to do. Have been seeing this person (5 months) but nobody knows we are having a relationship due to many difficult circumstances.
I'm certainly not ready for children and fairly sure she isn't either but really don't know what to do or say. I'm afraid if I mention the dreaded termination word that she will think I am an insensitive so and so (and not sure I could do this either). I think that is probably for the best but equally I was part of this and would stand by her all the way.
The way I feel this morning is indescribable.
What on earth do I do ? ? ?
chopper.
?Really not sure what to do. Have been seeing this person (5 months) but nobody knows we are having a relationship due to many difficult circumstances.
I'm certainly not ready for children and fairly sure she isn't either but really don't know what to do or say. I'm afraid if I mention the dreaded termination word that she will think I am an insensitive so and so (and not sure I could do this either). I think that is probably for the best but equally I was part of this and would stand by her all the way.
The way I feel this morning is indescribable.
What on earth do I do ? ? ?
chopper.
17 May 2005, 10:56 AM
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Originally Posted by chopper.
How worried / concerned am I ?
Really not sure what to do. Have been seeing this person (5 months) but nobody knows we are having a relationship due to many difficult circumstances.
I'm certainly not ready for children and fairly sure she isn't either but really don't know what to do or say. I'm afraid if I mention the dreaded termination word that she will think I am an insensitive so and so (and not sure I could do this either). I think that is probably for the best but equally I was part of this and would stand by her all the way.
The way I feel this morning is indescribable.
What on earth do I do ? ? ?
chopper.
?Really not sure what to do. Have been seeing this person (5 months) but nobody knows we are having a relationship due to many difficult circumstances.
I'm certainly not ready for children and fairly sure she isn't either but really don't know what to do or say. I'm afraid if I mention the dreaded termination word that she will think I am an insensitive so and so (and not sure I could do this either). I think that is probably for the best but equally I was part of this and would stand by her all the way.
The way I feel this morning is indescribable.
What on earth do I do ? ? ?
chopper.
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17 May 2005, 11:04 AM
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Money is not an issue or the issue. This is about her being pregnant.
For the record though she has a lot of money (not far from being a millionairess) and certainly doesn't need or want mine. This is part of the reason nobody knows about us.
chopper.
For the record though she has a lot of money (not far from being a millionairess) and certainly doesn't need or want mine. This is part of the reason nobody knows about us.
chopper.
17 May 2005, 11:05 AM
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Ummmm..... am i missing something or is this not a subaru site anymore but an agony aunt column????????????????????
Where a fu**ing condom or make sure shes on the pill next time.........
Where a fu**ing condom or make sure shes on the pill next time.........
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17 May 2005, 11:07 AM
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hmm in that case, its not the money its the responsibility of having a baby, taking up all your time, etc. Plus can you see yourself with this person in a few years time 
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17 May 2005, 11:09 AM
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Originally Posted by imprezaturbochick
Ummmm..... am i missing something or is this not a subaru site anymore but an agony aunt column????????????????????
Where a fu**ing condom or make sure shes on the pill next time.........
Where a fu**ing condom or make sure shes on the pill next time.........
17 May 2005, 11:10 AM
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Originally Posted by imprezaturbochick
Ummmm..... am i missing something or is this not a subaru site anymore but an agony aunt column????????????????????
Where a fu**ing condom or make sure shes on the pill next time.........
Where a fu**ing condom or make sure shes on the pill next time.........
Thanks Jonathan.
17 May 2005, 11:12 AM
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Originally Posted by imprezaturbochick
Ummmm..... am i missing something or is this not a subaru site anymore but an agony aunt column????????????????????
Where a fu**ing condom or make sure shes on the pill next time.........
Where a fu**ing condom or make sure shes on the pill next time.........
17 May 2005, 11:24 AM
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Originally Posted by andrewdelvard
Then let me rephrase.
You know that car that you've always wanted?
Heelllooo Daddy!
You know that car that you've always wanted?
Heelllooo Daddy!
17 May 2005, 11:25 AM
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Do anything you can to encourage her to have a termination. The last thing this country needs is another unwanted baby. Harsh but true.
From population size in UK - we do actually need to increase...
'Unwanted baby' - crazy... there are thousands of couples desperate to adopt a baby.
There are responsibilities associated with having sex...
You could try fatherhood - many of us who weren't 'too keen' at the initial thought (so what do you think about starting a family...
) could not now imgine life without our kids (and would not want to) - You do have to give up a lot of selfish stuff - but the rewards are ENORMOUS ! - And if she's well off - they could be even bigger Cheers
Mick
17 May 2005, 11:25 AM
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Originally Posted by chopper.
I'm certainly not ready for children and fairly sure she isn't either but really don't know what to do or say. I'm afraid if I mention the dreaded termination word that she will think I am an insensitive so and so (and not sure I could do this either). I think that is probably for the best but equally I was part of this and would stand by her all the way.
The way I feel this morning is indescribable.
The way I feel this morning is indescribable.
17 May 2005, 11:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Mick
Sorry, I disagree that unborn children should be killed any more than those already outside the womb!
From population size in UK - we do actually need to increase...
From population size in UK - we do actually need to increase...
The moral side of it is a different matter though, and largely down to personal opinion...
Obviously I would prefer to terminate a more worthy adult and let the baby have a chance, but abortion at 30 yrs old isn't legal!
17 May 2005, 11:33 AM
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Originally Posted by ajm
I disagree... there are very few problems that wouldn't benefit from a reduction in the number of human beings on our little island.
The moral side of it is a different matter though, and largely down to personal opinion...
Obviously I would prefer to terminate a more worthy adult and let the baby have a chance, but abortion at 30 yrs old isn't legal!
The moral side of it is a different matter though, and largely down to personal opinion...
Obviously I would prefer to terminate a more worthy adult and let the baby have a chance, but abortion at 30 yrs old isn't legal!
17 May 2005, 11:42 AM
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I don't believe in abortion, especially for your own convenience. Totally morally wrong to kill a child to get yourself off the hook, born or unborn. But thats just my personal view.
Whatever you do, its your responsibilty just as much as hers and you should play fair by them both.
Les
Whatever you do, its your responsibilty just as much as hers and you should play fair by them both.
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17 May 2005, 11:43 AM
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Originally Posted by scoobychick
Ultimately though she will make the decision as to whether she goes ahead with the pregnancy or not. The best you can do is be there for her whichever option she chooses.
17 May 2005, 11:49 AM
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I meant i cant believe your posting up your private life on a website. Have some dignity.
Show her respect and talk to her not anyone else. At end of day its both of you have to make the decision and noone else!
Show her respect and talk to her not anyone else. At end of day its both of you have to make the decision and noone else!
17 May 2005, 11:50 AM
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17 May 2005, 11:54 AM
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