Simon C

In march I started having a relationship with 1 of the girls in the parent office (I work on a remote office). A couple of months ago I asked her to marry me(it got very seroius, very quickly, both of us are to blame on that 1), to which her reply was to get back with her ex fiance!!. Ok that bit I can handle.

However now she is making my work life intollerable so much so that I have my resignation ready to fire off and its really beginning to get to me, so much so I really don't care about anything. I don't want to resign as the contract is due for re negotiation at the end of september and I would loose a substantial bonus if I did.

Whilst we work on 2 seperate helpdesks, I am her second line support so there has to be contact.

Any ideas

Senior_AP

Speak to family on this one if I were you.

Hope all works out well.

STi wanna Subaru

iTrader: (1)

Clam down, realise she's only a bird and get on with your job. Get a nice bonus and go out with your mates and enjoy yourself. The only problem with working with her is I guess it's hard to step back and get that sort of perspective on it.

davegtt

how can she cause you soo many problems at work when u only have to use her at a contact from a different office, surely she cant be messing with your head that much

RB5 Paul

kill her

RB5 Paul

or start seeing her mum

RayC

Learn from it - Never dip your pen in company ink - always bad

Try
1) talking to her asking why she is being so awkward and say you are happy to get on as colleagues

2) ignore the stupid cow when she starts messing you about

3) talk to her boss

dont kill her its too much hassle digging a hole or lifting up patio slabs

Simon C

Davegtt, its not so much of a case of what she's doing more of a case of why is she doing it and how. Being as nice as 1 min and getting nasty the next, and when I mean nasty I'm talking about sabotageing my career within the company. Its a very insestuas office.

RB5 Paul, that first feeling has passed, and as for the second, hell no.

Geddon

sorry have I missed something?
I thought she said no when you asked her to marry you?
Hence why is she being nasty at all?

Has she got a sister or start porking someone else from her office
pmsl at the "lifting patio slabs"

RB5 Paul

it'd be funny tho

Robert Rosario

Senior_AP

I saw that and erupted into laughter and got b0ll0cked for being too loud.

Damn.

Simon C

Paul, no, I've met her once and I don't want to again. The ironic thing is I do have her mobile number!!!????!!!

Simon C

Have to admit that I did giggle at your comment Paul. But came to the conclusion she aint worth the 15 years.

RB5 Paul

lol run her over then,woops it was an accident officer,4 years and immense satisfaction,and then bone her mum

scoob_babe

Sounds like you got off lightly but a 5 month relationship is not worth losing a good job and bonus over. Deal with her a professionally (and I don't mean a hit man!) and either note down what was said or if you work with anyone else at least get them to listen in on any phone conversations. You could get her for harassment.

Senior_AP

Is she intentionally making your life intolerable or just her mere presence that is annoying/upsetting you.....??

EddScott

Give us some detail as to how she is ruining your working environment. Can you not approach anyone to explain what is going on.

Simon C

Her presence is fine with me, it doesn't bother at all. All this has kicked of since our boss has gone on holiday. As I said, its not what she does, its how. This morning was ringing here and when I answer asking to be transfered to 1 of my coleagues, to ask him a question that I could have answered (and out of him and myself, I am the senior person).

Senior_AP

She's being an immature wench then??

Simon C

Unfortunatly Edd I can't. Since I am on a remote office (dont even get invited to the works events) She has access to everyone. I know a couple of people have mentioned a few things via mail about her to the boss, but am going to have to wait to see whats said.

EddScott

If thats what she is doing then let her carry on mate. Who cares whether she wants to speak to you or not. Seems shes just avoiding speaking to you if anything.

As long as she's not telling everyone your wasting work time on scoobynet or pilfering out of petty cash to fund your raging crack habit I really wouldn't worry.

Just ride it out get the cash and "go out and do something less boring instead!" as Y don't u used to say.

/edit - after your above post I'd try and make a friend in her office and ask them to keep an ear on what she is up to. Pick someone you trust if possible who will back you up if she starts throwing sh1te around about you.

scoob_babe

Ignore her, I think the immature wench was apt description. Its the lowest form of bullying - waiting for the boss to be absent before trying anything on.

Simon C

I hope so, but I don't know what damage she is causing in the main office with the directors and others.

I was negotiating joining the company full time and being based in the same office, albeit for a different unit of the company. This I don't want damaged, as it would be a very good career move, and is alot to risk.

EddScott

My first working environment was in a Millets outdoor sports shop. I started seeing someone there and after a while went to ask her if she wanted to start getting a bit more serious and before I started my sentence she said she didn't want to see me like that anymore.

Manager comes to me a week later to say the girl has complained that I wouldn't leave her alone but I'd been so cut up about her dumping me I'd avoided her like the plague!

Bleeding women!

scoob_babe

I think your mind is working overtime with this and you're thinking she carries a lot more clout than she actually does. Does she have seniority and decision making powers or are you hopefully worrying about nothing.
Fingers crossed for you - I know what it feels like wanting a permanent job!

Simon C

She does not have desision making powers, unless its over her desk (Team leader). However she does have the ability to make people listen and believe her.

Senior_AP

Try and have a word.....??

Did you upset her prior to this??? Sounds like a bit of her getting you back or is she just a Ho ??? (I love that word)

scoob_babe

It sounds as if she could not present a logical and professional case as to why you should not be hired. I would hope that if it is a good company then they would not bow to every petty whinge.

shamrock

Simon,

Either

a) try to ignore her and not sink to her levels
b) fight fire with fire
c) get a job somewhere else

I've found that option a) always works best for me, if anyone asks you what happened just be honest and tell the truth. In the long run your colleagues will respect you for your dignity.

Good luck.