VinPetrol

Had a great night out with this crackin female last fri, txt'd her on mon 2 c if she wanted to meet up again. She made her excuses why she couldnt make it, but she said it sounded good. I then get random txt from her on wednesday askin how i am an sayin we should go out again soon! I reply around lunch time (ish) an ask if she wants to meet up, (was this wrong ??).

So... I get a txt reply at midnight sayin i can see you the week after next ?!? Along with a coulple of lame-o excuses as to why she couldnt possible meet sooner. w t f ? Is she interested or not, I can never f**kin tell.

HELP

suprabeast

I can understand playing hard to get but 2 weeks is a long time!

Depends on how lame her excuses are for not being able to meet sooner i would guess. They could be things that might sound lame to you but are important to her??

SiPie

Don't know mate.....

Are you ugly ? If you are.... then probably she's not interested

Charlie WRXSTI

If you got a text reply at midnight that would suggest that maybe she had had a couple of beers.

She wants to meet you the week after next who can possibly be busy for the next two weeks and not have one single night free.

From a female point of view I think she is giving you the runaround

rogp

She's either still with another bloke (hence the random times at which you are contacted - when she can sneak away) or she's such a great lay she's inundated with offers.

Either way you can't lose.

Either you end up having sex without any commitment if she's still with the boyf or you end up bedding a highly sexed nyphette.

VinPetrol

Yeah i know what your sayin, her txt went somethin like...

"im out sat night an doin assigmnets all next week but up for something week after xx"

but surely if u are keen on someone it wouldnt be difficult to make a little time ?

Nicci

Another female view...

I think she is not interested.

She is a bit soft and can't say a simple 'no' and instead goes in a huge roundabout way of saying it.

SiPie

On a more serious note... I'd agree 100% with Nicci

On the other hand she could just have a really over-exaggerated idea of how long you should play it cool for

Charlie WRXSTI

What about Sunday night?

These assignments she has are they 24 hour ones

If you live/work close to each other then why not meet for lunch or quick early beer.

I would personally leave well alone and move on

rogp

Likes the attention but lacks conviction?

Spoon

Just don't wait the 2 years or so you did with the last girl before deciding she's not really interested!!

ChrisB

If you like somebody, you make time for them in one way or another. Well, I do.

This crackin night - was it just the two of you out?

RichWalk

simple solution- put the emphasis straight back on her, tell her your not sure when your next free, and if shes up for a date let her txt you and organise it herself- you will soon know if she is interested or not.

ignoring someone is difficult however it almost always works IMHO

r32

Perhaps her husband isnt away for another two weeks!

VinPetrol

Woah lodsa replys, better edit this to say,

Charliewrx: thats what i reckon,

Sipie: id do me lol

rogp:thats interesting u say this coz she reciently split with boyfriend, and i know he is still lurkin.and
her txt went somethin like...

Sipie (again): This bird does kinda get odd ideas, so this could be a possibility too, ..oh i better play it cool for 2 weeks might not be strange to her?

Charlie wrx (again) I know, exactly ...what about sunday night, tonight fri etc etc, wot bout day time for a coffee etc...

rogp(again) might be on to something, jus stringin me along so she will get a few txts bit of wanting from someone prehaps

Nicci: If ur right, i wish she'd jus stop messin me about, I hate people that play games.


Spoon: Cheers m8, i def learnt lesson from that one !


phew cant keep up with all these.. Cheers tho keep em comin, it is a help for sure !!

VinPetrol

Rich walk, i think im gonna go with your sudgesstion, makes sense to me. If she really wants to see me, she will call/txt

ChrisB yeah it was just the two of us, an I def felt chemistry, know she must have too.

VinPetrol

actuley rich walk, is she dointhat to me an simply waitin for me to txt again to see if im really keen ???

Lost at sea...

Charlie WRXSTI

TBH, I would not bother texting her anymore, if she wants to see you she will text.

Remember if she does text again make sure you are busy that night, even if you are not and say to her text me next week. If she wants to see you again she will text you next week

rogp

If she wants something long term she will come to you when she starts to doubt you will call/text.

Do you know what you want out of it?

SiPie

Charlie

I've never agreed with all this 'games' pish ... " Ooooh I'm not going to ring until Wednesday or they'll think I'm too keen"... bollox

If you like someone then just go for it and if I was Vin I'd phone her up and say something like ...

"right.... are you really busy over the next 2 weeks....christ.. I even find time to tidy my sock drawer and trim my nasal hair once every two weeks so I must be really low on your priority list, you see I doubt you are that busy and it's probably just a bull**** exscuse but hey.. to the point.. I like you and I thought we had a great night out on Friday and would quite like to see you again. But heh, I can't be arsed with this runaround pish.... if you think I'm ugly or you are ******** someone else then just tell me and I'll go and put my efforts towards someone else......2 weeks is a long time to wait so I reckon Sunday would be good ...cheers .. so you up for it or not?"

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Charlie/Nicci

I met this gorgeous girl and we started going out with each other. Got on well etc. I wanted to see her often but whenever I said "when can I see you next", out would come her filofax and she'd arrange a date a week, 10 days ahead. "Nothing sooner?" - no. So this went on for a few months. When we were together, it was great. This was in the days before mobiles and txting btw.

So, it sort of petered out really For my part, I wanted to see her as much as I could but there comes a head/wall/beating stage...

Anyhow, a couple of months later, she invites me to a party at hers and there I'm introduced to new boyfriend and as it happens a friend of hers was going to be staying there, who knew no-one, so we got talking and she is now my wife.

The point of this post however is that wifey was severely warned off me at the time by ex-girlfriend as I was "unreliable" and was told that I "hadn't seemed to be very keen on her when we were going out"

I obviously gave off the wrong signals

VinPetrol

I dunno, I think prehaps I would be better off not txtin her, would be v difficult not to agree to see her if she is sudjessting the idea, but would prob be a good thing to do.

On the other hand, I know exactly what ur sayin bout just ringin her and sayin less of the bollox love, we gettin it on or not.

Any girl opinions would be appreciated on this ??

VinPetrol

sorry puff, didnt see there was a page 2, so ur sayin she could be inadvertantly givin out the wrong signal to me??

CC

i'd say she does think sumat of u cos she wouldnt even bother txtn u let alone txtn u suggesting another date albeit in the distant future. She's working u out, may have other prospects, and is still a bit unsure.

Dont myther her, knock back her next suggestion of a day/date whilst making it obvious ure interested (dont want her thinking ure not!), and u y'self still get out there and meet other women, keep ure options open.

Nicci

Puff,

weird ex (maybe she had her own issues). But what a good outcome.

I played games when I was younger, thinking I would hurt the person by just saying no, but I think you do more damage by not being direct.

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Vin

Not really saying anything m8 - long time since I was on the chase!! Just recounting the story 'cos its one that got away - which, tbh, I wish hadn't It's also the opposite of what Charlie & Nicci were saying and is an example of womanhood being completely unfathomable...

VinPetrol

CC, I though "why bother to txt me too", but as mentioned earlier, maybe she just likes the attention form me, but nothing more so is stringing me along ?

maybe she is just playin the field, an got others lined up on the other nights?

PS whats "dont myther her" mean ?

Puff The Magic Wagon!

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Nicci

Depends how you look at it!!

Nicci

Vin,

Just forget about her.

If she contacts you again, then ask her if she is really interested or gently putting you off.

If she is really interested but genuinely busy then go for it.

In the meantime keep yours eyes open and your hands to yourself

Puff The Magic Wagon!

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myther is bother