Poor Guy

ok, theres this girl, who i really like and who i told i loved and she told her friends and they ridiculed me abut it. anyway last night her jackass cheating boyfriend (which i told her about a month or so ago when i her he was doing this lass and when i saw him leave karisma in town in a "friendly" manor with another lass) was messing around with other girls while she was there and he wanted out of their relationship.
so she comes to me with the crying, and superglued herself to my arm. She wants him and i said discouraging things about him and the way he treats her (like $hit).
Then she left me and they and theiir friends went home, and i become obsalete.
I felt weird by it, kind of used in a sense.
where do i go from here and what should i do next time?

blurry foto of her here

LG John

Have a piece of that btw

TelBoy

Is she auditioning for Saturday Night Fever..??

a2jcy

Tell her to go forth and multiply your far better off with a pint

sexy wrx69

nothing. just point out that she knows how you feel about the situation and just tell her that you'll be there for her when she needs you, but that you cant stand seeing her in that state over someone like him.


it will take her a long time to realise that this bloke is treating her like crap, but until she does...you just have to be her friend.

George Best

Pop idol.

sexy wrx69

oops...sorry...i went into serious mode then.


anyone else think she looks a bit like Melissa Joan Hart????

Nimbus

LOL @ Saxo Boy...


You became what???

The Zohan

Perhaps she likes being treated like cr@p some do some don't.

I would stay a bit aloof, also by pointing out his bad points it sounds like it only reminds her of the things she likes about him.


Sounds like you are on a hiding to nothing, pork her, get it out of your system and be done with it!

........If not move out the way and i'll sort her out!

More advice will cost you.

Paul

*DIsclaimer* The 'porking' comment only applies in my case if she is older than 18


[Edited by Paul Habgood - 8/15/2003 2:57:34 PM]

wannabeScooby

First of all I dont think putting a pic of her on the internet is going to help matters! She's gonna freak if she sees it!

Secondly, you told her how you feel, the ***** on her side of the court so to speeak, let her come to you!

quite fit though aint she?

Mus

JoeyDeacon

Unfortunately some women love being treated like **** and going out with complete b@stards. Now I personally have never been able to understand this but I think it is down to the fact that some women get bored very easily. Being involved in this type of relationship is far more exciting than being with someone who treats her like a princess all the time. I also think there is some sort of subconscious pyschology going on where she thinks this guy is treating her like **** as he can obviously do better and therfore she is lucky to have him.

If I were you I would have nothing else to do with her as she sounds like a complete pr!cktease. This is just a guess but does she tell you she thinks of you as a friend/brother etc.? Unfortunately if you are nice to her all the time she is going to see you as a bit of a doormat and take advantage of you, even if she doesn't realise it.

She definitely sounds like a case of "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" and I think most women want someone who is somewhere in the middle of being a total doormat and a total b@stard.

STi wanna Subaru

iTrader: (1)

mate, she's playing you....sorry but it's the truth.

Best thing to do is walk away.

Gordo

It's awful when a girl plays with u - don't 'spose she'd like to play with me as well, would she?

sexy wrx69

its not that women to be treated like crap....its more that we think that we're in love with that person and that they will change if we just try harder.


i was in exactly the same situation a few years back and it took a lot of strength for me to eventually realise that i was better than that and to get rid of him.


she just has to do this on her own. she wont appreciate you slating her man to her..and you might end up being in that "friend" relationship instead of the "boyfriend".


just be there for her when she needs you. and who knows...you might get a bit as the rebound man

STi wanna Subaru

iTrader: (1)

She looks very young.....or am I just getting old?? (26 BTW)

red_dog104

Tell her to grow up and **** off. I'd never take the p*ss out of anyones feelings if I thought they were being genuine. You are better off just ignoring her and getting on with your life. Don't get played by her!

madbrit

God I'm glad I'm not 19 anymore.....

I dont miss all this sort of thing anymore.

Mate, plenty more in the sea. GO forth and multiply with them

By the way, in your own mind you might be doing all the right things to win her over, but in my experience they will drive her away. Hope Im wrong.

And what was in your mind by telling her you love her???? Your not even going out with the girl. How could you possibly know??? Sounds more like lust to me

sexy wrx69

red dog...she might not have been taking the **** tho.

she might have told them because shes excited about it...and her friends took the ****.


i know that when my bloke told me he loved me...i told my mates and they thought it was a bit stalker like (it was pretty soon after we met)...but i had told them becuase i was really happy and excited about it.

plus...if this girl is being treated like crap, im sure shes really glad that someone feels like that about her.


of course...you could be right and i could be totally wrong. dont know the girl...so dont knwo if shes mature or acts like a teenager.


speaking of which....how old is she??? she does look really young.

[Edited by sexy wrx69 - 8/15/2003 2:53:43 PM]

medders

Is that Karisma in Donny ? (sorry just interested)

Paul

[Edited by medders - 8/15/2003 2:55:07 PM]

weapon69

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[Edited by weapon69 - 8/15/2003 3:14:18 PM]

Reffro

Blow her out. She's a user, she'll continue to run back to you when she's been dumped on and that's all. I can see why you like her, but its not worth the hassle.....

tonybooth

Bunny boilers seem to get younger all the time

Ditch the bitch.

TONY

paulr

I was once in this situation,many years ago,....i just moved on and found someone better.

Coopz

Yep female point of view here -

Get rid she's wasting your time, playing you off against the other bloke and she'll just keep doing it if you let her.

Move on and find someone who likes you as you are!

fitzscoob

your gonna get hurt each time, she knows you like her and shes playing on that, move on for your own sake. Find someone who likes you as much as you like them, forget her.

better yet, stop worrying about women and getting your nuts in, solo sex aint that bad . enjoy having a laugh with your mates, dont dwell on finding another woman or this chick and you will be surprised.

on a purely evil side note, got any pics of her naked?

as monty python would say,

And now for something completely different!

Poor Guy

hmmmmmmmmmm, mixed views.

I think I will cut contact her and if she needs a fella who isnt her bf then she can find someone else.