Ladies of the night - Theoretical question
10 July 2003, 09:20 AM
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Say I was happily going out with a girl whom I knew I would eventually marry and have kids with.
Is it wrong to want to sleep with a prostitute before I commit to engagement etc?
All theoretical of course.
Is it wrong to want to sleep with a prostitute before I commit to engagement etc?
All theoretical of course.
10 July 2003, 09:28 AM
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Hello
Morally yes. And actually if she finds out!
Most women (not being sexist) treat sex as some sort of loving bond between two people. Where as men just want those few minutes (hours, whatever!) of pleasure and then bye-bye. So sleeping with anyone else is one of the ultimate betrayals.
Plus, do you REALLY want to have sex with a prostitute? The people to whom I have spoken think that it's a vacuous experience devoid of feeling, apart from the one of guilt. Not just of betrayal of their partner, but general guilt of visiting a prostitute. Which is quite strange, but apparantly true.
Steve.
Morally yes. And actually if she finds out!
Most women (not being sexist) treat sex as some sort of loving bond between two people. Where as men just want those few minutes (hours, whatever!) of pleasure and then bye-bye. So sleeping with anyone else is one of the ultimate betrayals.
Plus, do you REALLY want to have sex with a prostitute? The people to whom I have spoken think that it's a vacuous experience devoid of feeling, apart from the one of guilt. Not just of betrayal of their partner, but general guilt of visiting a prostitute. Which is quite strange, but apparantly true.
Steve.
10 July 2003, 09:29 AM
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I do feel a little guilty even contemplating it, but I didn't have many girlfriends at school/college so this is my sad way of making that up.
Theoretcially.
Edited to say, I wouldn't expect it to be a loving experience, just a **** with someone very attractive.
[Edited by rogp - 10/07/2003 09:30:31]
[Edited by rogp - 10/07/2003 09:31:43]
Theoretcially.
Edited to say, I wouldn't expect it to be a loving experience, just a **** with someone very attractive.
[Edited by rogp - 10/07/2003 09:30:31]
[Edited by rogp - 10/07/2003 09:31:43]
10 July 2003, 09:31 AM
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Rogp:
Mmmmmm... you will feel worse afterwards. Something along the lines of having to pay people to have sex with you is quite a de-moralising thing.
The exception to the above is if you are a power freak. As you are paying someone to do exactly as you say, and that's a turn on in itself.
Steve.
Mmmmmm... you will feel worse afterwards. Something along the lines of having to pay people to have sex with you is quite a de-moralising thing.
The exception to the above is if you are a power freak. As you are paying someone to do exactly as you say, and that's a turn on in itself.
Steve.
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10 July 2003, 09:33 AM
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Sex with prostitutes works out cheaper in the long run than having a relationship. At least a hoe won't ask for child support and maintainance when you split up..
10 July 2003, 09:33 AM
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Seriously, if it is the 'right' girl you would not feel the need to go off with some herpes carrying crack addict 
An STD could make for an interesting and innovative anniversary gift.
An STD could make for an interesting and innovative anniversary gift.
10 July 2003, 10:10 AM
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Go for it loads of people I know paid for one good **** before settleing down and never regretted it but take the time and pay for quality as if you do it may well be the **** of the century.
Do not be a cheap skate pay £300+ for a couple of hours of quality time and if the girl is anything less than stunning when she turns up politely explain that you want absolute stunners only and don't let the agency fob u off with anything less.
Do not be a cheap skate pay £300+ for a couple of hours of quality time and if the girl is anything less than stunning when she turns up politely explain that you want absolute stunners only and don't let the agency fob u off with anything less.
10 July 2003, 10:12 AM
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rog, if your bird is a good cook, cleaner and homemaker, but as all the aesthetic beuty of a flea ridden moose, get yourself a prozzie, bang the 4rse of it, pay your dues, and dont tell her or anyone!!!
then marry the bint if needs be.
good luck
Dazza
then marry the bint if needs be.
good luck
Dazza
10 July 2003, 10:20 AM
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If you are thinking about banging a ho then there are two thinks that spring to mind.
1) Your woman is not the right one, get out and find someone who is.
2) You think your missing out on something. I have seen plenty pro's the world over, and only was tempted once. They are meat for sale and dont bother, a grinds a grind. Cos they are profesionals dont make them better than what you have, Think about it logically they want you in out and off in the minimum time.
But if there is a group buy let me know.
1) Your woman is not the right one, get out and find someone who is.
2) You think your missing out on something. I have seen plenty pro's the world over, and only was tempted once. They are meat for sale and dont bother, a grinds a grind. Cos they are profesionals dont make them better than what you have, Think about it logically they want you in out and off in the minimum time.
But if there is a group buy let me know.
10 July 2003, 10:22 AM
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Hello! I'm married actually........ just spent lots of time in California in my past life studying sexual psychology.
The courses you can go on there........!!
Steve.
** Edited for spelling **
[Edited by boxst - 10/07/2003 10:25:15]
Hello! I'm married actually........ just spent lots of time in California in my past life studying sexual psychology.
The courses you can go on there........!!
Steve.
** Edited for spelling **
[Edited by boxst - 10/07/2003 10:25:15]
sexual psychology?
10 July 2003, 10:41 AM
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10 July 2003, 10:53 AM
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I remember i watched a program about people that visit pro's.
One guy preffered visiting pro's it cos it was cheaper than trying to pull when out on the drink.
So instead of spending a wad of cash on some girl for drinks etc...and at the end of the night he may not get a s*ag out of it, he would just go spend his £40-50 whatever, on a pro.
Seems logical if thats your thing i suppose.
One guy preffered visiting pro's it cos it was cheaper than trying to pull when out on the drink.
So instead of spending a wad of cash on some girl for drinks etc...and at the end of the night he may not get a s*ag out of it, he would just go spend his £40-50 whatever, on a pro.
Seems logical if thats your thing i suppose.
10 July 2003, 12:24 PM
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I think its very morally correct of you to want to **** a tart before commiting to marriage.
what a man wants of a GF and what he wants in a wife are two totally different things.
GF needs to be stunning, take it in trap 2 and be alround good laugh that will f*ck off if told.
Wife needs to be a good homemaker, cook, mother etc.
Values change as a man ages.
Do it, but do it with style, £300+ is a good marker whoever said that, and go for gold, as they say in all the best star wars films
Use the 4rse Luke!!
deal with guilt later, if at all.
Andy...
what a man wants of a GF and what he wants in a wife are two totally different things.
GF needs to be stunning, take it in trap 2
and be alround good laugh that will f*ck off if told.Wife needs to be a good homemaker, cook, mother etc.
Values change as a man ages.
Do it, but do it with style, £300+ is a good marker whoever said that, and go for gold, as they say in all the best star wars films
Use the 4rse Luke!!
deal with guilt later, if at all.
Andy...
10 July 2003, 12:57 PM
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It's wrong!! If you must go ahead and do it, then live with the guilt. Don't ever let your other half know what you have done (although she will somehow find out no doubt) because it will destroy her. If you think so little of her, then dump her now.
Theoretically of course!!
[Edited by red_dog104 - 10/07/2003 12:57:49]
Theoretically of course!!
[Edited by red_dog104 - 10/07/2003 12:57:49]
10 July 2003, 01:07 PM
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Hmmm - I'd have to agree with "are you sure she's right for you" comments, though it depends on the relationship.
If you have an open relationship and you know she wouldn't be at all upset about it if she found out then fair game. If you knew she'd be devastated if she found out then I'd say it's a quesiton of respect. Do you respect her enough not to risk hurting her feelings? How would you feel if she did, or was contemplating, something similar?
I'd have a good think about why you want to do it as well - if it's just for a quick, cheap last sh@g then is it really worth risking your future marriage on it?
I'm getting married in the not too distant future and I'd be absolutely devastated if I found out future hubby had had a quickie with a pro before the wedding night.
At the end of the day it's your life and your choice - but with decisions come consequences.
If you have an open relationship and you know she wouldn't be at all upset about it if she found out then fair game. If you knew she'd be devastated if she found out then I'd say it's a quesiton of respect. Do you respect her enough not to risk hurting her feelings? How would you feel if she did, or was contemplating, something similar?
I'd have a good think about why you want to do it as well - if it's just for a quick, cheap last sh@g then is it really worth risking your future marriage on it?
I'm getting married in the not too distant future and I'd be absolutely devastated if I found out future hubby had had a quickie with a pro before the wedding night.
At the end of the day it's your life and your choice - but with decisions come consequences.
10 July 2003, 01:19 PM
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but I didn't have many girlfriends at school/college so this is my sad way of making that up.
Thats the past- if the one you are with is the one for you then you would have no need to go see a tom....my personal opinion.
if its just a **** you want, then why not pick someone up and do them on a one nighter- rather than paying for it. Its still cheating when it comes down to it-regardless of the fact its being payed for.
But hey horses for courses, different strokes for different folks etc (awaiting pic of gary coleman posted now
)if you do- double bag it and make sure you get your moneys worth.
