druddle

When should you send out the invites to your wedding ?? 3 months before ?? 6 months ???

Dave

Nimbus

I can not remeber when we sent our out (mainly because my (now) wife did them ). I should think that 3 to 4 months is OK.

damian666

Around 4 months is good. 6 months, and people will forget all about it!!

Shark

I would say asap.

David

Flat 4x4

When you're really really sure.

druddle

Getting married next Feb, but i have 2 jobs, rings and invites. Am trying to sort them out asap so i dont forget all about them/get them wrong

Dave

SWRTWannabe

Check with the venue how much notice they need and make sure the RSVP date is a week or so before that so you have time to chase people up if needed.

I would allow two - three months, depending on the time of year. My sister in law is planning her wedding, which will be a summer wedding, and in advance of the invites, they sent out little notes telling people of the date well in advance so people don't go booking their holidays on the same day.

We got married last year in mid April, and sent the invites out in mid January with people expected to RSVP by the end of March.

Some still needed a reminder though

Dream Weaver

We are getting wed middle of July, invites are going out end of this month

Scooby Snacks 23

Always been told it should be 3 months.
I'm getting married on 21st June and they're going out in the next couple of weeks.

Dunk

iTrader: (1)

When you've done your wedding list

D

LC Geezer

ASAP witb an RSVP at least 3 weeks before (to allow for slackers). People get booked up for the summer so plenty of advance warning will ensure a good attendance. Send invitations to the scabby relatives you'd rather not come (we all have them, the social outcasts who nobody wants to speak to) about a week before.

Average acceptance rate is about 75%. Mind you, we had about 99% acceptance for our evening bash and went over the permissible numbers by quite a way.

Only 2 jobs? You're getting away lightly.

LCG

druddle

LC - im not trusted to do anything else

However my suit and the music are definitely gonna be my choice. Aint having no Dina Carrol/Ce Ce Peniston/Whitney Houston poop on my wedding day. Strictly a disco and jazz funk night !!

We have 40 people to the ceremony and 65 in the evening so dont really expect many no-shows....

Dave

Chrisgr31

My wedding is at the end of September and the invites are going out in June. You need to consider invites carefully or at least we did! The invites need to go out early enough so that if some people can't make it, you have enough time to invite more to fill the gaps.

Those you definitely want there you may want to tell the date before the invites go out so they can make a note and make sure they aren't on holiday.

D Brown

Traditional etiquette suggests posting them 6 weeks ahead. However, you may wish to consider having an A-list and a B-list. Especially if they are going to need to book rooms in the hotel where you're doing the booze-up and there might not be enough rooms.

A-list - 8 weeks ahead, followed by a phone call to check that they understood the need to book.

B-list 6wks

Of course this adds further complications to the decision, who is on the A-list / B-list etc.


good luck

LC Geezer

What, no "Oops up side"? No "YMCA"? Just jazz? Nice!! Smoooth! I used to be a mobile DJ and I've seen some of the cheesiest weddings in history

Having re-read your post and realised that your wedding in in Feb 2004, maybe now is a bit too soon. July would seem to be about right time to send out invites for a Feb wedding. I'll look forward to receiving mine

LCG

druddle

LOL @ LC. I too used to do mobiles and still do corporates. That is why i will shoot anyone that plays Club Tropicana. I always vowed i would never have cheesy party music at my wedding.

Dracoro

The day after the wedding Save yourself a fortune on the reception


Seriously, once the date is finalised, send out the invitations asap. The more notice the better.

LC Geezer

So, you won't be having Lady In Red as your song then!!!

Another tip for would be wedding organisers - keep the number of kids to a minimum. They tend to spend the evening running around on the dance floor which stops the adults from strutting their stuff. With lots of kids about, the party will never really get going and will be dominated by Agadoo style music. ARRRGGGGGHHHHHH

LCG

druddle

Nah, its Whitney Houston - I Will Always Love You or Will Young - Evergreen for me......

ragnarock2

All depends, if it is a summer wedding, then the earlier the better (so people dont bugger off and book their summer hols)

edited coz i can't smell proberley

[Edited by ragnarock2 - 3/10/2003 11:49:31 AM]