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Been with my misses over 3years now and we have got a kid together, but over the last few months we have been drifting apart, and it seems like were only together for my kid at the mo. Were both in our early 20s. There is someone else that i like at the mo so how do you think i should deal with the situation? I dont think we should be together just for my kid because tis not fair on either of us, but i also dont want to cheat on her.
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You need to grow up and face up to your responsibilities. Go see a counsellor and try to find out how you both feel about things. Take your brains out of your ******* and forget the OP until you sort yourself and the future of your child out.
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kids just seem to be an accessory to some people these days, perhaps you should have waited until you had grown up a bit and in a long-term stable relationship before having a child!
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There's nothing wrong - this is as Chip say's your ball bag leading your brains. The only reason you're growing apart is that you're only focusing on the OP not your missus. There is an old saying that's true... something about green grass, you'd do very well to dwell on that saying.
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Been with my misses over 3years now and we have got a kid together, but over the last few months we have been drifting apart, and it seems like were only together for my kid at the mo. Were both in our early 20s. There is someone else that i like at the mo so how do you think i should deal with the situation? I dont think we should be together just for my kid because tis not fair on either of us, but i also dont want to cheat on her.
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Why did you have a child if you weren't sure that you and the mother would be together for at least longer than 3 years? It does come across as a little Jeremy Kyle.
By the way I'm "only" 26 and have just had a little lad with my long term partner (of nearly 7 years) and I love her more now than ever!!
Reading your post you just seem to want to forget about your responsibilities to both the current Mrs and 'kid', and just go out and have fun. Sorry fella, not gonna happen.
By the way I'm "only" 26 and have just had a little lad with my long term partner (of nearly 7 years) and I love her more now than ever!!
Reading your post you just seem to want to forget about your responsibilities to both the current Mrs and 'kid', and just go out and have fun. Sorry fella, not gonna happen.
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So you were mature enough to have a child but not to work on your relationship?
Seriously gets on my nerves when couples get a little bit bored in the bedroom department and then decide it must be over.
Imagine how I feel. Mrs decided she is ready to have a baby (been together for 11 years, married for 3) so we start ******** like absolute rabbits. Falls pregnant and now sex is kind of a distant memory (although who really wants to **** a fatty anyway! )
What should I do? Run to the first bit of stuff that opens her legs, or stick my wife and support her?
Be a man for your child and at least make the effort to save your relationship.
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Why did you have a child if you weren't sure that you and the mother would be together for at least longer than 3 years? It does come across as a little Jeremy Kyle.
By the way I'm "only" 26 and have just had a little lad with my long term partner (of nearly 7 years) and I love her more now than ever!!
Reading your post you just seem to want to forget about your responsibilities to both the current Mrs and 'kid', and just go out and have fun. Sorry fella, not gonna happen.
By the way I'm "only" 26 and have just had a little lad with my long term partner (of nearly 7 years) and I love her more now than ever!!
Reading your post you just seem to want to forget about your responsibilities to both the current Mrs and 'kid', and just go out and have fun. Sorry fella, not gonna happen.
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11 years this year.
TBH, with a very low post count and coming on here with what could very likely be bait, I'd have to ask for bread with both girls before giving a serious answer. (They'd also have to be topless or it doesn't count)
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He's got a kid so has responsibilities. Admittedly I think that early 20's is way to young to decide you have met the right person 'cos you are still finding out who you are, it seems that is what this guys issue is (the relationship) rather than wanting freedom to just horse it up any woman he feels like?
Seriosuly if it's not working out then best deal with it like adults and don't stick with it for the kid, because you will end up being unhappy, resenting the kid, and they will feel that so everyone ends up unhappy.
Seriosuly if it's not working out then best deal with it like adults and don't stick with it for the kid, because you will end up being unhappy, resenting the kid, and they will feel that so everyone ends up unhappy.
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Been there done it
Left my missis for a 19 yr old bird
What's happening is your finding problems/arguments just so you can walk out, I honestly bet you a grand your missis isn't the problem and it's you causing the crap to make it easier to walk .....like I said my missis was perfect but I kept finding things to cause problems to make it easy for me
You will regret it if what I said is true , fortunate for me my missis let me back and it's never really been mentioned since
If it's that bad at home.............sure there will be a local massage parlour local to you
Left my missis for a 19 yr old bird
What's happening is your finding problems/arguments just so you can walk out, I honestly bet you a grand your missis isn't the problem and it's you causing the crap to make it easier to walk .....like I said my missis was perfect but I kept finding things to cause problems to make it easy for me
You will regret it if what I said is true , fortunate for me my missis let me back and it's never really been mentioned since
If it's that bad at home.............sure there will be a local massage parlour local to you
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I've been there and done the 'honorable' thing of respecting a mate but if I was in that position again I'd just think of myself. All is fair in love and war etc and if you feel strongly for a women you should be prepared to sacrifice your mate for her.
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A word of warning though - it gets expensive and you might leave with more than just a smelly c*ock