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Sit down and talk, do you communicate anymore or just live together. A relationship needs constant work but it is far to easy to walk out, kids or not.

I bet when you go off and find the csa has been to your work and left you with £600 in your wage packet each month till your kid turns 18 then you will wish you stayed with her

bugeyejohn

iTrader: (11)

+1

Chip

Spoken with experience

Chip

I feel there is a bit of a drought coming danscoobs way though

Leslie

That attitude is just an easy excuse.

Your responsibilities are very much towards your child and also towards your wife.

The effect on your child can be devastating.

You made the early decisions, you should live by them. You asked the question!

Les

GlesgaKiss

Have you considered running away? Honestly, just open your front door, check your bird isn't looking, and then run like f*ck down the road.

Alternatively you could try sh@gging her sister if she has one?

jonc

Here's your real reason why you don't think you shouldn't be together. Does your other half know? There is always going to be "someone else"!! Well, how about you take full-time responsibility for your child and your other half goes off with "someone else"?

Here's how to handle it, grow a spine and face your responsibilities.

donny andi

iTrader: (3)

and get some pics up of her , if she's ok whack her number up aswel so we can nip round and give her a shoulder to cry on......it'll save ya mates nipping round

fatherpierre

You've shown your immaturity by posting on here, asking for advice and not actually describing in any depth why you feel it's not working.

Sounds like the classic too much too young, as the Specials sang about, well before you were born.

Been there and done that, but thankfully there was no child. You have one, though, and he/she should be your number 1 concern - you helped bring the kid into this world, so the child shouldn't be made to suffer.

Rather than post on here, why not actually talk to your spouse? How would you feel if she feels the same, is considering dipping her toe with someone else and has posted her thoughts on public site?

Good luck. I feel you're going to need more than that.

Lisawrx

iTrader: (1)

I'm actually pleasantly surprised by some of the responses here.

Nobody wants to be unhappy in life, but nowadays (and I'm not much older than you) it seems instead of working out why, or more importantly trying to fix the problems, people are running away from it all. This situation is made so much worse because there is a child involved imo.

Granted, if you walk away, you may well not neglect your responsibilities to your child, but that aside I think you need to have a long sit down and look at what you think the problems are....growing apart is an easy comment to make, but why should be the focus. I think you need to be very sure what you really want before ******** about or walking away, as you may not get the chance to come back when your personal crisis is over.

If you both have no love left towards each other, discuss how best to move on with life, but judging by the OP, this seems like a matter of some issues at home and you eyeing up a bit of skirt, as said earlier, thinking the grass is greener. Does your partner even know how you feel, or that there is a problem? Does she even feel like you are drifting apart, or is this a reaction to too much responsibility and seeing less on offer?

IMO, unless she is some real **** of a person, don't just go and cheat on her. Even if you are no longer in love with her, she doesn't deserve that!

bigsinky

this is a wind up right? what sane person comes onto a car forum looking for relationship advice. do yo ever go out ffs? man up and grow a set of ***** ffs. happy enough to **** her, happy enough to see her up the skite, happy enough for her to have a child, now because it's an inconvienience you want to walk away. as has been said before you need to grow up, talk to your wife, get some counselling. relationships take a lot of work and you don't seem to want to even try.