relation advice needed!
 

Been with my misses over 3years now and we have got a kid together, but over the last few months we have been drifting apart, and it seems like were only together for my kid at the mo. Were both in our early 20s. There is someone else that i like at the mo so how do you think i should deal with the situation? I dont think we should be together just for my kid because tis not fair on either of us, but i also dont want to cheat on her.

Life is to short to be miserable. Just tell your misses how it is. Its also not good for the child if you two dont get on anymore.

You need to grow up and face up to your responsibilities. Go see a counsellor and try to find out how you both feel about things. Take your brains out of your ballbag and forget the OP until you sort yourself and the future of your child out.

Chip

Post naked photos of both women and we'll be able to advise you better. :thumb:

TTIUWP


Only way to be sure.

+1

kids just seem to be an accessory to some people these days, perhaps you should have waited until you had grown up a bit and in a long-term stable relationship before having a child!

There's nothing wrong - this is as Chip say's your ball bag leading your brains. The only reason you're growing apart is that you're only focusing on the OP not your missus. There is an old saying that's true... something about green grass, you'd do very well to dwell on that saying.

Tell your mrs that unless she offers head on a more regular basis then you are going to weigh one into some other tart you have met

Chop :thumb:

Sorry, but that's very normal. Just a "few" months"??!! Wake up and smell the coffee. Stop being so selfish both to your kid (especially your kid!) and your wife/GF/whatever and keep your dick in your pants when around other women! Basically, grow up.

Dave

Kids having kids...

People should be vetted for having children if you ask me.

Early 20's ?

Lifes too short

Go and have some fun

My suggestion would be suicide. You clearly have nothing to offer your child or any women, so the human race would be better off without you.

Why did you have a child if you weren't sure that you and the mother would be together for at least longer than 3 years? It does come across as a little Jeremy Kyle.

By the way I'm "only" 26 and have just had a little lad with my long term partner (of nearly 7 years) and I love her more now than ever!!

Reading your post you just seem to want to forget about your responsibilities to both the current Mrs and 'kid', and just go out and have fun. Sorry fella, not gonna happen.

Totally agree.
So you were mature enough to have a child but not to work on your relationship?
Seriously gets on my nerves when couples get a little bit bored in the bedroom department and then decide it must be over. :rolleyes:

Imagine how I feel. Mrs decided she is ready to have a baby (been together for 11 years, married for 3) so we start shagging like absolute rabbits. Falls pregnant and now sex is kind of a distant memory (although who really wants to shag a fatty anyway! :D )

What should I do? Run to the first bit of stuff that opens her legs, or stick my wife and support her? :razz:


Be a man for your child and at least make the effort to save your relationship.

And if he does I bet you and will be picking up the bill! :rolleyes:

You're really not trying - 23, together for ooh, 4 months, teenage pregnancy FTW. :D

11 years this year. :)

TBH, with a very low post count and coming on here with what could very likely be bait, I'd have to ask for bread with both girls before giving a serious answer. (They'd also have to be topless or it doesn't count)

I smell me a lynching.

And a police officer suggesting suicide.:cuckoo:

speak to this man http://www.itv.com/lifestyle/jeremykyle/beaguest/

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He's got a kid so has responsibilities. Admittedly I think that early 20's is way to young to decide you have met the right person 'cos you are still finding out who you are, it seems that is what this guys issue is (the relationship) rather than wanting freedom to just horse it up any woman he feels like?:)

Seriosuly if it's not working out then best deal with it like adults and don't stick with it for the kid, because you will end up being unhappy, resenting the kid, and they will feel that so everyone ends up unhappy.

Been there done it :cuckoo:
Left my missis for a 19 yr old bird :brickwall
What's happening is your finding problems/arguments just so you can walk out, I honestly bet you a grand your missis isn't the problem and it's you causing the crap to make it easier to walk .....like I said my missis was perfect but I kept finding things to cause problems to make it easy for me

You will regret it if what I said is true , fortunate for me my missis let me back and it's never really been mentioned since :thumb:

If it's that bad at home.............sure there will be a local massage parlour local to you :norty:

Do not leave your missus, work on it and do not think with your dick.

For the sake of your child, yes, you should stay.

And just think whilst your out with your new bird...............one of ya mates could be hammering her :eek:

If they were doing that they aren't mates in fairness, but get your point.


Hmm, John Terrys been quiet of recent, so has Ashley Cole :D

I've been there and done the 'honorable' thing of respecting a mate but if I was in that position again I'd just think of myself. All is fair in love and war etc and if you feel strongly for a women you should be prepared to sacrifice your mate for her.

Good advice here. If you are finding it tough with the one bird, pay some cash and shag a whore. You will feel much better - if not a little soiled.

A word of warning though - it gets expensive and you might leave with more than just a smelly c*ock :)

The grass is greener where you water it.