Kieran_Burns

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This chap would have to be great. Kierans are always great

and modest.


(glad to hear it went so well!)

CREWJ

Blimey, just read the thread and your blog. Glad to hear it all went so well

Snazy

Cheers mate, im happy with how it went, was textbook. Lovely to hear all about her too

lol how unexpected!

I wont take any credit for being anything special, its just the way I decided i would deal with it years back, just after the break. No point getting angry about it all in reality, gets you nowhere.

Regular contact would be amazing, and her mother and stepdad seem happy with this also. The most touching moment was being told he has never been "dad" as such. Kind of made me feel relevent again.

lol @ slow day in the pup, glad I gave you something to do.

Snazy

Well, a little sooner than expected, I got a phonecall last night from what appeared to be my daughters mum. Answering the phone but having a poor connection it took a while to hear properly, but eventually I heard, "hi, its Sian"

I said hi back, and she continued. Thanking me for removing the blog I did about her, then saying while she appreciates my blog is MINE, she would prefer it if I took pictures and mentions of her off it, as she didnt want to be on the net like that. I agreed and said I would do it right away.
Moving on she then said she was not happy with the way I had represented her stepdad, calling him her 'dad' in commas had been taken offensively by her. She went on to say she loved him to pieces and had always been there for her... Which I totally get too.

Finally she referenced that I had been in the pub with friends before her mums arrival, and felt this was uncivilised of me, as I was meant to be meeting her mum and stepdad for a talk. I guess I can see where she was coming from, misunderstanding thinking I expected them present at the talk.

Finished with what she had to say, she said it was nice to have talked, and maybe she would call me some time.

She wasnt rude about anything, always polite and articulate, but I got the impression I might have caused offence to someone.
So I called her stepdad this morning and had a good chat with him. No harm had been done, and he just explained that she was a little confused about the whole situation, and sometimes runs wild when she gets like that. Again, understandable.

In reality I guess its helpful to have something structured to say for your first conversation in 12 years, nice or otherwise. Just have to see what happens next now

fitzscoob

Hi Snazy,

It could be something trivial like she felt like she needed an excuse to call as it were, and she used the minor niggles as the lever she needed to start pushing buttons on the phone.

The good thing is that the ice has been broken, and hopefully from Sian's point of view now there will be much less trepidation in speaking with you in the future.

Fingers crossed!

Snazy

Yup thats exactly what I was thinking, otherwise its the silent, urrrm phoncall lol.
Fingers crossed indeed that we are both right. My missus thinks this too,