Relationship advice needed
23 July 2008, 05:54 PM
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Belter!! On the related videos is one of my favourite clips...
Bakerboy, be thankful. Your bird could be a dirty skank!
YouTube - Girl Gets Dumped On Radio
Bakerboy, be thankful. Your bird could be a dirty skank!
YouTube - Girl Gets Dumped On Radio
23 July 2008, 06:08 PM
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YOU are right....you deserve to be happy...she obv is not bringing any happiness and sounds like a right madam. Move out theres plenty of nice young ladies out there. Enjoy yourself and dont get hooked on here because you feel sorry for her. No offence intended but she sounds like a right case.....
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23 July 2008, 06:11 PM
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24 July 2008, 04:22 PM
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thanks again guys,
update:
Ive handed in my notice etc and suprisingly the landlord is ok about it, we seem to have meutual respect for one another now.
She is very apologetic and wants to be back with me after finishing things, i'm being hard and saying I need space but it's breaking her heart and no matter what I say she is convinced that we are meant to be and soulmates etc etc.
The good times were great, but the way she hurts me when everything is seemingly fine I will never forget,
She wants to spend time with me, watching dvd's etc - it's really hard to keep saying no; what should I do??
update:
Ive handed in my notice etc and suprisingly the landlord is ok about it, we seem to have meutual respect for one another now.
She is very apologetic and wants to be back with me after finishing things, i'm being hard and saying I need space but it's breaking her heart and no matter what I say she is convinced that we are meant to be and soulmates etc etc.
The good times were great, but the way she hurts me when everything is seemingly fine I will never forget,
She wants to spend time with me, watching dvd's etc - it's really hard to keep saying no; what should I do??
24 July 2008, 04:29 PM
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She needs the shock of losing you to do something about her drinking. Having half of you isn't going to help her or you.
Maybe one day you can be together, who knows, she can't be written off completely but that day isn't today.
24 July 2008, 04:45 PM
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You already know the answer to that mate, I think! If I might liken it to that famous scene in the Karate Kid
Relationship do - Safe
Relationship don't do -Safe
Relationship sort of do - Squish like grape!
She's not your problem anymore!
Her name wouldn't be Sarah would it
?!?!?!
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Relationship do - Safe
Relationship don't do -Safe
Relationship sort of do - Squish like grape!
She's not your problem anymore!
Her name wouldn't be Sarah would it
?!?!?!Ns04
24 July 2008, 05:19 PM
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Haha her name isn't Sarah no but I also know a psycho Sarah
I must of told her for 4 days now that she needs to respect my space but she keeps coming to me by text or in person asking to talk again and again she says she misses me and is very sorry wont happen again etc and I find it very difficult to ignore someone I still have feelings for and who is depressed it's a nightmare i'll give it that.
I move out in 3 weeks, but am worried about keeping on rejecting her might result in her doing something silly, and when she keeps talking to me and making me feel guilty for hurting and pushing her away is getting too much now.
I won't be living with a woman again any time soon that's for sure
I must of told her for 4 days now that she needs to respect my space but she keeps coming to me by text or in person asking to talk again and again she says she misses me and is very sorry wont happen again etc and I find it very difficult to ignore someone I still have feelings for and who is depressed it's a nightmare i'll give it that.
I move out in 3 weeks, but am worried about keeping on rejecting her might result in her doing something silly, and when she keeps talking to me and making me feel guilty for hurting and pushing her away is getting too much now.
I won't be living with a woman again any time soon that's for sure
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24 July 2008, 05:32 PM
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Belter!! On the related videos is one of my favourite clips...
Bakerboy, be thankful. Your bird could be a dirty skank!
YouTube - Girl Gets Dumped On Radio
Bakerboy, be thankful. Your bird could be a dirty skank!
YouTube - Girl Gets Dumped On Radio
I gotta be cruel to be kind, grit my teeth and not be soft when she flutters her eyelids
24 July 2008, 08:50 PM
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By having to actually write this you are saying that there are major problems. I mean, when you get to the point of putting it all in words on a forum to strangers, things are probably beyond repair.
Sorry to be harsh, but I would get the **** out of dodge. You obviously aren't happy, and it doesnt sound as if you are going to be happy if you stay with her.
Sorry to be harsh, but I would get the **** out of dodge. You obviously aren't happy, and it doesnt sound as if you are going to be happy if you stay with her.
25 July 2008, 09:59 AM
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ok its borderline harrassment now, she woke me up this morning at 7am saying she wasnt feeling well and shaking etc, keeps hearing things and when i went to get ready for work she stopped me and kept trying to hug me etc
what the hell do i do now??
what the hell do i do now??
25 July 2008, 10:03 AM
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You DO realise she's using you as an emotional crutch
25 July 2008, 10:07 AM
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If at all possible find somewhere to stay for the remaining 3 weeks. It's going to be hell, you are going to have to watch this bird fall to bits if you stay there, and are you strong enough to walk away?
She'll get over it. You need to move out and sever *all* ties . Now.
She'll get over it. You need to move out and sever *all* ties . Now.
25 July 2008, 10:26 AM
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You not got any mates fella? If so now is the time to call in a favour or two and get on their couch for a few weeks. If they're a really good mate they'll let you have a crack at their sister as well.
PS leave the psycho now!
PS leave the psycho now!
25 July 2008, 11:13 AM
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I don't get why blokes feel they need to stay with mental women. Is it fear of not finding a woman in the future then if so don't worry. Once women hit 30 they're desperate and mentally scared from previous blokes fukking them over. Just say a few things they want to hear and you can play then so easily. don't look to settle down with one of these though... you need to keep shopping int he 24-27 year old market. They're a bit more worldly wise than the young ones but naive enough that you can still mould them.
Good luck fella!
Good luck fella!
25 July 2008, 11:15 AM
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There is the danger in that age bracket that all they keep going on about is having kids, though.
25 July 2008, 11:19 AM
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you can normally shelve that though by convincing them that they're career is just starting to take off and it would be foolish to consider kids until a few more years down the line.
25 July 2008, 11:24 AM
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25 July 2008, 11:26 AM
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I should take my own advice I think... I'm actually going to Opera in the park this weekend because of a bird 
women don't fully know the power of the ***** it's fair to say
women don't fully know the power of the ***** it's fair to say
25 July 2008, 02:13 PM
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Problem is guys, that I've just paid this months rent in advance so from a financial point of view I can't move to my new place yet otherwise i'll be paying two lots of rent at the same time and that isn't possible at this moment in time.
Ihave mates yeh, but they are all married or taken for and wouldn't have me in their house because of kids etc - it's just not viable with the mates I got
Damn this is hard
Ihave mates yeh, but they are all married or taken for and wouldn't have me in their house because of kids etc - it's just not viable with the mates I got
Damn this is hard
25 July 2008, 02:17 PM
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Problem is guys, that I've just paid this months rent in advance so from a financial point of view I can't move to my new place yet otherwise i'll be paying two lots of rent at the same time and that isn't possible at this moment in time.
Ihave mates yeh, but they are all married or taken for and wouldn't have me in their house because of kids etc - it's just not viable with the mates I got
Damn this is hard
Ihave mates yeh, but they are all married or taken for and wouldn't have me in their house because of kids etc - it's just not viable with the mates I got
Damn this is hard
25 July 2008, 02:20 PM
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Problem is guys, that I've just paid this months rent in advance so from a financial point of view I can't move to my new place yet otherwise i'll be paying two lots of rent at the same time and that isn't possible at this moment in time.
Ihave mates yeh, but they are all married or taken for and wouldn't have me in their house because of kids etc - it's just not viable with the mates I got
Damn this is hard
Ihave mates yeh, but they are all married or taken for and wouldn't have me in their house because of kids etc - it's just not viable with the mates I got
Damn this is hard
