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Sara, I have just been told that my mother who is pretty old, is badly affected by the hot weather and is seriously dehydrated. They are saying she may not recover so I am pretty upset too now. She is on drip feed so we can only hope for the best.
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Originally Posted by Leslie
Sara, I have just been told that my mother who is pretty old, is badly affected by the hot weather and is seriously dehydrated. They are saying she may not recover so I am pretty upset too now. She is on drip feed so we can only hope for the best.
Les
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its very easy for the elderly and sick to suffer in this weather. hopefully she will be re-hydrated soon and be ok, i will keep my fingers crossed for you, good luck
my mum is the same as yesterday, at least she is no worse. i am glad she is in hospital as i was so worried with her at home, she wasnt drinking enough either
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keeping positive is the best thing i can do right now and this thread always pulls me back from a dark place. its not always appropriate to call someone on the phone but here its 24/7....bit like the samaratins(sp) 
mind you - I can just imagine some of us turning up for an interview with the Samaritans - Well I know I wouldn't get the job
Say hello to your Mum from Jasey - Then offer her your hand as a hand shake from me. When she goes to shake your hand pull your hand away put your thumb on your nose, wave your hand and say "School girl Error" - It's what I'd do if I was there
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Maybe Simon can get some funding for our charity work.
mind you - I can just imagine some of us turning up for an interview with the Samaritans - Well I know I wouldn't get the job
Say hello to your Mum from Jasey - Then offer her your hand as a hand shake from me. When she goes to shake your hand pull your hand away put your thumb on your nose, wave your hand and say "School girl Error" - It's what I'd do if I was there
mind you - I can just imagine some of us turning up for an interview with the Samaritans - Well I know I wouldn't get the job
Say hello to your Mum from Jasey - Then offer her your hand as a hand shake from me. When she goes to shake your hand pull your hand away put your thumb on your nose, wave your hand and say "School girl Error" - It's what I'd do if I was there
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been up to visit mum in hospital but i had to leave as it was so upsetting. mum is unable to wake up properly and is rambling a lot. she looks awful
i couldnt stay and watch. there seems no reason for her decline other than the brain tumours taking over. she is in a Urology ward and the staff admitted they have no cancer training. they are making plans to move her into a hospice.
i am hoping that tomorrow will be better................
in the meantime i amm going to have a big drink(s)
i couldnt stay and watch. there seems no reason for her decline other than the brain tumours taking over. she is in a Urology ward and the staff admitted they have no cancer training. they are making plans to move her into a hospice.
i am hoping that tomorrow will be better................
in the meantime i amm going to have a big drink(s)
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Hugs to you Sara.. think you need one.. (and a drink , too)
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Its good to let your hair down once in a while Sara, you go for it :norty
I hope everybody is ok and looking after one another.
I know I may not be a close friend of anyone of you, but my thoughts are with you all.
Anthony
P.S What does RAZZ mean, in the smilies section mean?
I hope everybody is ok and looking after one another.
I know I may not be a close friend of anyone of you, but my thoughts are with you all.
Anthony
P.S What does RAZZ mean, in the smilies section mean?
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i cant believe we have reached this stage already..
have had a **** day today. i thought mum was on the mend as she has been looking a bit better every day, but the cancer specialist came to see us..............mum has started the decline. we have beem told that mum only has a couple of weeks left. she is no longer out-putting( bodily functions are beginning to break down). it is possible that mum only has days left to live. i wont post anymore tonight as i cant think straight 
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Sara,
Reading this thread makes you realise that sometimes we all forget about the things that are really important to us in life, and how much we all take certain things for granted. We spend our time all too often in pursuit of material wealth and superficial nonsense. Sadly it often takes an insidious and indiscriminate disease like cancer or suchlike to make us wake up and see what is really important to us. Treasure the time that you have left with your mum Sara, and remember, there are many things that cancer cannot do:
It cannot cripple love
It cannot shatter hope
It cannot corrode faith
It cannot destroy peace
It cannot kill friendship
It cannot silence courage
It cannot invade the soul
It cannot steal eternal life
It cannot conquer the sprit
And most importantly, it cannot suppress memories.
All the very best to you, your family, and your mother during this very difficult time.
Reading this thread makes you realise that sometimes we all forget about the things that are really important to us in life, and how much we all take certain things for granted. We spend our time all too often in pursuit of material wealth and superficial nonsense. Sadly it often takes an insidious and indiscriminate disease like cancer or suchlike to make us wake up and see what is really important to us. Treasure the time that you have left with your mum Sara, and remember, there are many things that cancer cannot do:
It cannot cripple love
It cannot shatter hope
It cannot corrode faith
It cannot destroy peace
It cannot kill friendship
It cannot silence courage
It cannot invade the soul
It cannot steal eternal life
It cannot conquer the sprit
And most importantly, it cannot suppress memories.
All the very best to you, your family, and your mother during this very difficult time.
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Hi Sara,
Nothing original to say, just that we're all rooting for you and thinking warm fluffy thoughts...
Feel free to call or text if you want a semi-stranger to rail at.
SB xx
Nothing original to say, just that we're all rooting for you and thinking warm fluffy thoughts...
Feel free to call or text if you want a semi-stranger to rail at.
SB xx
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yeah, thanks unclescoob 
i am needing to do an update as a lot has happened this week............
things had been looking up as mum was recovering from her chest and bladder infection, she was looking better every day, but on Monday we had a visit from a specialist. she told us that mum was in a steep decline. they could see this as we have taken photos in from our holiday and the difference in mum from then to now is dramatic. they asked mum if she wants to be resusitated when the time comes and if she would wants food to be withheld. this was a horrible shock as we didnt realise that mum was so close to this happening.
we have been trying to get mum into a hospice all week but they are all full.
mum will never come home again, she can hardly move anymore. her right arm has become useless and her eyes are failing. mentally mum is very upbeat and positive, and even telling jokes. she has told us that she is ready, she is very calm and at peace about the whole thing.....we are not.
she was given a bed that has air circulating in it as she has been in one position for a week now and this must have been very uncomfortable for her. mum is asleep most of the time but when she is awake she is as bright as a button. its her body that is failing her.it looks like the cancer may have gone into her spine as she is in a lot of pain now. she has stopped eating and her saline drip has been removed. i am hoping we can get her into a hospice soon as i dont want her to die on the 7th floor of a hospital where her only view out of the window is more windows. i want her to be able to see flowers and things. i am coping ok for now, but it is the hardest thing i have ever had to deal with. i desperately dont want to lose my mum but knowing i will any time now is very painfull.
i hope everyone else is faring a bit better than we are
i am needing to do an update as a lot has happened this week............
things had been looking up as mum was recovering from her chest and bladder infection, she was looking better every day, but on Monday we had a visit from a specialist. she told us that mum was in a steep decline. they could see this as we have taken photos in from our holiday and the difference in mum from then to now is dramatic. they asked mum if she wants to be resusitated when the time comes and if she would wants food to be withheld. this was a horrible shock as we didnt realise that mum was so close to this happening.
we have been trying to get mum into a hospice all week but they are all full.
mum will never come home again, she can hardly move anymore. her right arm has become useless and her eyes are failing. mentally mum is very upbeat and positive, and even telling jokes. she has told us that she is ready, she is very calm and at peace about the whole thing.....we are not.
she was given a bed that has air circulating in it as she has been in one position for a week now and this must have been very uncomfortable for her. mum is asleep most of the time but when she is awake she is as bright as a button. its her body that is failing her.it looks like the cancer may have gone into her spine as she is in a lot of pain now. she has stopped eating and her saline drip has been removed. i am hoping we can get her into a hospice soon as i dont want her to die on the 7th floor of a hospital where her only view out of the window is more windows. i want her to be able to see flowers and things. i am coping ok for now, but it is the hardest thing i have ever had to deal with. i desperately dont want to lose my mum but knowing i will any time now is very painfull.
i hope everyone else is faring a bit better than we are
Sarah I know what you are going through and I really feel for you as nobody should go through it. It is hard to prepare for what is going to happen but it will happen, sorry to be blunt. I know you have been strong throughout this but you need to stay strong for those others around you.
We couldnt get my mum into a hospice as the local one was totally full, and she decided she wanted to stay at home. This was at a stage when she was bed ridden, and had nurses come round to clean her up etc. With my mum the cancer actually got to her brain and towards the end she couldnt recognise anyone and was seeing hallucinations etc it was the worst time of my life. For the last few days she did slip into a deep sleep before sadly passing away. It was still a shock even though we were told about 6 weeks before that cancer had returned (she had beaten in once) and that there was nothing that could be done as it was too advanced, about a week later she was bed ridden. I am glad that you have spent a lot of quality time with your mum doing various things whilst you still could, I wish I had that opportunity with my mum.
All the best for you and your family Sarah, things wont be easy but I hope they are (if you know what I mean)
We couldnt get my mum into a hospice as the local one was totally full, and she decided she wanted to stay at home. This was at a stage when she was bed ridden, and had nurses come round to clean her up etc. With my mum the cancer actually got to her brain and towards the end she couldnt recognise anyone and was seeing hallucinations etc it was the worst time of my life. For the last few days she did slip into a deep sleep before sadly passing away. It was still a shock even though we were told about 6 weeks before that cancer had returned (she had beaten in once) and that there was nothing that could be done as it was too advanced, about a week later she was bed ridden. I am glad that you have spent a lot of quality time with your mum doing various things whilst you still could, I wish I had that opportunity with my mum.
All the best for you and your family Sarah, things wont be easy but I hope they are (if you know what I mean)
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thanks jaytc.
you had a tough time
we was hoping that mums brain tumours would mean that she would go without any pain. so far she has lost the use of her arm and her eyesight is going. the fact that her brain is otherwise unafected is horrible as she is aware of all her pain and stuff. originally mum wanted to die at home but it was pointed out that her lungs could bleed and lots of horrible stuff may happen. my dad isnt coping very well as it is so we decided that it would be too difficult for him and not in mums best interests. we were told that mum has days rather than weeks, but nothing is certain. it is my birthday on Saturday and i couldnt face it if she goes then as it would be a horrible reminder every year.
my daughter is finding it very difficult as she was very close to her nan. my nan is still alive but she is being very strong. she says it should be her not her daughter. i have been going to bed dreading the call
you had a tough time
we was hoping that mums brain tumours would mean that she would go without any pain. so far she has lost the use of her arm and her eyesight is going. the fact that her brain is otherwise unafected is horrible as she is aware of all her pain and stuff. originally mum wanted to die at home but it was pointed out that her lungs could bleed and lots of horrible stuff may happen. my dad isnt coping very well as it is so we decided that it would be too difficult for him and not in mums best interests. we were told that mum has days rather than weeks, but nothing is certain. it is my birthday on Saturday and i couldnt face it if she goes then as it would be a horrible reminder every year.
my daughter is finding it very difficult as she was very close to her nan. my nan is still alive but she is being very strong. she says it should be her not her daughter. i have been going to bed dreading the call
