How Handle someone being rude to wife?
01 March 2011, 10:51 PM
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How Handle someone being rude to wife?
The wife and I are booked onto a Tennis course every Tuesday from 8 - 9pm.
There are 12 of us on the course. We always have the same 3 courts together (booked and paid for) and a coach is there every week.
We started on the first two courts as only 8 people had turned up at 8pm.
There were four "Gentlemen" on the third court who carried on playing on the third court (no problem afaic as we didn't need it straight away) at 8.05pm the remaining 4 turn up and start getting racquets ready etc.
My wife started to pull the netting back (by now it's 8.10pm) on the third court (They only had the court booked to 8pm)
This chap then said "Listen and Learn, Love. We are going to finish our game"
Now - I only found this out later when we were finished and sat in the bar having a well earned beer.
So the Question is this:
1) Ladies of ScoobyNet - What would you want your other half to do / say next week if the chap was there.
2) Gents of ScoobyNet - What would you do?
We have a plan of action (having ruled out breaking his nose)
Rude Fvcker.
It's a good job I'm maturing a bit as I get older as a few years back I'd have offered him out!
There are 12 of us on the course. We always have the same 3 courts together (booked and paid for) and a coach is there every week.
We started on the first two courts as only 8 people had turned up at 8pm.
There were four "Gentlemen" on the third court who carried on playing on the third court (no problem afaic as we didn't need it straight away) at 8.05pm the remaining 4 turn up and start getting racquets ready etc.
My wife started to pull the netting back (by now it's 8.10pm) on the third court (They only had the court booked to 8pm)
This chap then said "Listen and Learn, Love. We are going to finish our game"
Now - I only found this out later when we were finished and sat in the bar having a well earned beer.
So the Question is this:
1) Ladies of ScoobyNet - What would you want your other half to do / say next week if the chap was there.
2) Gents of ScoobyNet - What would you do?
We have a plan of action (having ruled out breaking his nose)
Rude Fvcker.
It's a good job I'm maturing a bit as I get older as a few years back I'd have offered him out!
01 March 2011, 10:56 PM
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Get there very early next week and find out what car he drives. While he is on court let his tyres down and leave a note saying 'These were let down at 8:01pm ;-)" 
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01 March 2011, 11:19 PM
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Yes - I think it was rude.
Normally we have no issue with letting people finish a point or sometimes even a game.
These guys have repeatedly stayed over their time. Most times it's not an issue as we can manage till 8.15pm as a good number of people on the course arrive late due to work etc.
The thing that GETS me is what he said
"Listen and Learn Love, We are going to finish our game"
Who the fvck does he think he is?
I guess I'm feeling protective. I wouldn't talk to my wife that way - how is it he feels able to do so?
I guess I'M lucky I didn't hear it at the time because I think my reaction could have caused a scene.
I would have insisted that he apologised for his comment - If he didn't, I WOULD have asked him to step outside so I could teach him some manners.
(Possibly getting myself battered but don't be rude to my wife!!!)
Normally we have no issue with letting people finish a point or sometimes even a game.
These guys have repeatedly stayed over their time. Most times it's not an issue as we can manage till 8.15pm as a good number of people on the course arrive late due to work etc.
The thing that GETS me is what he said
"Listen and Learn Love, We are going to finish our game"
Who the fvck does he think he is?
I guess I'm feeling protective. I wouldn't talk to my wife that way - how is it he feels able to do so?
I guess I'M lucky I didn't hear it at the time because I think my reaction could have caused a scene.
I would have insisted that he apologised for his comment - If he didn't, I WOULD have asked him to step outside so I could teach him some manners.
(Possibly getting myself battered but don't be rude to my wife!!!)
01 March 2011, 11:20 PM
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Get there before he does & play on his court when it's his session.
If he says anything you already know what to say.
If he says anything you already know what to say.
01 March 2011, 11:24 PM
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Nxt week when you attend make sure you arrive 5/10mins early and when you get there tell the ppl on court 1,2 and 3 that your booking starts at 8pm and you will be starting at that time. I woud also single out this "Gentleman" and explain firmly/dont fck with me that I was not happy with the way he spoke to MY wife and that you expect him to apologise. If he doesnt then explain he`ll have to "Listen and Learn, Love" at this point kick his fckin *** !!! Cheeky fcker
01 March 2011, 11:50 PM
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Saying that, come the next match, if he is there again and the game runs on even a minute past, I'd get your missus to pipe up. If his response is the same, she can easily put him in his place. I'd be fairly polite/clever in response at first, that seems to annoy rude people. The more reasonable she/you are, the more it shows him up. You can always be close at hand if needed, but tbh, she should deal with it. I obviously only say this from my POV as I would rather fight my own battles (and I'm a gobsh1te
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02 March 2011, 12:24 AM
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I have 3 Options
He apologises with some degree of humility = Shake his hand.
He laughs off my request = Thumb into his suprasternal notch and drop him.
He get's all up in my face = See you guys after I get out!
Mark
He apologises with some degree of humility = Shake his hand.
He laughs off my request = Thumb into his suprasternal notch and drop him.
He get's all up in my face = See you guys after I get out!
Mark
02 March 2011, 12:59 AM
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[quote=jods]This chap then said "Listen and Learn, Love. We are going to finish our game"
Now - I only found this out later when we were finished and sat in the bar having a well earned beer.
[quote=jods]So the Question is this:
1) Ladies of ScoobyNet - What would you want your other half to do / say next week if the chap was there.
2) Gents of ScoobyNet - What would you do?
[/jods]
In all fairness, why should the other half need to get involved, anyway? For example, if mine even tried to throw his wait around on the first opportunity arisen, I'd just say to him: "Stand back, you! I will handle it!" Then, I will just slate that patronising git for giving me cr@p over rightfully setting the net. I will say to him: "No, YOU listen, mister! Don't you dare "love" me. I don't like anyone talking to me like that, ok?
Other than that, your time is up, right! so do one now. Go on!" But if they still gave me any further sh!te, I would have just lost it with them! They would have left the tennis court with my racquet imprinted on their @rses.
Some people, eh!
On a calmer note, I would have certainly told them not to effing "love" me, I so dislike this patronising "love" reference in any type of conversation, more so in an irrational one. I would have told them that their time was up, and they need to do one. Had they continued to mouth off, I would have just argued with them something chronic, which would have stopped their play, anyway. They would have ultimately given up and fcuked off, basically. That would have meant they would have given me daggers next time when they saw me again, swinging my glorious racquet around
On that, I would have cared a peanut, and would have said to myself: Haha! Bollox to you, you imbicile gits." 
Now - I only found this out later when we were finished and sat in the bar having a well earned beer.
[quote=jods]So the Question is this:
1) Ladies of ScoobyNet - What would you want your other half to do / say next week if the chap was there.
2) Gents of ScoobyNet - What would you do?
[/jods]
In all fairness, why should the other half need to get involved, anyway? For example, if mine even tried to throw his wait around on the first opportunity arisen, I'd just say to him: "Stand back, you! I will handle it!" Then, I will just slate that patronising git for giving me cr@p over rightfully setting the net. I will say to him: "No, YOU listen, mister! Don't you dare "love" me. I don't like anyone talking to me like that, ok?
Other than that, your time is up, right! so do one now. Go on!" But if they still gave me any further sh!te, I would have just lost it with them! They would have left the tennis court with my racquet imprinted on their @rses. Some people, eh!
On a calmer note, I would have certainly told them not to effing "love" me, I so dislike this patronising "love" reference in any type of conversation, more so in an irrational one. I would have told them that their time was up, and they need to do one. Had they continued to mouth off, I would have just argued with them something chronic, which would have stopped their play, anyway. They would have ultimately given up and fcuked off, basically. That would have meant they would have given me daggers next time when they saw me again, swinging my glorious racquet around
On that, I would have cared a peanut, and would have said to myself: Haha! Bollox to you, you imbicile gits."
02 March 2011, 05:36 AM
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I am pretty sure my other half would have put him firmly in his place as she has to deal with me on a daily basis
The reality is that it can take you aback when it happens and a smart put down is not always first thing to mind
If it is eating at you then have a quiet word and explain the court was booked and not to be rude in future!
Could be the chap was having a bad day or game and it was out of character, otherwise it does not hurt to let him know he cannot get away with it. Keep it civil and only give him a slap if he gets aggressive
The reality is that it can take you aback when it happens and a smart put down is not always first thing to mindIf it is eating at you then have a quiet word and explain the court was booked and not to be rude in future!
Could be the chap was having a bad day or game and it was out of character, otherwise it does not hurt to let him know he cannot get away with it. Keep it civil and only give him a slap if he gets aggressive
02 March 2011, 07:53 AM
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Only one thing for it,,,,,
lol, on a serious note, ask them to leave at bang on 8, thats when they finish, if they wont just walk on the court and start hitting the ball to each other or go and get someone from the course and complain and ask them to get them moved at the correct time.
lol, on a serious note, ask them to leave at bang on 8, thats when they finish, if they wont just walk on the court and start hitting the ball to each other or go and get someone from the course and complain and ask them to get them moved at the correct time.
02 March 2011, 08:40 AM
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How about just putting in a complaint to the people that run the club stating that these individuals have repeatedly continued playing well into your allotted time and on the last occasion was extremely rude to your wife when she politely asked them to leave. Hopefully the club will deal with it. You've kindly allowed them to finish their game, but 15 minutes into your time is taking the p!ss. Give an inch, they take a mile! Now go out and let down their tyres for good measure!
02 March 2011, 09:07 AM
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He was a rude ******. If it was me, I would have told him his fortune. And I'm not a confrontational person.
And as above, I would have a word with the people who run the club.
And whack him in the goolies with the racquet for good measure.
And as above, I would have a word with the people who run the club.
And whack him in the goolies with the racquet for good measure.
02 March 2011, 09:27 AM
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How about just putting in a complaint to the people that run the club stating that these individuals have repeatedly continued playing well into your allotted time and on the last occasion was extremely rude to your wife when she politely asked them to leave. Hopefully the club will deal with it. You've kindly allowed them to finish their game, but 15 minutes into your time is taking the p!ss. Give an inch, they take a mile! Now go out and let down their tyres for good measure!
I'd complain but I'd struggle not to say anything. I wouldn't do anything to cars etc because its just as easy to find out what you drive. If they tried it again next week I would go complain immediately and probably end up saying something.
With that attitude he'd be better off playing Golf anyway.