Rude and discourteous people
16 September 2009, 07:09 PM
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Rude and discourteous people
Whilst shoppin' in the local Budgen i stepped aside for a chap to go through the gap, him well dressed in his fourties i guess. I could have barged through but that would have been rude and unnecessary.
He walked through/past me and looked away. he seemed shocked when i then looked directly at him (him no more that 4 feet away) and said in a louder than normal voice to catch his attention "A thank you would not go amiss", the then stopped walking andgave me a long stare for several seconds to which i added "you really ought to learn a few manners you grotty little oik!"
He then broke of his look and wandered off out the store.
I wasn't looking for trouble or feeling sporting and unpredictable but I do hate rude oiks like this and there seem to be more and more about...
He walked through/past me and looked away. he seemed shocked when i then looked directly at him (him no more that 4 feet away) and said in a louder than normal voice to catch his attention "A thank you would not go amiss", the then stopped walking andgave me a long stare for several seconds to which i added "you really ought to learn a few manners you grotty little oik!"
He then broke of his look and wandered off out the store.
I wasn't looking for trouble or feeling sporting and unpredictable but I do hate rude oiks like this and there seem to be more and more about...
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16 September 2009, 07:19 PM
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Bad manners really annoys me. I was brought up to always say Please and Thankyou.
Amazing just how many people never say these simple words.
Amazing just how many people never say these simple words.
16 September 2009, 07:35 PM
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OP - If I hold a door open or move out of someones way and they don't acknowledge it I just say "You're VERY welcome, don't mention it" - Makes me feel better
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16 September 2009, 07:35 PM
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Hate the lack of manners myself. Chief ones are (never gets better this one!) women who never say 'thank you' when you hold the door for them, they tend to get a sarcastic comment after them ... and having been traversing the narrow lanes of Cornwall for the last year, people who never acknowledge you after reversing/waiting for them to pass. They get the finger. People who do nod/raise their hand get a polite wave.
Breeeaaaattthhheeee ...
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16 September 2009, 08:14 PM
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Pees me off as well, like my litter thread it is something so easy to do, I try and be as polite as possible, if someone isnt with me I go the other way and have walked out of restaurants and shops, like dropping the shop assistants in JJB in it when they were too busy to serve me as they were discussing their evening activities, saw a manager walking over and pointed them out 
I think it is getting older, as in you are less inclined to put up with stuff.
I think it is getting older, as in you are less inclined to put up with stuff.
16 September 2009, 10:46 PM
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Had a similar situation once.
Held the door for a bloke and when he just walked through I said "you're welcome"
He turned round and gave me the "What did you say?"
So I explained "you said 'thanks and i said 'you are welcome'"
him "but i didn't say thanks..."
<sound of penny not just dropping but plummeting>
me "exactly"
5t.
Held the door for a bloke and when he just walked through I said "you're welcome"
He turned round and gave me the "What did you say?"
So I explained "you said 'thanks and i said 'you are welcome'"
him "but i didn't say thanks..."
<sound of penny not just dropping but plummeting>
me "exactly"
5t.
16 September 2009, 10:51 PM
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Having worked in quite a few places in the UK over the last 25 years the worst place for this was ...........
Bristol !!
Apologies if anyone is from Bristol
Shaun
Bristol !!
Apologies if anyone is from Bristol
Shaun
16 September 2009, 11:05 PM
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I can't deal with anyone in life without saying please and thankyou...it's just natural to me. Having said that, I've had to put up with a lot worse than someone not thanking me for letting them through, so can't say I'd even bat an eyelid if the same happened to me Paul. He might have just been having an 'off' day or was maybe a bit stressed?
But I agree it only takes a second to say thanks!
But I agree it only takes a second to say thanks!
16 September 2009, 11:12 PM
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the same happens to me all the time, i also hate it when i let someone out of a side road and they dont acknowledge me. id of done the same paul, well, i usually call them ignorant kuntz. i keep wondering why i bother being nice, i try not to but i ant help it. i blame my folks for bringing me up well. ha.
and that fat prik paddy out of emmerdales one of them aswel, i walked into a petrol station and held the door for my girlfriend who then held the door for him and he walked straight past her looking moody and didnt even look at her or say thanks. and he didnt say thanks to cashiers either. and he had a crap car too. the fat gimp!
and that fat prik paddy out of emmerdales one of them aswel, i walked into a petrol station and held the door for my girlfriend who then held the door for him and he walked straight past her looking moody and didnt even look at her or say thanks. and he didnt say thanks to cashiers either. and he had a crap car too. the fat gimp!
16 September 2009, 11:25 PM
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the same happens to me all the time, i also hate it when i let someone out of a side road and they dont acknowledge me. id of done the same paul, well, i usually call them ignorant kuntz. i keep wondering why i bother being nice, i try not to but i ant help it. i blame my folks for bringing me up well. ha.
and that fat prik paddy out of emmerdales one of them aswel, i walked into a petrol station and held the door for my girlfriend who then held the door for him and he walked straight past her looking moody and didnt even look at her or say thanks. and he didnt say thanks to cashiers either. and he had a crap car too. the fat gimp!
and that fat prik paddy out of emmerdales one of them aswel, i walked into a petrol station and held the door for my girlfriend who then held the door for him and he walked straight past her looking moody and didnt even look at her or say thanks. and he didnt say thanks to cashiers either. and he had a crap car too. the fat gimp!
16 September 2009, 11:31 PM
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Wow, you must have an ego the size of a planet!
And you talk about bad manners when you are the one who is ready to intimidate the other person for not thanking you ? Jeesh, talk about hypocrisy.
And you talk about bad manners when you are the one who is ready to intimidate the other person for not thanking you ? Jeesh, talk about hypocrisy.
17 September 2009, 12:30 AM
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I work in retail, and the number of people who don't say a simple thank you for helping them far outweighs those who bother. Can't do alot about it though, without risk of getting in trouble. So when it really gets to me, I just say you're welcome. Often it gets no reaction, but if it does I can just say I'm that used to people saying thank you, I automatically say you're welcome back (even if that isn't the case). It can make them get a bit of a shock, and it saves me getting grief.
Manners cost nothing, but they're becoming a dying trait.
17 September 2009, 08:50 AM
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the same happens to me all the time, i also hate it when i let someone out of a side road and they dont acknowledge me. id of done the same paul, well, i usually call them ignorant kuntz. i keep wondering why i bother being nice, i try not to but i ant help it. i blame my folks for bringing me up well. ha.
and that fat prik paddy out of emmerdales one of them aswel, i walked into a petrol station and held the door for my girlfriend who then held the door for him and he walked straight past her looking moody and didnt even look at her or say thanks. and he didnt say thanks to cashiers either. and he had a crap car too. the fat gimp!
and that fat prik paddy out of emmerdales one of them aswel, i walked into a petrol station and held the door for my girlfriend who then held the door for him and he walked straight past her looking moody and didnt even look at her or say thanks. and he didnt say thanks to cashiers either. and he had a crap car too. the fat gimp!
17 September 2009, 09:02 AM
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Most valuable lesson I learned in secondary school:
Manners make the man
Second most valuable lesson:
Don't go in the showers with the PE Teacher no matter how nicely they ask!
Thanks awfully for your time!
Manners make the man
Second most valuable lesson:
Don't go in the showers with the PE Teacher no matter how nicely they ask!
Thanks awfully for your time!
17 September 2009, 10:38 AM
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Makes my blood boil. You'd think that it might be kids, but no, I was in the chippy the other night, and the lady, (and I use the term loosely), in front of me, when it came to her turn, said, "Haddock and chips twice, one peas". No, "Please" or owt.
I mentioned it to the lady serving when it was my turn, she told me that people who are ill mannered get less food for their money
I think one or two of you on here have maybe misunderstood Leemac, in his post about France.
On entering a shop, almost ALL French people will say good morning to those who are already there, and goodbye when they leave. If you approach a shop assistant in a shop, however large or small the shop is, your first words should be "Bonjour monsieur/madame". They will look askance at you if you don't do it.
And in all shops etc, when you leave, you will be wished a good day, or "Bon courage", ie: good luck.
THEIR manners are far better than in the UK, and I've found their kids' manners better too, even when there are no parents about.
), in front of me, when it came to her turn, said, "Haddock and chips twice, one peas". No, "Please" or owt.I mentioned it to the lady serving when it was my turn, she told me that people who are ill mannered get less food for their money
I think one or two of you on here have maybe misunderstood Leemac, in his post about France.
On entering a shop, almost ALL French people will say good morning to those who are already there, and goodbye when they leave. If you approach a shop assistant in a shop, however large or small the shop is, your first words should be "Bonjour monsieur/madame". They will look askance at you if you don't do it.
And in all shops etc, when you leave, you will be wished a good day, or "Bon courage", ie: good luck.
THEIR manners are far better than in the UK, and I've found their kids' manners better too, even when there are no parents about.
17 September 2009, 11:20 AM
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Like Jacko said, it may be an age thing, but I was always, always brought up to say Please and Thank you. No matter if it is a man or a woman, courtesy is cheap and takes a second. Just normal manners and one that I try to instill in my children.
I do find as I get older, that my patience wears thin with rude people and take it upon myself to treat them in the same way as I would a small child of mine. sarcasm is a great form of education and whilst it may not have an effect, it makes me feel better.
I also notice that certain sections and nationalties of our nation, when being let through be it in a car or walking through a door, are less likely to say thank you. I shall leave it up to you to guess which ones, lest I get accused of being a racist
I do find as I get older, that my patience wears thin with rude people and take it upon myself to treat them in the same way as I would a small child of mine. sarcasm is a great form of education and whilst it may not have an effect, it makes me feel better.
I also notice that certain sections and nationalties of our nation, when being let through be it in a car or walking through a door, are less likely to say thank you. I shall leave it up to you to guess which ones, lest I get accused of being a racist
