pimmo2000

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Not me ... but if my g/f was to fall preggers ... whats the superstisus (sp) length of time you wait before telling people !

No shes not ... but might become... new milkman

SwissTony

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most ladies dont like to jinx it until after the first scan (12 weeks) but some will tell close family and leave it at that. it depends on whether she shows early on or not.

best way is for you to stuff yourself like a fat ****er and that way it will draw attention away from her

Jay m A

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Not sure about superstition but we waited until the 12 week scan, to make sure everything was OK, but immediate family / v.close friends knew almost instantly.

john banks

If you tell people early (say before a 12 week scan), consider whether you'd want to have to tell them all again if there was a miscarriage.

TopBanana

The risk of miscarriage is much greater in the first trimester (12 weeks) than later on in the pregnancy, which is why many people choose to wait until then to tell their extended group of friends/family.

pimmo2000

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So you tell your close family straight away.. thats good !

New_scooby_04

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Conventional wisdom also dictates that you tell the father straight away; it is considered poor form to keep them in suspense!

rossyboy

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I know a couple of people who went public before the first scan and then had miscarriages.

Best to keep quiet until then I'd say, apart from close family if you wanted to I suppose.

pimmo2000

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I would hope to be the father

sti-04!!

p1mark

Leave it till as late as possible, even more than 12 weeks if you can.

It is really **** when you have to tell people (especially kids and potential brothers / sisters) that they are now not going to have an addition to the family. My wife and i lost a little one 2 1/2 years ago after 16 weeks so it can and does happen.

druddle

Best to leave until after the first trimester, as if you miscarry, and you have told everyone (work included), then your work will know you are trying and this could impact career prospects....

Dave

Dream Weaver

We didn't tell anyone at all until after the 12 week scan - it's nothing to do with superstition, but as mentioned, the chance of miscarriage is significantly reduced after that period.

Buster-WRX

When my wife fell pregnant for the first time we made a big mistake and told
only close family at about 5 weeks.
We then lost the baby at 10 weeks.
I can tell you that having a pregnancy end like that is very difficult but having to tell everyone made it so much worse...

Needless to say when she fell pregnant with our two kids we didnt tell anyone until 12 weeks. I am happy to say all worked out fine

New_scooby_04

iTrader: (4)

Ah, so the milkman quip was a gross euphenism, bit like the 'putting cream in a tart' saying

Oh, or, chucking man gravy
OR
Letting loose with the population paste
Firing the single barrel pump action yoghurt rifle into plumpton bay
Giving the walls a coat of emulsion
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I'd better leave it at that!

Besides, it's the postman you've gotta watch.....delivering white goods etc...

Ok, I'll shut up now

pimmo2000

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Sorry to hear about all the people that have lost babies....

must be really hard..

johnnyroper

mine was the same i think the tester was still warm as she was dialling the number.

but did wait until after the 12 week scan to tell people who were not immediate family.for the same reason as already said concerning miscarriage,from experience it is easier to say nothing rather than have to explain the miscarriage to everyone.

Sonic'

Dont some girls thesedays have to tell several blokes just in case

We told immediate family once all was confirmed (around 8 weeks) and then told everyone else after the 12 week scan

NotoriousREV

As above, don't spread the word until as late as possible. 3 times now we've had to tell people it's no longer happening and it makes it all the more unbearable. Don't tell people you're trying either because they'll all keep asking if you've managed it yet so you end up telling people before you planned to just to shut them up.

jaytc2003

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its hard not telling everyone (me and my mrs didnt) but you just want to shout out the news (well I did anyway )

We only let immediate close family know and then let others know after the second scan (we had a scare at 10 weeks so had an early scan followed by the 12 week one)


Little baby Joseph is due in the next few weeks