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05 September 2006, 02:46 AM
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how to date advice.
any serious advisors here?
i have been single for a few years now, and trying online dating (COFF COFF)
except for the few russian brides(DON'T EVEN GO THERE!!!!!),which even though are attractive i got confused with their 2 page long emails
i have now kind of fallen in love with someone (uk based) but how can mr below average joe bloggs pull a nice girl .
(btw don't even dare try.......that fat bloke at a pc gag)
i have been single for a few years now, and trying online dating (COFF COFF)
except for the few russian brides(DON'T EVEN GO THERE!!!!!),which even though are attractive i got confused with their 2 page long emails
i have now kind of fallen in love with someone (uk based) but how can mr below average joe bloggs pull a nice girl .
(btw don't even dare try.......that fat bloke at a pc gag)
05 September 2006, 04:16 AM
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Does the lady know how you feel?
Have you met her in person or is this 'net based?
Give us a little more to go on and I'm sure you'll get lots of useful (and not so useful!) advice!
Sayonara!
Akuma
Have you met her in person or is this 'net based?
Give us a little more to go on and I'm sure you'll get lots of useful (and not so useful!) advice!
Sayonara!
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05 September 2006, 04:23 AM
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What you have to do mate is get out on a night out and talk to girls. Look your best and be confident almost arogant. Thats what I do. Im not the best looking of blokes im only 5 8" so not tall and I seem to do ok.
Confidence is the way forward.
Scott
Confidence is the way forward.
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05 September 2006, 08:21 AM
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echo the above mate. confidence is the key. A bit like dogs smelling fear...woman have this too (in a nice way).
get yourself a new shirt/jeans/shoes whatever floats your boat and make sure they make you look good. If funds allow go for some nice designer gear.
next, show a genuine interest in her. not sure if you work with the girl in question or whatever but if you can 'bump' into her ask her about her weekend, compliment her and be a nice guy. basically show enough of an interest in her that she recognises this...then back off!.
from expereince a pretty/attractive/sexy girl will have heard all the moves before, however having to do a little chasing herself should keep her on her toes. Email, again if you work together, is a great tool. just keep it friendly and nice. best way to test the water for the next step is to ask her out during the workign day. email along the lines of 'have to pop to town at lunch to pay a cheque in at the bank.. you fancy a trip out of the office?'. etc etc. once this barrier is broken, then next time friday lunch beer is a natural next step. from there who knows.
if the girl does not work with you and you just see her around... bit more tricky but intermediate level 'pulling' is not that hard. bump into her (if you know where she works) not advocating stalking the girl as most find this a little scary if not illigal
. same thing, mention you have seen her around and would love to meet up some time? don't be appologetic, just striaght out with it after some small talk 'haven't I seen you at the x bar, how long you worked in boots etc etc'. confidence is king!.
if you only know her from bar x its a hit or miss job so go straight to the point. if you see her out with a group of mates, you need to get her on her own... if she goes to the bar, the toilet somehow get her away from the mates as this will make it a whole lot easier...you don't want to get chatting with a group of magners drinking girlies listening in do you!. straight to the point time again... 'seen you around, would love to meet up...any chance of your numer *nice smile*.
remember it's a numbers game. sure brad pit gets knock backs. try walking down the street and smilling at a couple of woman as you go...even the top of the league ones will smile back and it will do you confidence the world of good.
good luck and there of of course plenty more fish in the sea.
Cheers
Rich
get yourself a new shirt/jeans/shoes whatever floats your boat and make sure they make you look good. If funds allow go for some nice designer gear.
next, show a genuine interest in her. not sure if you work with the girl in question or whatever but if you can 'bump' into her ask her about her weekend, compliment her and be a nice guy. basically show enough of an interest in her that she recognises this...then back off!.
from expereince a pretty/attractive/sexy girl will have heard all the moves before, however having to do a little chasing herself should keep her on her toes. Email, again if you work together, is a great tool. just keep it friendly and nice. best way to test the water for the next step is to ask her out during the workign day. email along the lines of 'have to pop to town at lunch to pay a cheque in at the bank.. you fancy a trip out of the office?'. etc etc. once this barrier is broken, then next time friday lunch beer is a natural next step. from there who knows.
if the girl does not work with you and you just see her around... bit more tricky but intermediate level 'pulling' is not that hard. bump into her (if you know where she works) not advocating stalking the girl as most find this a little scary if not illigal
. same thing, mention you have seen her around and would love to meet up some time? don't be appologetic, just striaght out with it after some small talk 'haven't I seen you at the x bar, how long you worked in boots etc etc'. confidence is king!.if you only know her from bar x its a hit or miss job so go straight to the point. if you see her out with a group of mates, you need to get her on her own... if she goes to the bar, the toilet somehow get her away from the mates as this will make it a whole lot easier...you don't want to get chatting with a group of magners drinking girlies listening in do you!. straight to the point time again... 'seen you around, would love to meet up...any chance of your numer *nice smile*.
remember it's a numbers game. sure brad pit gets knock backs. try walking down the street and smilling at a couple of woman as you go...even the top of the league ones will smile back and it will do you confidence the world of good.
good luck and there of of course plenty more fish in the sea.
Cheers
Rich
05 September 2006, 08:55 AM
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It's going to sound harsh; but get off the internet, you need to meet real people!
The most difficult thing in your situation is to meet other single people and gain some confidence. Meeting people at work is an option, but crap if it goes bad. Bars and clubs are ok, but everyone is in groups and often 'on-the-pull', so gaurds are up.
I would recommend getting involved in an activity outside work; gym, evening class or something. Speed-dating is a good chance to chat to a girl 1-on-1, learn to think on your feet and if you do screw it up you get another chance 3 minutes later anyway
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Best of luck
PS. Had a look at your profile, are you really a pimp
The most difficult thing in your situation is to meet other single people and gain some confidence. Meeting people at work is an option, but crap if it goes bad. Bars and clubs are ok, but everyone is in groups and often 'on-the-pull', so gaurds are up.
I would recommend getting involved in an activity outside work; gym, evening class or something. Speed-dating is a good chance to chat to a girl 1-on-1, learn to think on your feet and if you do screw it up you get another chance 3 minutes later anyway
.Best of luck
PS. Had a look at your profile, are you really a pimp
05 September 2006, 08:56 AM
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can i recommend arranging to meet the lady at the Manchester Muppet meet... i met my husband at the Cardiff meet last year
05 September 2006, 09:01 AM
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Originally Posted by Miss Kinky
can i recommend arranging to meet the lady at the Manchester Muppet meet... i met my husband at the Cardiff meet last year
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Confidence is the way forward but not too confident, there's nothing worse than a guy chatting me up that loves him self and thinks he can pull anyone. Smile a lot too!!.. Just be yourself but add a bit more confidence, don't be scared to talk to women, put yourself out there!!..
Hope it all works out!!
Carla..
Just be yourself but add a bit more confidence, don't be scared to talk to women, put yourself out there!!..Hope it all works out!!
Carla..
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And if you're so nerdy looking you can't get it for free.... pay for it....
or
Get with a Goth........ they're not usually into looks......
or
Get with a Goth........ they're not usually into looks......
05 September 2006, 09:47 AM
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Originally Posted by DCI Gene Hunt
And if you're so nerdy looking you can't get it for free.... pay for it....
or
Get with a Goth........ they're not usually into looks......
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Get with a Goth........ they're not usually into looks......
05 September 2006, 09:52 AM
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Rioja :
Be careful.... I met my husband through the net. He's definately REAL !
Yve
It's going to sound harsh; but get off the internet, you need to meet real people!
Be careful.... I met my husband through the net. He's definately REAL !
Yve
05 September 2006, 10:18 AM
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be confident and smile. Although me being a 6ft2 adonis women generally fall at my feet (cant find an anti perspirant that works)
Seriously though (I dont have bo) confidence and a smile is the key, just be yourself (if your funny thats even better as they say if you can make a girl laugh, you can get her into bed)
Seriously though (I dont have bo) confidence and a smile is the key, just be yourself (if your funny thats even better as they say if you can make a girl laugh, you can get her into bed)
05 September 2006, 10:44 AM
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be confident and smile. Although me being a 6ft2 adonis women generally fall at my feet (cant find an anti perspirant that works)
Seriously though (I dont have bo) confidence and a smile is the key, just be yourself (if your funny thats even better as they say if you can make a girl laugh, you can get her into bed)
Seriously though (I dont have bo) confidence and a smile is the key, just be yourself (if your funny thats even better as they say if you can make a girl laugh, you can get her into bed)
05 September 2006, 10:49 AM
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Women actually liked been spoken to as a normal person.... strange but true. If you can strike up a normally conversation and show a bit of wit from time to time you're hlaf way there. If however you think you need to come out with chat up lines and male bravado bull**** to impress a woman chances are she'll think you're a sleazy ******!
05 September 2006, 10:50 AM
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Originally Posted by STi wanna Subaru
Women actually liked been spoken to as a normal person.... strange but true. If you can strike up a normally conversation and show a bit of wit from time to time you're hlaf way there. If however you think you need to come out with chat up lines and male bravado bull**** to impress a woman chances are she'll think you're a sleazy ******!
05 September 2006, 10:57 AM
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Originally Posted by Rioja
It's going to sound harsh; but get off the internet, you need to meet real people!
05 September 2006, 11:01 AM
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PS. Had a look at your profile, are you really a pimp
no i'm not really a pimp
and yes ....its from a dating site.... so its only emails at the mo.
05 September 2006, 11:08 AM
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Originally Posted by scoobynutta555
Absolute rubbish! Met my gf of 3 years online, not dating, in a chat room.
But I have friends; both male and female, with several horror stories. Some right freaks I can tell you
(them, not my friends!)
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Forgive me for being cynical, but I would imagine it very hard to get feelings for anyone through emails. I've never done any sort of online dating, but I know when I first meet/talk/see/feel (not literally....well a bit) a woman, is when I know if I'll like her or not.
05 September 2006, 11:13 AM
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You'll meet freaks anywhere, not just online. At least if you chat to someone online before you meet them you get some idea of what they are like.
05 September 2006, 11:15 AM
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Originally Posted by scoobynutta555
You'll meet freaks anywhere, not just online. At least if you chat to someone online before you meet them you get some idea of what they are like.
05 September 2006, 11:16 AM
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Originally Posted by STi wanna Subaru
cant agree.... I can come across as a really nice guy in emails but I'm a right ****** in real life!
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Im in a very similar boat to you. Ive been divorced and now ive been single for a while. Ive been on dating sites and met a really nice girl from germany. We met up had fun but realised it wasnt going to work out, so now were really good friends.
I realised the other day, that there is this girl at work, who is really nice, we get on very well but i dont know much about her. I started to get an attraction to her and didnt have the confadence to ask her untill sat night.
She told me she liked other blokes and i had no chance. Now im a bit worried ive lost her friendship but which is what i really didnt want.
Ive now opened my eyes thanks to a very good friend of mine and realising there is a whole world out out there and time will bring happiness and dont go searching.
So now im just going to wait.
I hope you find the girl of your dreams, she will come along soon.
I realised the other day, that there is this girl at work, who is really nice, we get on very well but i dont know much about her. I started to get an attraction to her and didnt have the confadence to ask her untill sat night.
She told me she liked other blokes and i had no chance. Now im a bit worried ive lost her friendship but which is what i really didnt want.
Ive now opened my eyes thanks to a very good friend of mine and realising there is a whole world out out there and time will bring happiness and dont go searching.
So now im just going to wait.
I hope you find the girl of your dreams, she will come along soon.
05 September 2006, 11:18 AM
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Originally Posted by watto52
Im in a very similar boat to you. Ive been divorced and now ive been single for a while. Ive been on dating sites and met a really nice girl from germany. We met up had fun but realised it wasnt going to work out, so now were really good friends.
I realised the other day, that there is this girl at work, who is really nice, we get on very well but i dont know much about her. I started to get an attraction to her and didnt have the confadence to ask her untill sat night.
She told me she liked other blokes and i had no chance. Now im a bit worried ive lost her friendship but which is what i really didnt want.
Ive now opened my eyes thanks to a very good friend of mine and realising there is a whole world out out there and time will bring happiness and dont go searching.
So now im just going to wait.
I hope you find the girl of your dreams, she will come along soon.
I realised the other day, that there is this girl at work, who is really nice, we get on very well but i dont know much about her. I started to get an attraction to her and didnt have the confadence to ask her untill sat night.
She told me she liked other blokes and i had no chance. Now im a bit worried ive lost her friendship but which is what i really didnt want.
Ive now opened my eyes thanks to a very good friend of mine and realising there is a whole world out out there and time will bring happiness and dont go searching.
So now im just going to wait.
I hope you find the girl of your dreams, she will come along soon.
05 September 2006, 11:18 AM
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i have a very low self esteem, but i believe i am witty and funny and very honest.
but its always the.....i want to be friends thing..................
btw guys.... don't believe the girls play with their hair thing is interested in you....everyone i chat to play with their hair...it means nothing.....they probably got nits
but its always the.....i want to be friends thing..................
btw guys.... don't believe the girls play with their hair thing is interested in you....everyone i chat to play with their hair...it means nothing.....they probably got nits