cnewboult

in short the mrs of 7 years left me yesterday

left a note on the living room mirror!!!!!



posetive anlge - more money to spend on scooby ;-)


seriously though am gutted
sorry if seems random but hurting at mo.

Fantom

no warning signs?

pete higham

at least you have got it off your chest









now go and blow a load of cash on whatever you want

pauld37

You didn't have any idea??? Mrs, as in wife?

legb4rsk

Hi,

had 23years before my missus called it quits.
gluttons for punishment?

Not much anyone can say or do when you are in shock.I Just hope, like me, you have good friends & family & they keep you close & safe.

People will say it gets better with time and you won't believe it but it is true.

I tried to do the 'bloke' thing at first & tough it out.
Don't do that! Now is the time to let others help you all they can.If they are true friends they will be glad to help.

my thoughts are with you.

DannyBoy007

iTrader: (7)

As above,

This is the time your true friends become apparent. Keep your chin up and book a holiday to thailand!!!!

ScuuBdoo

real sorry for ya.

what ever ya do dont call her and ask for a reason why. Dont call her AT ALL. If she wanted to explain the why she would have told you face to face and not just left a note.
Any "women" that just leaves a note after 7 years is not worth your pain anyway.

prodrive SL

If you need to get some support then thats cool by me. Agree with the rest, friends and family will help. Try and get some help from a 3rd party. Just dont try and find an answer as to why if it is not forthcoming. You will waste alot of time asking yourself why, and that is just burning time you could be searching www.match.com!

Chin up boss, just pop outside and rev the scoob. That will cheer you up!

webby v7 slipperwagon

iTrader: (2)

You Jammy B$stard. Dude no matter what anyone on here says, only you and you alone can get through this. Hey and trust me you will, just don't latch onto the next women you find as that is a recipe for disaster, iv'e seen it with my cousin. Three months later he's cool and back on track, but we are all different. Might be a good idea to work away or do a bit of travelling..........you may never get another chance. Just dont sit in the pub thinking about it, you will do yours and your mates head in. All the best mate and good luck..........unless you were a wife beatewr or worse.....A Villa/ Spurs fan.

richie001

iTrader: (3)

sorry can remember the saying but someone once said to me better to have been loved then not at all didn't really help thou

Fuzz

What I want to know is what the letter said.



Andy

southcoastscoob

same happended to me too..

she left whilst i was at work.... but no note for me!!!


chin up and best thing is go out and spend time with friends,fill in the gaps or you'll go crazy

New_scooby_04

iTrader: (4)

Condolences mate! Agree with the above, a note is a **** poor way of ending a 7 year relationship!

Do look on the bright side, relationships may be an important part of our lives, but they are not the only things!

Take some time to refect on/grieve for your losses and then concentrate on your gains, more time/money for the car being one!! Go out with your mates, spend time with the family (well, the ones you get on with!) and make extra time for the stuff you enjoy. Don't rush into another relationship, re-discover what makes you happy and enjoy being a bit selfish for a while. Careful with the booze- fool's paradise!!

ABOVE ALL: IGNORE ANYTHING YOU READ ON HERE ABOUT WOMEN AND RELATIONSHIPS!!!

"Dear John, I'm gone" most probably!



See what I mean; we're f**king awful!!

Chin up fella.

All the best,

Paul

SwissTony

iTrader: (19)

there are tons on here who have broken marriages/long term relationships mate...me included !!
Wife of 7 years (yes the old 7 year itch) left me.
was absoluted gutted at first. I went out and did the lads things, of getting pissed, wasting loads of money on booze and other stuff

dont know your situation of course, but we have 2 small kids, so that does change things.

I do have loads of very good and close mates and they were a godsend in those first few months/year. It is true what they say about getting to know who your friends are when you are down on your luck.

it is entirely up to you mate how you handle it, no-one can exactly tell you how to handle it, only you will find your level, but as a way of some advice, keep these ones in mind.

1. enjoy yourself and try and do those things that you have been puting of for whatever reason, could be anything. Point is have a bit of "me " time

2. talk to your mates/close friends but dont bore them or be over bearing and bang on about it all the time. mates will just tell you what you want to hear, "she was a bitch", "you better off without her" etc, good mates will tell you straight

3.dont whatever you do try and talk to her friends or try and win over your mutual friends. There is nothing worse than friends being put in a spot where they have to decide.

4. I am guessing that after 7 years you may have some inkling as to why it went south, but dont beat yourself up about it. Yes it will get better, but right now it probably looks all doom and gloom, believe me I have been there and to an extent are still there.

5. if you want to get her out of your system, then it is up to you how you do it. some people grab the first available female, some dont.
I didnt and still havent, but that is me, you have to decide what is best for you

6. above all, try and enjoy yourself and dont get morbid. and for ***** sake dont ever do what i did one drunken night and that is never never ever sit down with a bottle of vodka and watch your wedding video/dvd !!! worst mistake i ever made

there you go, that should help you a little bit

Counsellor Swiss

sienar33

As my grandad used to say "if you find a good woman, shoot her before she turns bad"

You just weren't quick enough.

Hope things get better for you soon mate.


Swiss posts some meaningful and heartfelt advice and my shi*e appears next.

Fuzz

I was being subtle.

WR1Nikki

Im with legb4rsk, i was in a relationship for 4 1/2yrs and my fiance cheated on me, had a fling with one of me mates. It hurt like hell and we broke up as i felt i couldn't trust him again. I didn't think id get another bloke coz i was too hurt but i did but it was too soon and that didn't work out either. U do get to the point where u think things can only get worse but they do get better, ur mates will always be there and ur family will help u too, eventually you do get over it. bein on ur own is the hardest part but u do adjust in time and eventually u do get used to it.

You'll be ok mate, keep ur chin up and go out on the **** with ur mates.

Steve777

iTrader: (8)

Similar happened to me 3 years back. On the friday we are sha$$ing like rabbits and then the next night she calls it quits !

Strange creatures. Mind Ive never had so much fun as I have since Plus a nice new shiny S2000 on the drive

JackClark

We need pictures to help decide if she's worth it. And you'd best post one of yourself to keep the queer ones happy.

skyline gtr v

wish my wife would f off. she is loco

sienar33

And suddenly I don't feel so bad about my original post.

bob r

iTrader: (46)

the missus has left you ?

this doesnt seem a bad thing to me at the mo. i get constant earache and abuse (10 yrs).
if she left me no doubt id miss the agro but im sure id get over it fairly quickly.

any sympathy for me.

speedymonkey

Know how that feels
my ex shat on me and i stayed single for 2 years as i didnt trust women anymore (just made do with the dvd filth i had from the dam )
just dont do the sleeping together but not really together bit cos that will cut u up even more

but have now been goin out with a lovely girl for 3 years and things have never looked better, plus i have a lovely scooby on the drive, just wish i could pull up next to the ex at the lights one day

proof that things DO get better with time, but i do feel for ya mate, its never good

bearded dragon

sympathies chap. Biatch.

If she ain't got the guts to do it to yer face after 7 years, especially if yo uwere living together, then I think you had a lucky escape.

my advice is avoid boozing and avoid trying to go back to the stage you were when the two of you met.

make sure she can't skin you for cash - change bank accounts etc.

The best revenge is to take her best mate out. For some reason that really narks em

chin up and move on. Far easier said than done of course.

Jap Import

Jap Import

Same **** happened to me this time last year mate.

Been together 8 years.
Took her away for her birthday ( a couple of ŁK)

Things looked better than ever, but then it seemed like ****, it just ended.

A year on and I still think of her, sometimes I hate her, others I wish we were still like we were 7 years ago.

I've met some great people since though.

Dont do the rebound ****, it wont help you.
Sure your feel good at the time, but regrets come in quick.

Enjoy the "me" time.

I cleared all our debt and went out and bought a scoob.

The worst bit for me was being on my own and having to move, but it's getting easier. Use the things in life you love to get you through this.

I used music, travelling and the scoob!

Chin up fella

Nikonite

Really sorry for you mate, worst thing is to bottle it up though. Put the old sloppy songs on. Get everything that reminds her of you out, get a bottle of JD and spend the night crying your eyes out looking at photos and writing her a letter you will never send.
Then get up in the morning burn the lot and turn your life around!
Good luck to you my mate, and if any scoobynetters are close maybe they will offer you some pub time
We have all been there mate, and I am sure you already know it gets better every day!

pimmo2000

iTrader: (6)

Time matey... I know its what everyone says but its really true

GazTheHat

Note to self.

New_scooby_04

iTrader: (4)

Surely the worst mistake you made was marrying the girl in the first place OR at least taping over the Honeymoon vid with Match of the Day!!!

Ns04