Blathered

Hi all, posting under pseudonym to protect, u know the score.
please read if u have 5 mins.

Have been with bird for over a year now, I live and work about 80 miles away, see her at weekends. She is an outgoing type but very loyal, has quite a few friends fem and male where she lives, but is not a gossip monger.

Anyway background on the problem, I arranged to get her a dozen roses through a mate of hers who is in the flowers business. But her mate was away skiing in the week leading up to Vallys day, so wasnt sure if she would get job done. I thinks i might play safe and was looking at 12 red ones from asda, delivered of course. Anyway I didnt order them in the end.

Her mate did come up trumps with the roses i asked her for and gave them to GF on sunday.

Yesterday i was chattin on moby to GF and she says she has received 12 red roses !!!????
I says instinctively....not from me
she says all it says is " sorry they're late"
We chat trying to think of who it could be, a family member playing a joke, or whatever.. come to conclusion no one would spend that nuch on a joke.. a card maybe.
So we are still none the wiser.

Later I am thinkin.. maybe i did send them through asda after all, and forgot
(was a busy week at work)
so calls her and says I think it may have been me after all
she says thanks etc blah blah

At 5pm she txts to say she now knows who it is, and it wasnt me !!
i send : oh ok, who was it then ?
She has a go at me calling me a liar etc
I says , remember i first said on fone i didnt think it was me, i was just confused because of the asda thing.
anyway still calls me liar

I says y is this bloke sending u roses
she says it is a mate she has known for years, but just wanted to get his feelings of his chest.
I then go on one.. FFS I thought it was an unwritten rule u dont interfere in someone relationship by sending someones girlfriend roses etc

I am Still pi$$ed of with him now
I have never met hardly any of her bloke mates, we dont circulate among them ( i guess they're more aquaintances of hers not mates)

I am still livid now, and we aint talking at the mo, becuase that pratt has wound me up.
Am I being over sensitive or what ??
Anybody any advice on what to do about the situation, lads or lasses.
Ta v muchness

MY00PPP

take a seat on the couch.....

of course you are going to be a touch miffed - however try to take a rational view. Did your girlfriend do anything to 'lead this guy on'. If so, you have an issue with your girlfriend. queue lecture on how woman need to be careful in showing too much interest in a bloke as we are all cavemen and what she thinks is being nice the bloke sees as the green light to start looking at flats to share.

if she has done nothing then really you can't be too p*ssed at her. It's the bloke you have a problem with. steaming in heavy handed will bring no joy. suggest a quite freindly word that you weren't overly impresseed that he sent your mrs flowers should do the trick.

good luck anyway mate.

STi wanna Subaru

iTrader: (1)

Most blokes who have women as friends have them because either they do now or in the past have fancied the person. Same works for women. It's very very rare it's totally platonic.

Get over it IMHO or you'll drive her to the other bloke.

Maybe make a bit of extra effort to get to see her during the week. little suprise etc.

davyboy

LOL

Blathered

errr generally she is talkative to anyone.
I can see how a bloke would get to know her and then think theres more on offer than there actually is. So no, i dont think she led him or leads anyone on.
Oh I am pi$$ed at the bloke, she has the attitude that she will deal with it.
And will not tell me who it is, so I wont go steaming at him if and whenever i meet up with him.

STi wanna Subaru

iTrader: (1)

Stop trying to be a hero. fact is if your gf is attractive and a nic elass blokes will fancy her. fact of life. you have to trust her. My guess is the fact you feel a bit low because you only see her at weekends and an element of guilt is eating away at you. understandable.

Blathered

She's italian, gets a mood on really quickly ( and u know it as well), so will take a couple of days to simmer down.
So looks like I will just have to swallow it so to speak.

KiwiGTI

Dump her, do not ever put up with this behaviour.

She should never protect another man or get angry at you because of the actions another man has done.

STi wanna Subaru

iTrader: (1)

Well by the sounds it will only become an issue if you make it one.

FlightMan

First valentines days with my girlfriend. I sent her a red rose and a box of chocolates. 2 hours later 2 yes 2 dozen roses turn up.

We've been together 22 years, married for 14. Very very happy.

Get over it. If your relationship is strong, why let it worry you?

Blathered

Yea she is tall, slim and IMO attractive, and sometimes unwanted attention from blokes is difficult to deal with

KiwiGTI

Normally I'd say the same, but the way she has reacted by calling him a liar etc and refusing to say who they are from etc suggests that 100% commitment is not there.

STi wanna Subaru

iTrader: (1)

Well if you do spilt up give her my number will you mate

KiwiGTI

Just send her flowers, that'll do the trick.

GrahamG

who were they from?

STi wanna Subaru

iTrader: (1)

Again?!

GrahamG

pmsl

Blathered

I wonder y as well

Damn right i would.

crush her

I would forget it, for now.

But you need to find out who it is, I know guys like this and they try and poison relationships to try and "seal the deal"

When you find out, just have a friendly word, you know the sort of thing, cover him in petrol whilst smoking a ciggie.

FlightMan

We reckoned it was from a married guy at her works, but never found out for sure.
He was 32 at the time, my wife was 17, and bloody fit I can tell you!
As I'm 40 now, I can see his motives behind the flowers. If i wasn't happily married and was in his shoes, i'd have done the same.

MikeCardiff

iTrader: (2)

Have I missed something here :

"Her mate did come up trumps with the roses i asked her for and gave them to GF on sunday"

So the dozen roses she got were from you, the ones you asked her mate to sort out for you, not from some other bloke ?

Blathered

KNow what you mean.
Its the "front" of the bloke, if you know what i mean.
Ok , he may have wanted to say how he felt about her b4, but even so.
I wouldnt approach another blokes bird like that, I would be waiting for a knock at my door.

lightning101

My heads burst, its vicky pollard on acid

Spoon

Agree, it's that part that is getting you wound up believing there is something going on.

If she was 100% for you then she'd tell you who it was that sent the flowers, but at the same time make it quite clear she would deal with it.

She certainly wouldn't make you out to be a liar. I think they call that guilt on her side.

Just lie low for a bit and try and forget it.

Good luck.

Spoon

Never think a bloke isn't going to try it on with a girl, whether she has a boyfriend or husband. It's how *your* girlfriend or wife handles the situation that matters.

GrahamG

How old she now?

I think i will be like that! sending flowers to all the fit ladies in the office when i'm 32!

dpb

got to the 3rd 'sentence' .....clearly dont have it in me

FlightMan

39, and still bloody gorgeous!

Blathered

she's 42 (thats her age btw)

U must have more money than sense lol

crush her

I've had a similar thing, a bloke was after my other half, he was a friend of her brothers. We were at a party once and he had the cheek to tell her he loved her and how I was "ok but he was much better".

I got my revenge easily. Every time we went out I would be touching her inappropriately and making lurid suggestions of what I was going to do to her directly in front of him........his face was a picture