What is love?
29 November 2004, 10:05 PM
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What is love?
DISCLAIMER: This thread has nothing to do with Haddaway 
Seriously, how can you tell the difference between really, really caring for a person and loving a person? I guess what we are aiming for is a definition of 'love'.
I suppose I've always worked along the lines of, 'If this person suddenly was out my life would it still bother me in 2 months time' If the answer is yes then I'm probably in love with them. If I'd be on the town looking for a **** within a week I probably don't care so much for them!
I never understand these people that are giving it big, 'I love you' chat after a week of knowing you
I'm always careful about the use of the term but I have in the past said it and in hindsight realised that I never really cared for that particular person that much.
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Seriously, how can you tell the difference between really, really caring for a person and loving a person? I guess what we are aiming for is a definition of 'love'.
I suppose I've always worked along the lines of, 'If this person suddenly was out my life would it still bother me in 2 months time' If the answer is yes then I'm probably in love with them. If I'd be on the town looking for a **** within a week I probably don't care so much for them!
I never understand these people that are giving it big, 'I love you' chat after a week of knowing you
I'm always careful about the use of the term but I have in the past said it and in hindsight realised that I never really cared for that particular person that much.Discuss
29 November 2004, 10:18 PM
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Then you get married, then there is always a flippin 'Period', I swear my missus ovulates three times a month some months.
I am dreading the invoice, the painters have been in for a while now.....
SB, youre a sensitive soul arent you, just need to work on the mechanical sympathy !
I am dreading the invoice, the painters have been in for a while now.....
SB, youre a sensitive soul arent you, just need to work on the mechanical sympathy !
29 November 2004, 10:26 PM
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SB, youre a sensitive soul arent you, just need to work on the mechanical sympathy!
I have been known to ride things a little hard from time to time I was sure the pug was good for it.
There's also the period when you begin to 'make love' rather than '****'
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29 November 2004, 10:33 PM
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Originally Posted by wwp8
what is "make love"?
its what ladies call when the guys are ******* them
its what ladies call when the guys are ******* them
I remember one of my mates saying for the first time about his first long-termer - "you know, I've been ******** for years, but it's only now I feel I've made love for the first time".
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You know, I've always thought that to determine if you're in love, you don't look at the other person, you look at yourself. How do they make you feel about yourself and your life?
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When i was going out with my last Girlfriend she stated she loved me about 7 months into the relationship. I didn't reply with the same back as i didn't feel it, or at least i didn't think i did 
Anyway 2 or 3 months later i just turned round to her out of the blue and gave her the three words. I didn't plan it - it just fell out of my mouth At that point i simply knew that i loved her
...................the bugger of it is - i'm single now
Anyway 2 or 3 months later i just turned round to her out of the blue and gave her the three words. I didn't plan it - it just fell out of my mouth At that point i simply knew that i loved her ...................the bugger of it is - i'm single now
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You know, I've always thought that to determine if you're in love, you don't look at the other person, you look at yourself. How do they make you feel about yourself and your life?
29 November 2004, 11:18 PM
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Originally Posted by Saxo Boy
I never understand these people that are giving it big, 'I love you' chat after a week of knowing you I'm always careful about the use of the term but I have in the past said it and in hindsight realised that I never really cared for that particular person that much.
Discuss
I'm always careful about the use of the term but I have in the past said it and in hindsight realised that I never really cared for that particular person that much.Discuss
it was 2 years before i even said that to my current GF
honestly
i ovb wrote it in her christmas cards and stuff, but im not a fan of saying or doing things that im not 100% with.
been burned far to many fooken times
29 November 2004, 11:19 PM
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Love, well, it's an emotion, and state of elation, something that mere words cannoy quantify.
Enough of the fluffy stuff
How do I would I define love? To me, it is missing the person when you're not with them, wanting to share everything with them, the good, the bad, and the ugly (of which I am very lol). Backing them up totally when they need it, even if I don't agree with what they are doing, as they would do the same to me. There is of course all the mushy stuff that comes along with it too, romantic dinners, walks on the beach under the moonlight, things like that.
To me, those three little words are very very powerful, and should not be used lightly. I've used them lightly before, and regret doing so, as a few months later I did not feel love for that person, I felt nothing at all. I will only say it these days if I trully mean it, and that'll be a fair while into any relationship. I have loved, and very deeply, so I do know what it feels like, or at least does for me, so I know when the time is right. I'd certainly not say "I love you" to get laid, or because I think it's what the girl wants to hear.
What would I say if she said it to me and I did not feel the same? That's a question I can't answer, as I've not been in that poistion.
As for this making love thing, ah, well, here's my definition of it. Sex can be seen in two main ways, ******* and making love. ******* is what I think of as a bit of rough, raw, sweaty, sex, total animal passion type stuff. Making love on the other hand is a long slow experience, lots of foreplay, kissing, cuddling, massage, then intercourse.
Oh, and yeah, I am a big ol softy and a hapless romantic.
Enough of the fluffy stuff
How do I would I define love? To me, it is missing the person when you're not with them, wanting to share everything with them, the good, the bad, and the ugly (of which I am very
lol). Backing them up totally when they need it, even if I don't agree with what they are doing, as they would do the same to me. There is of course all the mushy stuff that comes along with it too, romantic dinners, walks on the beach under the moonlight, things like that.To me, those three little words are very very powerful, and should not be used lightly. I've used them lightly before, and regret doing so, as a few months later I did not feel love for that person, I felt nothing at all. I will only say it these days if I trully mean it, and that'll be a fair while into any relationship. I have loved, and very deeply, so I do know what it feels like, or at least does for me, so I know when the time is right. I'd certainly not say "I love you" to get laid, or because I think it's what the girl wants to hear.
What would I say if she said it to me and I did not feel the same? That's a question I can't answer, as I've not been in that poistion.
As for this making love thing, ah, well, here's my definition of it. Sex can be seen in two main ways, ******* and making love. ******* is what I think of as a bit of rough, raw, sweaty, sex, total animal passion type stuff. Making love on the other hand is a long slow experience, lots of foreplay, kissing, cuddling, massage, then intercourse.
Oh, and yeah, I am a big ol softy and a hapless romantic.
30 November 2004, 12:01 AM
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Originally Posted by Brun
Any ladies fancy a date?
A/S/L? and all that
A/S/L? and all that
same here was single since the start of this year.
you expect people to have another stepping stone b4 you jump off the first one.,
but me, i'm still swimming around looking for the other "fishes"
30 November 2004, 01:05 AM
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what sort of question is that, as pointed out, its what girls end up feeling and then become paranoid, destroy your life etc. We feel it when we want a ****, then it goes - best bet is to have your gameboy on the bedside table for a bit of entertainment afterwards!
Seriously tho, tough question really because it means different things to different people. Some people confuse it with obsession/infatuation but they are quite different things. I am not sure how I would define it really, maybe you first realise you love someone when something 'bad' happens and you are really scared of losing them...
Seriously tho, tough question really because it means different things to different people. Some people confuse it with obsession/infatuation but they are quite different things. I am not sure how I would define it really, maybe you first realise you love someone when something 'bad' happens and you are really scared of losing them...
30 November 2004, 07:35 AM
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Originally Posted by Brun
Anyway 2 or 3 months later i just turned round to her out of the blue and gave her the three words. I didn't plan it - it just fell out of my mouth At that point i simply knew that i loved her
...................the bugger of it is - i'm single now
At that point i simply knew that i loved her ...................the bugger of it is - i'm single now
What were they "fukc you bitch" ?
30 November 2004, 09:04 AM
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Ah - I see loads of potential in this thread.
SB - afaik being in love is when it costs you more to get rid of her then it does to just put up and make do with window shopping.
hth.
SB - afaik being in love is when it costs you more to get rid of her then it does to just put up and make do with window shopping.
hth.
30 November 2004, 09:07 AM
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SB - afaik being in love is when it costs you more to get rid of her then it does to just put up and make do with window shopping.
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LOL its coming up to Xmas, isn't it
To those caring sharing single types - give it a fortnight and you'll do anything for that 'I don't wanna be lonely' Xmas ****
To those caring sharing single types - give it a fortnight and you'll do anything for that 'I don't wanna be lonely' Xmas ****
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Originally Posted by andrewdelvard
Love is mutual obsession. When it's only one sided you're just sick and need help.
PMSL......
Why am I laughing? Could it be too close to home for me?
