mad_dr

The "How did you meet your other half" thread has caught my attention, but rather than hijack that thread, I thought I'd start a new one:

How long between first "meeting" your partner, did you get married?

I'm talking about "I met him at work, in January and by March, we were married". Not "I knew her through a friend for 4 years. We started going out in January and by March, we were married"...

Wonder who is the quickest and who was the slowest...

Reffro

My mate Jon was the quickest I know off. Met his wife end of August, when he was doing some work for her. Asked her out a couple of weeks later, 3 weeks after first date they get engaged, and married on New Years Eve, so all told about 4 months.

SiPie

Met my g/f (hate the fiance word ) August 15th 2003, engaged December 9th 2003 and we marry on 6th January 2005 in Auckland

Peanuts

iTrader: (15)

married ten years after meeting, almost to the day.


you cant rush these things and if something is important to you then its worth waiting for...

Goochie

engaged after 18 months, married a year after that.

Nimbus

Met in Jan 88, married in Aug 97

imlach

The one that always gets me is the "long engagement".

If you're going to get married, get on with it....why feel the need for this long period of 'engagement'????

Spoon

I'm not even going to say what I think on the subject, except.............

SiPie

PMSL (or a large grin anyway)

Spoon

andrewdelvard

Been together for nearly 8 years now. Don't know if we'll ever marry. Happy as we are for now I guess.

Sbradley

2 years and 8 days

SB

Drunken Bungle Whore

12 months - just over. Set eyes on him June 2002, started dating July 2002, Married Aug 2003.

red_dog104

Started seeing each other Feb 01, engaged Sept 02 (only cause I wanted a new bit of jewelry!!) and no plans to get married!!!

imlach

Ah, so someone to answer my question....

Was it purely for a bit of jewellery that you wanted to get engaged?

Why "engaged" with no plans for marriage? Do you see engagement as a form of commitment?

Neanderthal

iTrader: (6)

Buying a house together is a bigger commitment nowadays (certainly harder to get out of). However, if there are kids involved then I'd deffo get married

red_dog104

I've been married before and it was a really messy divorce. I'm in no rush to get married again and he's not bothered either!! Engagement is a bit more permanent than just living together but you don't have to go through the expense and pain of changing your name (female point of view)!! and really, honestly, I saw the ring, texted him and told him and he said to buy it lol. No romance, no proposal just a case of new jewellery, looks like an engagement ring, lets get engaged!!!

Suresh

It was five years to the day from first big date (the almost legendary St. Gallen monk party) to the altar in Holland.
Will have been married four years in September.

Spoon

Imlach- If you get engaged and then married it means that the other person belongs to you and no one else, it then means they can't possibly cheat. :

SiPie

In most cases of the above it's simply due to insecurity

Hanslow

We got together back in 1991. Still not engaged / married. I've been asked a couple of times by the missus whether I would consider it. You can guess the answer

If you want to know the reasons, two divorces in immediate family sort of made me think what's the point if it's so easy to get divorced.

Spoon

Now you're making sense Si, keep it up!!

Party Bird

Met my other half in end of september....moved in with him january and got married in the following may........so 7 months in all! Surprised a lot of pople, he he

messiah

By the time the wedding comes round next year it'll be 14 years 4 months...

weapon69

OK, whats the point of getting married if you've been together that long?? Surely marriage makes no difference?

messiah

Baby in 4 weeks - other half preferred to be married if she was a mum.

You're dead right about marriage making no difference (although I'll just have to wait and see I suppose) - I'm not allowed near the remote when Eastenders is on...

Spoon

House prices have risen and maybe one of the two has a few quid now and a well paid job, 14 years ago they didn't. :

weapon69

LOL@spoon

ok i get that bit....

I'm with Red_dog on this-i just want a flashy bit of jewellery I used to think marriage would be great-had my mind firmly turned against it now

messiah

TBH - we both thought it would be a waste of money but then thought we might as well - her dad has referred to me as the son-in-law for years.

Abdabz

Went 7 years with mine and just as i was thinking of poppin the question she nicked a grand off me and started sh@ggin a bloke from her work... - good job I found out in time - could have been taken the cleaners!!
Anyway latest lady is 8 months in and no plans whatsoever to ask (yet)