The Govenment has bottled it- as usual
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The Govenment has bottled it- as usual
http://www.sky.com/skynews/article/0...161942,00.html
What a surprise, NOT!
Get them out of power asap, they haven't got a spine between them nor one iota of sense
What a surprise, NOT!
Get them out of power asap, they haven't got a spine between them nor one iota of sense
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Their argument is nonsensical too. They don't support equal rights (over unequal rights) because they feel the child shouldn't be treated like a possession?
Its a non sequitur!
Its a non sequitur!
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This whole equality thing with Women only stands when its the women who benefit
There is no such thing as true equality and never will be under labour.
In fact what good has Labour done for this country since its been in power? Absolutely nothing!
Soft on crime
Soft on family issues/Fathers rights
Soft on immigration
Soft on benefits
Taxation up in direct and indirect forms
Interest rates rising due to their failure to control the economy and their public spending
Over politically correct to the extreme
Christ the Tories were no angels but I know life 10 years ago was far better under the tories than under this lot of useless w@nkers
There is no such thing as true equality and never will be under labour.
In fact what good has Labour done for this country since its been in power? Absolutely nothing!
Soft on crime
Soft on family issues/Fathers rights
Soft on immigration
Soft on benefits
Taxation up in direct and indirect forms
Interest rates rising due to their failure to control the economy and their public spending
Over politically correct to the extreme
Christ the Tories were no angels but I know life 10 years ago was far better under the tories than under this lot of useless w@nkers
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Well, we saw a perfect example this morning of how politically correct thinking just muddys the water and stifles a debate.
They are so busy fretting about what's right/wrong normal/not normal that things end up completely bogged down and just go nowhere - stuck on square one. I'm sure that's what happened again in this case. It's all very depressing.
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They are so busy fretting about what's right/wrong normal/not normal that things end up completely bogged down and just go nowhere - stuck on square one. I'm sure that's what happened again in this case. It's all very depressing.
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That is incredible and beyond belief
In the already busy Courts!
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Ok....
Totally feel for any fathers who are struggling with this one but I'd just like to balance the argument a bit .......
My only experience of these unfortunate situations was through being a 'pawn' in a custody battle when I was 5 (as I'm sure hundreds on here have been)
I'll tell you straight ... that if my father had been granted equal access to me at that age then I would of killed myself without a shadow of doubt In the end the courts decided that he could see me every Wednesday for 4 hours and every second weekend for the whole weekend.
For the weekends that I had to stay at his new family home, I think I ran out of made-up illnesses that could persuade my mother to keep me at home....and the one's where I did visit gave some delightful memories of what living in a violent house watching a man and his new wife kicking **** out of each other whilst under the influence of whatever that weekend's toxic cocktail really involved. It ripped my mother to bits watching her child's anguish at being forced to visit someone he didn't want to see and I don't think for a second that it helped me.
I was forced by the courts to do this every 2nd weekend for 9 years until I legally had the choice aged 14, NOT to visit anymore. On the weekend of my 14th birthday I said goodbye to a bemused drunken couple before punching a sad insecure old man straight in the face.
In NO WAY am I judging you guy's situations... as hopefully you are all 1,000,000 times a better father than the son of a bitch that signed my birth certificate... but it's my opinion that the child should not have his or her time split between two homes and security is the most important factor. It's a tricky one that needs specialist help in every case and I don't think a one off judgement by the government is the correct answer. Only wish I had the answer.
PS My dad wasn't known as an alcoholic nor was his new wife known for her violent outbursts after swallowing vodka mixed with anti-pschitzophrenic (sp) medication....On the outside the couple looked like a well off respectable couple so there is no way that the courts could make a decent assessment of the situation.
Sorry for the rant and I really don't mean to cause offence.... just want the bigger picture to be considered.
Totally feel for any fathers who are struggling with this one but I'd just like to balance the argument a bit .......
My only experience of these unfortunate situations was through being a 'pawn' in a custody battle when I was 5 (as I'm sure hundreds on here have been)
I'll tell you straight ... that if my father had been granted equal access to me at that age then I would of killed myself without a shadow of doubt In the end the courts decided that he could see me every Wednesday for 4 hours and every second weekend for the whole weekend.
For the weekends that I had to stay at his new family home, I think I ran out of made-up illnesses that could persuade my mother to keep me at home....and the one's where I did visit gave some delightful memories of what living in a violent house watching a man and his new wife kicking **** out of each other whilst under the influence of whatever that weekend's toxic cocktail really involved. It ripped my mother to bits watching her child's anguish at being forced to visit someone he didn't want to see and I don't think for a second that it helped me.
I was forced by the courts to do this every 2nd weekend for 9 years until I legally had the choice aged 14, NOT to visit anymore. On the weekend of my 14th birthday I said goodbye to a bemused drunken couple before punching a sad insecure old man straight in the face.
In NO WAY am I judging you guy's situations... as hopefully you are all 1,000,000 times a better father than the son of a bitch that signed my birth certificate... but it's my opinion that the child should not have his or her time split between two homes and security is the most important factor. It's a tricky one that needs specialist help in every case and I don't think a one off judgement by the government is the correct answer. Only wish I had the answer.
PS My dad wasn't known as an alcoholic nor was his new wife known for her violent outbursts after swallowing vodka mixed with anti-pschitzophrenic (sp) medication....On the outside the couple looked like a well off respectable couple so there is no way that the courts could make a decent assessment of the situation.
Sorry for the rant and I really don't mean to cause offence.... just want the bigger picture to be considered.
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Sorry to hear your story SiPie.
What I will add to that though is that the assumption that the child will always be better off with the mother is simply wrong. I was given the answer to my questions of oh he will be more stable living with his mother as you have to work.
So in the 3.5 years we have been apart he has been to 3 different primary schools and lived in 5 different homes, and he is only 6
If he had been with me he would still be in the same home and be at the same school. OK it would involve my parents to a great extent but his mother involves her mother a lot as she has to work too so whats the ******* difference Err whats more stable there? Courts know **** all and I would like to have given a piece of my mind to the out of date w@nker of a judge who decided on my custody battle. I wasn't able to otherwise I would have got less access, my barrister was literally on the point of gagging me as I was boiling over with anger while listening to his pathetic reasoning
What I will add to that though is that the assumption that the child will always be better off with the mother is simply wrong. I was given the answer to my questions of oh he will be more stable living with his mother as you have to work.
So in the 3.5 years we have been apart he has been to 3 different primary schools and lived in 5 different homes, and he is only 6
If he had been with me he would still be in the same home and be at the same school. OK it would involve my parents to a great extent but his mother involves her mother a lot as she has to work too so whats the ******* difference Err whats more stable there? Courts know **** all and I would like to have given a piece of my mind to the out of date w@nker of a judge who decided on my custody battle. I wasn't able to otherwise I would have got less access, my barrister was literally on the point of gagging me as I was boiling over with anger while listening to his pathetic reasoning
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bravo.
LOL Peanuts no but they have just alienated the other 50% of the vote so that was a no win situation for them
it is because with the present 50% they have kept happy, they have won two elections.
changing the 50% they side with will only happen when they slip in the polls and need to gather more recruits.
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LOL Peanuts no but they have just alienated the other 50% of the vote so that was a no win situation for them
it is because with the present 50% they have kept happy, they have won two elections.
changing the 50% they side with will only happen when they slip in the polls and need to gather more recruits.
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What I will add to that though is that the assumption that the child will always be better off with the mother is simply wrong.
Guy's... I've come out of the whole childhood thing relatively unscathed and I know kids (my step-brother for one....) who have been through a thousand times worse... so it sure ain't a sob story.....it's really mild compared to some.
I guess it's just that every case is individual and I wish there were resources that could ensure kids are treated fairly.
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Originally Posted by weapon69
Children belong with the Mother. Thats my opinion and always will be.
If the do have to split up, then it should be up to the courts to make a balanced and non sexist decision based on ALL the facts.
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Originally Posted by Ringpeas
Have to disagree with you there. Children belong with BOTH parents, thats what helps them grow up to be well balanced individuals.
If the do have to split up, then it should be up to the courts to make a balanced and non sexist decision based on ALL the facts.
If the do have to split up, then it should be up to the courts to make a balanced and non sexist decision based on ALL the facts.
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Originally Posted by weapon69
My Father was Fuct in the head and so is my Mother so i was better off without either of them!!
My wife had to watch her farther hospitalise her mother every weekend, not good for any child
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Its not nice to hear of the problems people have had growing up but I can only beleive that these cases are a minority which means the majority of right and proper father are having to suffer becuase of this.
If my GF and I split my daughters standard of living would reduce considerably - not from a point of wealth as I won't see her go without but healthwise I know she'd suffer.
I enforce no smoking in the house apart from the kitchen. I make sure she eats decent food not just food stuffed in the oven or fryer. Once my GF has a drink everything else becomes secondary so its me who takes our daughter home at a reasonable time to bed not just leave her on the mates sofa whilst mummy gets hammered. And as for my GFs parents they can hardly look after themselves let alone anyone else and I'm sure thats wher my GF would go if we split.
I don't believe a child should always be with its mother full stop and thats whats wrong with the system as it stands. The mother has to be some sort of foaming, leporous psychopath before the courts will even consider giving the child to the father and then they'd probably side with the mother.
I don't want to only see my daughter every other Wednesday for 4 hours at a time what sort of a relationship is that?
If my GF and I split my daughters standard of living would reduce considerably - not from a point of wealth as I won't see her go without but healthwise I know she'd suffer.
I enforce no smoking in the house apart from the kitchen. I make sure she eats decent food not just food stuffed in the oven or fryer. Once my GF has a drink everything else becomes secondary so its me who takes our daughter home at a reasonable time to bed not just leave her on the mates sofa whilst mummy gets hammered. And as for my GFs parents they can hardly look after themselves let alone anyone else and I'm sure thats wher my GF would go if we split.
I don't believe a child should always be with its mother full stop and thats whats wrong with the system as it stands. The mother has to be some sort of foaming, leporous psychopath before the courts will even consider giving the child to the father and then they'd probably side with the mother.
I don't want to only see my daughter every other Wednesday for 4 hours at a time what sort of a relationship is that?
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Originally Posted by weapon69
Children belong with the Mother. Thats my opinion and always will be.
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Agree first and foremost that kids should stay with the mother BUT I fully support that good fathers should be allowed access rights. I have witnessed the strain and stress our neighbour has gone through for nearly 2 years as his ex.wife has denied him access to his kids, by what I can only term as spite & blackmail.
He works abroad a lot and when they were married had a nice large house in nice area [which he still lives in] and good schools nearby. On his return from a working abroad, he found she had moved out and gone to shack up with some guy in the roughest part of our town. To begin with while the divorce and settlement were going through, she allowed him access. Once she got her massive payout from him, she stopped all access by him and the kids grandparents aren’t allowed to see them either. By mutual agreement, she gets a very good weekly maintenance from him and one she is happy with. This is where the blackmail comes in though… she has threatened him that if he tries to see his kids, she will put the CSA on to him, which could then make him pay a huge chunk out of his wages, which would go to supporting the out of work fella she lives with and also the kid she now has by him.
The kids are now aged 7 and 5, the eldest being a boy who absolutely idolised his dad and was besotted with performance cars like his dad has. What sort of mother would deny her own children the right to see a father who loves them and wants to see them growing up… only a selfish, spiteful mother could do that! She isn’t taking into consideration whether the kids want to see their rightful father and grandparents and is denying them the chance to.She is a good mother in all other respects though.
He works abroad a lot and when they were married had a nice large house in nice area [which he still lives in] and good schools nearby. On his return from a working abroad, he found she had moved out and gone to shack up with some guy in the roughest part of our town. To begin with while the divorce and settlement were going through, she allowed him access. Once she got her massive payout from him, she stopped all access by him and the kids grandparents aren’t allowed to see them either. By mutual agreement, she gets a very good weekly maintenance from him and one she is happy with. This is where the blackmail comes in though… she has threatened him that if he tries to see his kids, she will put the CSA on to him, which could then make him pay a huge chunk out of his wages, which would go to supporting the out of work fella she lives with and also the kid she now has by him.
The kids are now aged 7 and 5, the eldest being a boy who absolutely idolised his dad and was besotted with performance cars like his dad has. What sort of mother would deny her own children the right to see a father who loves them and wants to see them growing up… only a selfish, spiteful mother could do that! She isn’t taking into consideration whether the kids want to see their rightful father and grandparents and is denying them the chance to.She is a good mother in all other respects though.
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I can't actually see what the problem is? As far as I can see, the government are suggesting that no-one has a RIGHT to access. Where's the problem? Are you seriously suggesting a natural parent should have visiting rights to a child they abused for instance? Ditto a parent who neglected their child? Leaving it up to the courts to decide is always likely to remain the only sensible idea, given the number of splitting parents who can't even agree who gets the washing-up bowl.
There is more viciousness in custody battles than anywhere else. People will happily level accusations of drug use, child abuse, benefit fraud and whatever it takes. The courts have little way of telling if either side is actually telling the truth (and both are probably lying at least a bit). Simply saying both parents ahould always have equal access is simply stupid. I'm d*mmed if I know the answer, but that certainly ain't it.
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There is more viciousness in custody battles than anywhere else. People will happily level accusations of drug use, child abuse, benefit fraud and whatever it takes. The courts have little way of telling if either side is actually telling the truth (and both are probably lying at least a bit). Simply saying both parents ahould always have equal access is simply stupid. I'm d*mmed if I know the answer, but that certainly ain't it.
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(Parents divorced when I was three. No kids of my own - just to make my own position clear)
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I agree totally with your viewpoint B2Z. It is grossly unfair and bad for the child that the mother can effectively block access by the father. He should have full and fair rights to be able to see his children and take them out etc as long he is of good character. The woman should also be of good character and be proved to be a good mother before she has custody rights as well.
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Personally I think that any custody case should be reviewed every 6 months anyway. This would then give each side the chance to prove that they've got a stable life for the child and for the circumstances to be re-looked at. Also anything negative to be taken into account. (Loss of job and no efforts to find a new one, alcohol abuse, violent tendencies, drug abuse, constantly moving house and the child's school etc)...
Also, the child should be "interviewed" by trained psychologists to see if *they* are happy or would rather spend more time with the other parent and the access rights reviewed.
Any parent who bans the other from visiting or who prevents access over and again should be fined each time it happens.
I fully sympathise with those who cannot see their child(ren) as much as they would like.
Also, the child should be "interviewed" by trained psychologists to see if *they* are happy or would rather spend more time with the other parent and the access rights reviewed.
Any parent who bans the other from visiting or who prevents access over and again should be fined each time it happens.
I fully sympathise with those who cannot see their child(ren) as much as they would like.
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Originally Posted by Leslie
as long he is of good character.
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Also, the child should be "interviewed" by trained psychologists to see if *they* are happy or would rather spend more time with the other parent and the access rights reviewed.[QUOTE]
That's what happened with a friend of mine - the judge asked the kids who they wanted to live with. After years of parental bickering, it got resolved in a matter of weeks.
FWIW, the daughter went to live with mum, the son lives with dad, and they swap round a bit during holidays. No problems now.
Also, the child should be "interviewed" by trained psychologists to see if *they* are happy or would rather spend more time with the other parent and the access rights reviewed.[QUOTE]
That's what happened with a friend of mine - the judge asked the kids who they wanted to live with. After years of parental bickering, it got resolved in a matter of weeks.
FWIW, the daughter went to live with mum, the son lives with dad, and they swap round a bit during holidays. No problems now.
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I still don't think EITHER parent should have an automatic right to access.
I certainly don't for the fact a woman can be just as evil or fcuked up as any bloke yet the courts don't look at that
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