This is outrageous - divorced blokes beware!
07 July 2004, 10:23 AM
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This is outrageous - divorced blokes beware!
http://www.sky.com/skynews/article/0...152250,00.html
Another leach of a woman
I hope he appeals and doesn't have to pay her all that money. Once divorced there should be no ties ffs, thats the whole point of being divorced, your no longer together or have anything to do with each other. Even if they are his kids he shouldn't have to pay a third of his salary for maintenance
This country is going further and further down hill, the frightening thing its bloody low at the moment, how much lower can it get
Another leach of a woman
I hope he appeals and doesn't have to pay her all that money. Once divorced there should be no ties ffs, thats the whole point of being divorced, your no longer together or have anything to do with each other. Even if they are his kids he shouldn't have to pay a third of his salary for maintenance
This country is going further and further down hill, the frightening thing its bloody low at the moment, how much lower can it get
07 July 2004, 10:44 AM
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They argued his £1.2m a year salary should, in principle, be split 50-50 to reflect her input on the marriage.
This was because she rescued him from the drinking culture which existed at Arsenal before Arsene Wenger took over as manager.
This was because she rescued him from the drinking culture which existed at Arsenal before Arsene Wenger took over as manager.
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07 July 2004, 12:59 PM
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Originally Posted by **************
£8k for a hitman vs £440,000 a year for ex wife - wonder what he is swaying towards, especially being a Romford geezer (must have a few aquaintances in that neck of the woods) 
07 July 2004, 01:09 PM
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Clean break agreements arn,t worth the paper there written on.....
It was clean breaks that caused all the fuss with the csa ... basically you need to make sure your partner or wife donsent ever give up work....
even when having kids... the argument is by having kids they lost the income they were used to, and you then have to provide...
ffs kids are a two way thing !!!!!!!!!!!!
bloody divorce lawyers should be !!!!!!!!!!
Mart
It was clean breaks that caused all the fuss with the csa ... basically you need to make sure your partner or wife donsent ever give up work....
even when having kids... the argument is by having kids they lost the income they were used to, and you then have to provide...
ffs kids are a two way thing !!!!!!!!!!!!
bloody divorce lawyers should be !!!!!!!!!!
Mart
07 July 2004, 01:19 PM
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07 July 2004, 01:23 PM
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At best it's a tedious bore. At worst a living hell with financial ruin thrown in for good measure.
You end up being closely tied to an old woman. Think about that. I can go to Europe or the south seas tomorrow. If I was married I wouldn't have the money and I'd have to ask HER permission. Don't get married unless you are absolutely religiously in love with her. Like carry her sick aged body to the toilet and wipe her *** and be happy to do it kind of love.
07 July 2004, 01:29 PM
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As men, we all know that a woman's primary objective is to marry. After years of experience I've discovered their most commonly used strategy. here it is:
1. Girl pressures guy for marriage.
2. Guy delays.
3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and eliminating his friends.
4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something better than what he has.
5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good thing in the guy's life.
6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage.
Then 5-10 years later the guy is an empty shell of his former self. Girl is a ruthless manipulating machine. Girl divorces loser husband. Girl takes 80% of guy's stuff because the guy is too brain dead to find a good lawyer. Girl lives happily ever after. Guy becomes bald alcoholic who dies of heart attack at 45 years old.
1. Girl pressures guy for marriage.
2. Guy delays.
3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and eliminating his friends.
4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something better than what he has.
5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good thing in the guy's life.
6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage.
Then 5-10 years later the guy is an empty shell of his former self. Girl is a ruthless manipulating machine. Girl divorces loser husband. Girl takes 80% of guy's stuff because the guy is too brain dead to find a good lawyer. Girl lives happily ever after. Guy becomes bald alcoholic who dies of heart attack at 45 years old.
LMAO!!!!!
07 July 2004, 02:29 PM
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Originally Posted by weapon69
now thats a funny site!
07 July 2004, 02:44 PM
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The money was awarded for her part in keeping him off drink and drugs,therefore contributing to his earning power.Kids had nowt to do with it.
Would it work the other way round though if you helped your ex get over post natal depression and get her back into work?
Would it work the other way round though if you helped your ex get over post natal depression and get her back into work?
07 July 2004, 02:47 PM
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What your future wife will be thinking a few years after you have children.
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Woman 1
My second husband and I were pregnant and happy. He has 3 children from a prior marriage, and all seemed peaceful. His ex wife, upon learning he was having a child with me engaged an attorney and upped the child support to the point where half of his income after taxes is being paid to her.
Now, instead of being able to stay home with my new daughter, I will have to go to work to support her. And if it ever goes bad in my marriage, I will receive very little support.
Think hard before marrying a man with children and a living ex wife.
Woman 2
I belive you will be entitled to your full share if you divorce. He will not have much of a life left though.
Woman 3
Full share? Not in Texas, it's a non alimony state.
Woman 1
You raise a good point; by being forced to work, I will have income which will count against me for alimony. I am in CA, thankfully.
Woman 2
If you are feeling distant from him (emotional neglect) or he is lashing out at you (emotional rape) - do not start going to work. You need to act now to protect whatever benefits you are entitled to later.
Woman 1
He has been very distant and stressed, and I do feel that we are drifting apart. Plus, I do not feel I should have to work due to his past mistakes.
Woman 2
I recommend if possible you make it to the 7-10 year mark before divorcing him - that will yield maximum benefits.
And don't forget, when you do drop the bomb - get a lawyer first and he has to cover the costs.
Woman 1
I did not know this. Thanks for the advice!
Well, I have the child, and I do feel quit neglected. I think maybe now is the time to cash out. Question: he has an inheritance - can I still get a piece of it after the marriage ends?
Woman 2
Yes! You get a piece out of everything dollar that he gets for the next eighteen years - and by then laws will have been changed to possibly raise it to beyond 18.
Woman 3
Don't go to work. The Ex will take you back for an increase based on more household income from your job. Find a job under the table...
The courts standard bull**** line on this is "don't have more kids if you can't support the ones you already have..."
Woman 1
This is what I am thinking. Maybe just cash out now, sell the house at some point, and let him pay until the inheritance hits. In the meantime, I can remarry, after a little "playtime".
I do feel like he promised me happiness and now it is all just sadness and I have to work.
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What your future wife will be thinking a few years after you have children.
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This is the discussion copied from Internet discussion forum:
Woman 1
My second husband and I were pregnant and happy. He has 3 children from a prior marriage, and all seemed peaceful. His ex wife, upon learning he was having a child with me engaged an attorney and upped the child support to the point where half of his income after taxes is being paid to her.
Now, instead of being able to stay home with my new daughter, I will have to go to work to support her. And if it ever goes bad in my marriage, I will receive very little support.
Think hard before marrying a man with children and a living ex wife.
Woman 2
I belive you will be entitled to your full share if you divorce. He will not have much of a life left though.
Woman 3
Full share? Not in Texas, it's a non alimony state.
Woman 1
You raise a good point; by being forced to work, I will have income which will count against me for alimony. I am in CA, thankfully.
Woman 2
If you are feeling distant from him (emotional neglect) or he is lashing out at you (emotional rape) - do not start going to work. You need to act now to protect whatever benefits you are entitled to later.
Woman 1
He has been very distant and stressed, and I do feel that we are drifting apart. Plus, I do not feel I should have to work due to his past mistakes.
Woman 2
I recommend if possible you make it to the 7-10 year mark before divorcing him - that will yield maximum benefits.
And don't forget, when you do drop the bomb - get a lawyer first and he has to cover the costs.
Woman 1
I did not know this. Thanks for the advice!
Well, I have the child, and I do feel quit neglected. I think maybe now is the time to cash out. Question: he has an inheritance - can I still get a piece of it after the marriage ends?
Woman 2
Yes! You get a piece out of everything dollar that he gets for the next eighteen years - and by then laws will have been changed to possibly raise it to beyond 18.
Woman 3
Don't go to work. The Ex will take you back for an increase based on more household income from your job. Find a job under the table...
The courts standard bull**** line on this is "don't have more kids if you can't support the ones you already have..."
Woman 1
This is what I am thinking. Maybe just cash out now, sell the house at some point, and let him pay until the inheritance hits. In the meantime, I can remarry, after a little "playtime".
I do feel like he promised me happiness and now it is all just sadness and I have to work.
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07 July 2004, 03:03 PM
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I cannot understand why people are willing to risk so much for "love", a concept that can be defined as a temporary state of emotion, to engage in a legal binding, the tangible benefits of which (for the man) are non existant! Especially in this day and age when the taboo of "living in sin" has all but vanished.
Hopefully my borderline sociopathic tendancies will continue to ensure I am immune from any such folly!
Hopefully my borderline sociopathic tendancies will continue to ensure I am immune from any such folly!
07 July 2004, 03:30 PM
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Originally Posted by weapon69
LOL @ the second wife thing.
Is it just men on scoobynet that are bitter? Or is this a general thing now?
Is it just men on scoobynet that are bitter? Or is this a general thing now?
There are a few girls in my circle of friends who are genuinely good people, but there are so many that are self-centred and greedy. It could be said though that that is a general trend among everyone, not just women.
A couple I know were friends with a single girl. One night they were out the single girl was quizzing them about the single guys they knew, and whom she could possibly go out with. The most important thing about the potential boyfriend? He had to be rich!
There are so many stories like this I can't help feeling bitter about it all. That's probably my own problem though, and I acknowledge that.
Also, so many of us 20 or 30 somethings probably grew up in families where there'd been divorce, it doesn't exactly present a positive image for marriage.
07 July 2004, 03:34 PM
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Also, so many of us 20 or 30 somethings probably grew up in families where there'd been divorce, it doesn't exactly present a positive image for marriage.
07 July 2004, 03:36 PM
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Originally Posted by weapon69
hmm depends how you look at it....friends my age that have divorced parents seem all the more keen to make their marriages work. But yeh if i suddenly win the lottery i erm won't be getting married, ever.
07 July 2004, 03:43 PM
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Originally Posted by weapon69
LOL how do i know? Can't predict the future.
Can't help feeling, though, that my friends that have got married are a bit crazy!