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17 August 2003, 10:17 PM
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I am faced with a dilema, do I just give in without a fight and let her have her own way as I love her and want her to be happy. Do I fight her at every turn as she has lied to me for a long time. Do I do to her what she has done to me and break her heart and be as spitefull as I can be. I do not want my kids hurt but I am just so so fed up with feeling like **** because of her and I want her to feel as bad as I do. The trouble is I still love her and I can not think what I should do.
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17 August 2003, 10:24 PM
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STI, take it easy man....
come down to london on the lash and get hold of some bint for a one nighter....
i know it dosent help, having kids involved, but you really have to let go of her, and get on with your life.
dont try and make her upset, as you will get obsessed with this behaviour, and who knows where it will lead.
mail me if you need to talk, as i'm sure others will too...
do what i'm doing and crack open a few stellas before the nights out, will help you sleep, at least.
all the best
Dazza
come down to london on the lash and get hold of some bint for a one nighter....
i know it dosent help, having kids involved, but you really have to let go of her, and get on with your life.
dont try and make her upset, as you will get obsessed with this behaviour, and who knows where it will lead.
mail me if you need to talk, as i'm sure others will too...
do what i'm doing and crack open a few stellas before the nights out, will help you sleep, at least.
all the best
Dazza
17 August 2003, 10:29 PM
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<school teacher mode on>
Don't drink alcolhol - it might make you sleep but its a depressant rather than a stimulant. It won't make you feel any better...
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Matt
Don't drink alcolhol - it might make you sleep but its a depressant rather than a stimulant. It won't make you feel any better...
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18 August 2003, 02:21 AM
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mate I'm same sort of situation
let her go & move on
not easy get your life back on track then work on getting access to the kids, above all tell the kids every time you see them that you love them & its not their fault, never slag off or let anyone slag off their mother in front of them
as for beer yep it works for me
let her go & move on
not easy get your life back on track then work on getting access to the kids, above all tell the kids every time you see them that you love them & its not their fault, never slag off or let anyone slag off their mother in front of them
as for beer yep it works for me
18 August 2003, 10:41 AM
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on the bright side of things at least you have lost her to a woman - if thats her thing there's no way you can compete...
It could have been worse - could be some 6' 5" tall muscle bound stud packing the kind of tackle normally associated with National winners - or have I just described the wife's new girlfreind?
Any way it sounds a **** position to be in, I don't envy you one bit.
Chin up,
mike.
It could have been worse - could be some 6' 5" tall muscle bound stud packing the kind of tackle normally associated with National winners - or have I just described the wife's new girlfreind?
Any way it sounds a **** position to be in, I don't envy you one bit.
Chin up,
mike.
18 August 2003, 10:49 AM
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The trouble is I still love her and I can not think what I should do.
One more thing. What about YOUR happiness? That counts just as much as hers.
Good Luck.
[Edited by andrewdelvard - 8/18/2003 10:51:53 AM]
18 August 2003, 10:56 AM
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ST1 VII - MOVE ON fella. You're killing yourself over this. Don't let it do that to you, she is NOT the only woman in the world.
If she realises she's made a mistake, she WILL come back to you. But not if you've destroyed all the self respect you have in her eyes. Harsh but true. Agree to separate, spend a crap three months on your own (and it WILL be crap), and then see how you feel. Torturing yourself like this week after week will do nobody any good. Am happy to talk about it direct if you want, let me know.
If she realises she's made a mistake, she WILL come back to you. But not if you've destroyed all the self respect you have in her eyes. Harsh but true. Agree to separate, spend a crap three months on your own (and it WILL be crap), and then see how you feel. Torturing yourself like this week after week will do nobody any good. Am happy to talk about it direct if you want, let me know.
18 August 2003, 08:52 PM
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Spent all day with her and my kids today at Chesington, we are going to relate soon, for the first time. I understand about let her go and if it is ment to be she will come back to me, I just dont want her thinkining that I do not love her and then for her to go off thinking that he would of done more if he loves me.
life sucks and then u get married lol
life sucks and then u get married lol
18 August 2003, 08:55 PM
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bloke at works missus ran off with another bird. he won the kids saying he didn't think it was right for them to be brought up by dykes.
she has ****ed you around before (30th) she will **** you around again.
sorry mate but time to move on.
she has ****ed you around before (30th) she will **** you around again.
sorry mate but time to move on.
18 August 2003, 09:04 PM
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Thing is she has never been truly on her own, where as I lived on my own from the age of 15. She moved straight from her mums to living with me and well. She still likes me to take her shoping/do the shopping , pick her up from town and to fix the hot water and yada yada yada you get the drift. Myself I think if you want to be independant then get on with it and stop using me to do your **** and on the other hand I dont want my kids to suffer because I stop doing what I use to do for the family.
She wants the quickest way to a divorce even if it involves her lieing on the grounds of the divorce. I have to ask why is she in such a rush to dump me? Something dont add up and it beats me what it is. The strange thing was, she wanted to put down that either party would not be entitled to any share of future lottery wins
She wants the quickest way to a divorce even if it involves her lieing on the grounds of the divorce. I have to ask why is she in such a rush to dump me? Something dont add up and it beats me what it is. The strange thing was, she wanted to put down that either party would not be entitled to any share of future lottery wins