zero_to60

Just been blessed with a baby daughter 2 days ago....how long does it take to bond

I have had to return to work really quickly and I am not missing seeing her...I am feeling guilty

Any Dad's out there who've felt the same? Is this normal to feel like this...does it take time to get the bond. I guess it's different for fathers than mothers being the mother has carried the child?

ProperCharlie

depends whetehr you are using superglue or epoxy resin... seriously though, i remember a mate's child arriving and the first months he didn't seem too bothered. this soon changed as the kid started to develop - i wouldn't worry too much.

RB170

It takes as long as it takes

try not to have any expectations or preconceptions, every situation is unique, just let it happen.

boxst

Hello

As above. It really takes as long as it takes. Mothers do have a closer tie to the child as it's been inside them for 9 months. However it takes Mothers sometimes months (or never in fact!) to bond as well.

If most people are honest, this little screaming, pooping thing is a huge disruption to their life and it takes a while to get over that before the bonding can start.

Steve.

Steve.

Badger Stuffer

Steve,

Steve,


So good they nemed you twice?.....

Back to topic:

Just let nature take it's course.

zero_to60

its the second one.....I am guessing I am so used to just the one having another seems weird...

I am not very good with babies anyway....the new born crying really grates on me

daiscooby

Wait till you got four mate

Each one was different, its my youngests 2nd birthday today and he was different to my eldest who is 18 next month. Just take time and let nature do its thing.

God help you though my eldest is a girl, nothing but aggro

red_dog104

If it makes you feel any better the same things happen to women too! When i had my son, I had no bond and no maternal feelings for at least a week! I used to look at him in his cot and think he couldn't possibley be mine because I felt nothing. Suddenly, everything clicked into place and it was great but I was very worried for the first week or so! Give it time, it'll happen!

Lisa xx

Badger Stuffer

Sean........Four.......**** me.

Get a telly mate.......

zero_to60

thanks red dog

I guess the most important thing at the moment is the Mum has bonded with her

I will just take some time for me. It doens't help that I need to go back to work to pay the bills. If I was minted I'd have stayed at home longer

daiscooby

Jase

18, 16, 6, 2 basically my life has been long periods of boredom punctuated by short periods of high excitement

Badger Stuffer

PMSL..........You tool......

daiscooby

Jase

Why thank you kind sir
A proper toff and no mistake gov'ner.

Brendan Hughes

...or long periods of concentration punctuated by brief lapses?

boxst

DaiScooby:

From all the other threads, I thought you utilised all the sheep that were available rather than going around breeding all over the place....



Steve.

daiscooby

Boxst

Women for breeding.......
Sheep for recreation......

boxst

DaiScooby..

Ah... that's what I can hear Welsh people reciting under their breathe at nightclubs, I always did wonder!

Steve.

daiscooby

Damn, the secret is out

mattstant

dont worry zero to 60 the day she smiles at you, you will think the sun has just shone for the first time.

TBH the day mine was born i thought "oh **** now youve done it no more nights out no more weekends away no more sleep".

but it didnt last too long and thank god he sleeps from 10 pm to 8 am every night.

Gidney&Knowlesy

"nd daughter when she came out was awful I thought how am I going to love this?

Did the usual check fingers toes and head - nothing missing

Went home, later got a call from hospital other half had complications will be unable to look after daughter for about 2 weeks

Gulp.......after 3 days I loved her to bits but it did take some getting used too

J4CKO

iTrader: (1)

To bond a child, what to ?

using Evo Stick about 30 mins to cure dependant on the surface and ambient air temperature.

zero_to60

I think it's started

I do feel totally f*cked though...all credit to all the single parents out there...how the f*ck they manage I'll never know

respect is due I think

Mice_Elf

Probably didn't "neme" him at all, Jase.


Zero - just spend time with your daughter and let yourself get used to her. If this is your first it will be a huge shock.

[Edited by Mice_Elf - 6/11/2003 11:40:05 AM]

Leslie

Just takes a bit of patience 0 to. Keep showing her affection when you get the chance,and don't try to be anything different to what you are. It won't be long before she starts to know who you are and then it is all worth it.

Les

[Edited by Leslie - 6/12/2003 11:58:02 AM]