ALi-B

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ON a slight tangent a friend of mine posted a selfshot pic of herself with a friend and innocently put it on FB as her profile pic

Because this friend of hers was going out with a guy (also a real life friend) whose in process of divorcing his ex-partner (whom is also seeing someone - its a messy one) Friends of this ex-partner who are also real-life friends with her have now blocked her on Facebook.

All because of uploading a sodding photo on a night out!

Now my friends upset as she saw no wrong in posting a pic and thinks she should have took a "side" in this person's divorce. When she hasn't done any wrong. Seem to me these people are so small minded to realise that real-life does allow someone to still be friends with people who have split up and not take a side in a messy break up. Although Jeremy Kyle and your typical TV soap would try and dictate otherwise.

I told her its just showed up the small minded idiots who judge before taking everything into consideration. And are the same people who need to get a life and think for themselves. Or better; get off Facebook!

Turbohot

Ali, won't that happen in real life as well, though? If those people had seen your friend with that girl in a 'live' party in reality, they would have stopped keeping up with her by just ignoring her on the street etc. IMO Facebook gave her more of a reality check and less confusion. Now she knows that she doesn't need to know the **** like that.

I'm no Facebook fan, but I do recognise both shortcomings as well as the benefit of this sort of media. My kids travel a lot with their work and studies, so do I. I prefer just texting, emailing and ringing them, while they prefer to keep in touch with on Facebook or on Skype. My families abroad also talk to me in Facebook private messages sometimes. I don't mind if it's any easier for them.

ALi-B

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That is true..however, Facebook just shows how pathetic they really are. I mean their thought train must be "Oh she's just gone out somewhere with this person I haven't met, but I don't like her because she is my friend's ex-partners girlfriend. Therefore I'm going to ignore her too".

If that made sense. Which it doesn't. How can you honestly hate someone you have never met (who had nothing to do with the divorce)? And how can you suddenly end a long term friendship with someone because of a picture without seeking any form of conversation?

Without Facebook, they would have never known. And through its use has actively drove a wedge to discourage a dialogue (barring knocking on their door and having a face to face discussion), which is ironic considering Facebook is supposed to help people communicate and stay in touch

Turbohot

I understand what you are saying, and it's not Facebook who asked your friend to put that picture up. Your friend did it herself. Facebook just allowed the space to stick it up for everyone to see.

What if it slipped off your friend's tongue in front of those pathetic friends that she knew that 'new' girl and partied with her ? If not on Facebook, what if she had shown pictures on her mobile or in hard copy format to those friends, if they were her such close and long term friends? That still would have kicked off, you know. In this case, Facebook simply fast-tracked the reality check, which is even better.

On how can one hate someone who they never met is even a simpler one. In this case, this new woman who they never met is a threat to that bunch, as she is a new flame to Mr. X. So, whoever is this new woman's mate; even if it happens to be one of their long term mates, becomes a threat to them as well. it may not last, though. They may talk on PMs and kiss one another with their pouts.

All very childish, including your friend feeling confused about it. It's pretty straight forward to understand. She can allow herself to be upset about it, but staying confused is silly. Your friend is better off without them, if they don't ever unblock her.

Edited to say, yes, Facebook or any other media is to help people communicate and keep in touch. Thinking that this communication is always going to be positive is naïve. It can be negative, like it can be in real life. It can make you fall out of touch with people as well. You can't agree with everyone on everything nor can you get on with everyone. It's not gonna happen neither on Facebook nor in reality.

Kwik

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I'd imagine if you're annoyed by pictures of people's kids then you're also annoyed when they are playing up/noisy in public.
I think the Internet just magnifies some people's personalities, mainly the negative, but in reality problems only arise because there were problems there beforehand.

pimmo2000

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Magnifies the honesty and the lies.

f1_fan

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Yep, I chose not to have them so why do I have to listen to someone else's unruly little f**kers because the parents are too selfish to take them away somewhere where they can't annoy other people!

Turbohot

Can't argue with that tbh. Screaming kids give me a terrible headache. Mine were never like that. Their dad and I never even had to stick dummy in their mouths to shut them up, they were so well-behaved and chilled-natured.

I read once that a restaurant in South Carolina saw pretty good boost in business after banning screaming kids from their place.

Anyway, kids still pictures don't scream, so unless they're repetitive in "same **** different day" fashion, they shouldn't be such a nuisance, I hope. If anyone gets flashbacks of children's screams upon seeing even their one-off smiling stills, I suspect they're suffering from PCSTSD i.e. Post Children Screaming Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Lisawrx

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Exactly.

Or at least attempt to get them to shut up. Due to my job, this is something that really irritates me every day, and I can't just walk away myself, if the parents won't do something.

I'd say it amazes me the amount of people who just do nothing while their kids kick off, with no regard for anyone else around, but sadly it doesn't.

ALi-B

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Can't argue with that either.

Last year I had some new neighbors move in. All three of their sodding kids are below 12 years old. The girl (youngest) is a screamer. Screaming at a pitch that seemingly only I and dogs can hear...but not her parents. And one of the two lads who I swear has something like ADHD, or maybe just hyper. The other lad has rage issues, well that's the only explanation I can give for him going ape-sh*t at a begonia in the front garden.

Any chance of chilling out in my back garden was ruined by her screaming, the one lad's head constantly bobbing up and down over my 8ft high fence as he constantly jumped up and down on a trampoline thats 1metre in diameter. I felt like playing whack-a-mole. Meanwhile his brother constantly kicks ***** full force against the wall, until he misses and boots it over the fence, and then loses the plot.

I've had enough; I'm moving house anyway, hopefully by the end of this year (once the plumbing is sorted) - got planning permission at last I'll have to live with the builders next year.


This is not posted on facebook. Why would I?

Turbohot

Again,

Very humorous post, can't help laughing at your agony, Ali. sorry.

Definitely a very painful situation, I do empathise.

Lisawrx

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I feel for you, Ali, I really do.

(However, the way you told the story did make me chuckle, sorry. )

zip106

Some self shots are worse than others...

http://happyplace.someecards.com/176...re-on-facebook

Possibly NSFW

Turbohot

http://imfunny.net/show-image/?img=/...xpectation.jpg

Jamie

Matteeboy

Just for some balance here, I hate it as much as anyone (probably more) as I know that simple discipline along with not ignoring your kids constantly while checking FB on your iPhone or sticking them in front of the TV all day leads to well behaved kids that do what they are told. It's slightly similar with dogs - put some effort into training them properly and life becomes so much easier for yourself and everyone else.

The result is kids (and a dog) who are nothing but life enhancing, who are content and don't need an iPhone and endless computer games to stay happy.

I seriously think parenting has slipped badly in the last decade and the old "as a parent..." line is the prelude to justifying almost anything.