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My sincere wishes to your mum and hope she goes out the hospital fit and strong.Look after yourself, your family, your sister and the dog ofcourse.

Nathan.

Snazy

Many thanks mate.

I have filled up on food now, and recharged my emotional batteries a little, so will be heading up the hospital again soon to see how she is feeling now.

I will update as soon as I can. Hoping that her condition has improved a little.

Jamo

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hope shes ok mate

pete higham

sorry to hear about this michael

i do hope her condition gets better and at least your sister is coming round now

if you need to talk you know where i am

mart360

Hope all goes well


Mart

J4CKO

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All the best mate, try and keep your spirits up, difficult as that may be at this particular time.

Sonic'

Hope she has a better night tonight than last night

My Dad has started to come down with Flu now, which I feel partly responsible for, and this is the first time he has started to show any symptoms of being ill and Sunday when I called round with his Whisky he was flat out in the chair, and didnt look all that good really, but his spirits are high (more so now with the Whisky ) and he has fell asleep in the chair fully clothed for the last 3 nights on the run, my Mum not knowing until the morning

Anyway enough rambling from me, hope things are easier tonight, and that some of the pain subsides

Snazy

My sister was last to see her last night and said she was out of it by the time she left. She has been moved now to another ward, general medical ward.
Just got to get some food inside of me, and take the dog for a walk, then head to the hospital this morning. Think I am run down hence the cold symptoms, but not gonna take any chances. If im feeling rough by visiting time, its gonna be a quick in and out

Will update when I know more.

Thank you again for all the kind words.

Snazy

Cor blimey, ever heard the expression it never rains but it pours !

This morning I got a message from my sister to say she would not be able to get to the hospital. He other halfs, sister is terminally ill, has taken a turn for the worst and wont make the day.
Sadly half hour later, she passed away. RIP Debbie.
This leaves my sister caring for her grieving boyfriend, which is fair enough. They have to go to Devon now to see the family.
Knowing its the wrong place to have kids, I have offered to look after them for a few days. So im now child minding too lol.

Also I got a text from a good friend, showing me the view from.... his hospital bed!
He said a few days ago he was going to hospital but said no more. Now it appears he was admitted. He is in hospital in London but lives miles away, so its not like he has family locally to just drop in and pick bits up for him. So I will be popping in to visit him too.

Phew.

And of course, not forgetting....
Mum. Still being a fussy cow about food, insisting she wants to go home, and telling the doctors they are wrong and she knows best. Mums eh!
She is going to be in til mid week next week they think at the mo, and still need to do a scan on her too, which she is unable to have done til she can lay flat.
I dont think she realises a lot of the improvement in her condition is due to what the hospital are doing for her. Blood thining, oxygen, and strong pain killers.

Home now to rest for 5 mins, walk the dog, grab lunch, plan the visit to St Thomas's, and then collect the kids, back to Lewisham to see mum.... and so on.

ScoobyWon't

... and breathe.

Don't forget to take some time out for yourself. We don't want you joining them in hospital suffering from exhaustion.

little-ginge

Crikey, Snazy...

What a lot for you to cope with, as SW says make sure you look after yourself too otherwise you'll be the next one needing medical help

sarasquares

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i hope everything works out snazy

i dont know what to say as i keep thinking about when my mum finally went into hospital

no one can tell you it will be alright as no one knows where this is going to end, i just hope you can get through this and carry on being you, i am sure you will be ok as you have a lot of friends and your sister seems to be coming round.
my sister still hasn't bothered to visit my mums grave since she died. it makes me angry but you cant force people to care.

i mentioned on my cancer thread a while ago that my dads and mums best friend had been diagnosed with colon cancer, well he died on Monday, he was a fantastic bloke

keep your pecker up

Snazy

This IS my time out lol.
I know what you mean mate, I try and get a little rest between each thing just to get my mind into neutral for a while.
I feel run down as it is.

The added stress of course than this time next week im due to go away for 2 weeks. In all honesty, I will be going unless something severe happens. But of course would be on the next flight home if I need to

A good night sleep is helpful, slept like a baby last night. Up and down all night! Didnt wake up in my own **** though, so thats a bonus.

Right, quick hair cut. Then some lunch. Walk the dog, and see what spanner has hit the cogs in the next hour.

jaytc2003

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kin ell snazy dont know how you cope mate

who reckons snazy is going to appear on one of them carers of the year award shows soon alongside esther rantzen

Snazy

Cheers luv
The hardest bit with mum at the mo is the no knowing whats up. The symptoms she has suggest a blood clot. With the introduction of the blood thining injections she reports the pain has moved now. Which would support the blood clot theory. Sadly until she can lay down flat, they cant do the CT scan that they need to check this theory out. So its all a bit uncertain.

Im used to her being an awkward cow, so I can just joke about that part of things.

Sorry to bring up bad memories for you
As for how I will cope if the situation gets worse, I think I will be ok. Last week I was being a little inward, so got myself in a bit of a state. Now im thinking a lot clearer, so am in a better place mentally.
My sister is coming round, but her way of dealing with things is still challenging to say the least. But at least she has seen her a few times now.

Annoyingly her attitude is a bit grrrr. I took a fruit drink in for mum as she is not drinking much right now. Sadly when I left and she arrived, she allowed one of her kids to take the drink and drink it. Mum would have allowed it to be polite, but it left mum with nothing again. She is only peeing once a day, she is drinking so little. So I have to keep taking different drinks in to find something she will drink lol.

sarasquares

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i used to hate it when i had left my mum knowing that other visitors would do different things for her that were not the same as i would do.
she only went in to hospital as she had blood in her urine, but that was just a warning. they decided not to test further to see where the cancer had spread as there was nothing that could be done anyway. it was unbelievable how fast it spread to her brain, one minute she was her usual self then suddenly everything stopped working properly.
i used to take her in favorite foods and drinks and try to get her to have something but i knew that no one else would try as hard as i did when i wasn't there. thats what i felt upset about all the time, just the little things

i just wish i had understood the nature of cancer more. i didn't realise she had no time left and i thought she was getting better. all my time was spent helping her and i wish i now could have just been there more for her and not myself.

your mum will not want to drink or eat while she is so ill and in pain. but if she has morphine she will want even less. we fattened my mum up for the last few months so her body would have reserves to keep her going.

you will hopefully both find some middle ground , but you have to be patient. stress can make cancer worse so spend a bit of time on yourself and let go a little bit.

if you do too much now you wont be able to entertain us on here and that would be a great loss

fingers crossed all the way for you snazy

ScoobyWon't

Here's a bit of light relief for you, Snazy (aplogies as it's quick & dirty as I can't use photoshop very well without a mouse....).

Kieran_Burns

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Snazy.

Whatever else mate.

Always remember to take the time for a really good sh*t







I really hope everything is going well for you and your mum mate - I'll be thinking of you both and when I see my Mum, I'll give her an extra special hug to remind us both how much me and my mum love each other

Snazy

lol you nutta!!
Thats put the biggest smile on my face for the past few days... Thank you

Back from a tiring tour of the hospitals, and honestly washed out.

Now got to take the dog for an hours run! No rest for the wicked eh.

ScoobyWon't

Thought it may raise a smile

little-ginge

Scoobywont you are mad

why are you making snazy run tuvaq/tuvaqs twin over?

little-ginge

any more news on your mum snaz? hope they have her pain etc under control

Snazy

Right update....

Phew, im fooked after today. Done more today that I have done in a day for a long time.
Finished at St Thomas's at about 6pm then headed on pubic transport, to Ladywell station to see mum in hospital. As you can imagine 6pm on the trains with kids is a challenge, especially for someone sleeping on their feet lol.
Left mum and the hospital by about 8.45 tonight. Missus picked me and the kids up, drove home, swapped cars and went to the park for an hour and a half of running about with the kids and dog.
Picked dinner up at about 10.30 and finally here I am. Kids are pooped, sister is in Devon, dog worn out, and im on auto pilot.

Mum is on a higher dose of co-codamol now, so the pain is under control. Although convincing her she is NOT better and its only the drugs is a challenge. Still no joy on getting the scan done, they are hoping by tomorrow they can do it.

Put the PAYG TV on for her. She said over and over, no no no, then ignored everyone for half hour while she watched the news lol.

So im taking the kids to see her in the morning, then trying to fill the day with other bits to keep them entertained, while trying to get my other "repsonsibilities" done too, i.e dog walking etc.

Thanks for everyones posts, they are really keeping my spirits high

Snazy

The wheels are turned the other way, demonstrating the superior safety and braking of the Nissan Tuvaaq, as it swerves and misses him...... I think lol

ScoobyWon't

It's a parked car, Ginge

D'ya think Snaz would do that?

As I said before, I think most of us would hate for you to be worn out and end up in hospital suffering from exhaustion. I'm sure that if there is anything that any of us can do to make things easier for you, then you only need to ask.

I was thinking about photoshopping a snowy scene, but I was unsure about putting in a female with a funny hat, that may have got you in trouble

Snazy

lol put the funny hat pic in by all means mate As long as its my missus haha.

Cheers mate, properly fooked right now. Had 6 hours of broken sleep last night. Still not shaken this cold thing, or the cough I have. Got up around 8, done breakfast, then took the kids and the dog for a walk. About an hour.

Now its home to catch up on a couple of things, then get my list of daily chores ready, and off to see mum. Leaving to see mum any sec now.
Then take them to get haircuts, so im not walkin round with pikeys lol And from there.... prob lunch and shops.

Leslie

Good advice from Paul as ever and echoed here of course.

Its going to be a hard time for a while Snazy as you must realise of course. You will have to stay strong both for your mum and your sister as you said. Like Paul I have been through that sort of problem, very recently in fact, having lost my very close friend recently.

At least you know that SNetters will all be behind you and we all hope that things will improve soon for your mum.

Les

Turbohot

Snazy, hope your mum gets better soon.
You take care of yourself.

Snazy

Cheers Les, lost my 2 aunts to cancer over the past 10 or so years, my nan to cancer a few years back and dad to heart disease at the same time as nan. Thats just the immediate family.
Pretty used to the emotional side of grief now, just not the added strain of looking after sisters kids etc.... Tough balancing everything with all the hospital visits. And having to be the one doing the explaining, especially to kids I dont interact with THAT much.

Cheers for the support though guys, truly does make all the difference.

Been to see her quickly this morning, she was very tired, so we cut it short a bit. She mentioned to me that she has been bringing up blood for the past 24 hours now. Which has caused more concerns for them in the hospital. So more tests and treatments await her. However she can lay down now, so hopefully next opening for a scan, she will be straight in there

Not too sure about her being out by mid week just yet either, but time will be the judge of that one I think. Her SATs are coming up a bit now, but then she is on oxygen 24-7 so that does not really count for much. Once off will show the truth there.
Refusing some painkillers now, in a false reality that the pain has gone. The usual idea is DONT let them wear off, but I think she is in for a shock.

Still refusing to watch TV, saying she does not want to, but then in the same breath complaining she is so bored lol. Old women eh!

Aaah well, thats me. Im just about to take the kids out for the afternoon now. Should be fun, see if I can stay awake.

Stuck though, meant to help a mate move tomorrow, but with the dog being on his own at home, and me having the kids, my help will be limited. If anyone is in Bromley or Dulwich and has a few hours free and wants to lend a hand, shout up lol.

Leslie

If I did not live in Devon, Mrs Leslie and I would be there Snazy.

Les