Ant

As above, our little girl is 4 months and we've agreed we only want two.

But we're not sure when to try for the second.

My mum and dad had 3 5 years apart and I'd say I'm not that close to my brother.

What's your lots experience with the second?

I was thinking about when Ellie is 18months trying again.

specialx

We waited four years after our 1st son was born. Now at 6 & 2 they really look after each other and play very well together, I hope it lasts!


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I don't think there's a right or wrong answer - it's what you feel is best for you and your family. Best of luck.

pimmo2000

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My misses was breast feeding for a year after our son was born .. breast feeding stops new babies .. she stopped feeding, had one period and then got preggers again ..

so .. not long

Puff The Magic Wagon!

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Still waiting - 11.5 years so far

It certainly won't have the same mother, if indeed it happens...

Coffin Dodger

My brother and I are two years apart. We got on well enough, obviously tried to kill each other from time to time but it was all good in the end.

My missus and her sister are around 18 months apart and again get on well enough.

Think there are some schools of thought saying that a four year gap is optimum, guess that getting the first one off to school takes the load off a bit for the second.

Missus is due with our first at the end of April, if we decide to go for a second I'm not sure how long we'd wait, problem is time is not on our side so two years is probably enough for us. Also intend to be neutered after that

hodgy0_2

2 years is a good gap when young

mind you as time goes on it gets less important I am very close to my two younger brothers who are 8 and 11 years younger than me

Hysteria1983

My son was 7 months old when I plucked up the courage to do a test.

They are 17 months apart. It's great! *insert ironic smiley here on bad days*

EddScott

9 years and counting

Mrs wants another - I'm not fussed. We're both busy her with the business and my career so a new baby would be freaking nightmare.

Fortunately the wife was a pregnant teen ( the shame ) so time is on our side.

Ant

Thanks guys/girls , seems like a two year gap will be ok.

I'll be 27 then which I prefer as I can always remember a mate of mine from school and his dad was 62, he couldn't do anything with him.

Then I'll have the snip, might change my mind if I don't get a boy

DJ_Jon

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There is a 5 year gap between me & my brother. If I had kids I would want them to be a maximum of 2 years apart. Mind you I wouldn't want to bring any children into this world!

53

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2 years hated the 3.5year gap between me and my bro Mine are 2 years apart and best buds

Fat Boy

16 month gap here (unplanned ooops).

Apart from double buggy and double nappy period for a relatively short while it's been great as they are best mates (most of the time) and entertain each other a lot. They are now 6 (boy) and 7 (girl) but as he's taller and heavier than her most people think that they are twins.

The Dogs B******s

We waited approx 9years,not by choice

Dingdongler

18 months apart, but then I was a bit older than you when I had my first so needed to crack them out.

It's worked out really well and they are best friends and never get bored as they always have each other to play with. Both boys by the way.

windyboy

my cousins 2 children are approxiately 9 months apart so I guess he didn't wait too long before getting back in the saddle

windyboy

SpecDscooby

Need to consider what works personally too....having 2 kids a couple of years apart is not for everyone.

My son was a sod, so we waited 4 years, he was safely into school when his sister was born. This offers realistic time frames we find, since he goes to school an gives us 6 hours of free time for all the other crap!!

95turbowagon

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The other half watches One born every minute and that gets her wanting another. Our daughter is 15 months and i'm quite content with one at the moment.

EmzWRX

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Mine are 7 (next month) and 3 (4 in October) and they are great together

Adrian F

£9000 a year for Uni i would have thought you need 10 years between kids so you can save up again

butlerwrx

my girls are 2 years apart. 2 and a half and the other 7months

Turbohot

My son was 4 when I got pregnant again. There is just under 5 years gap between them. My son was very jealous of the new born baby with a crunched up face. After a while, his jealousy faded away, and they started to get on really well. Little one's littleness and silly-billy acts entertained her older brother, and now, her teenage cocky attitude puts him in stitches. They get on fine at 5 years gap. In fact, she bosses him about like his older sister, and he bursts out with giggles at that.

Hysteria1983

Same here.

My son has just turned 5 and my daughter is 4 in July, so they are really close.
For is it's perfect as I have put my career on hold for now and once I am back that's it. No more babies.

David Lock

Up to you but our daughter was 16 months when little brother arrived. Got on well but perhaps that was different sexes? Both very different characters.

22 years later and they are still huge mates

dl

Lee247

My Son is 20 and my daughter has just turned 17, 2 days ago. They fought like cat and dog when small, but are best pals and so close now, it's unreal. They stick together like glue when we have a go at one of them

zs_phil

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My girls are 3 and 9 biggish gap but doctors told my wife she couldnt have any more and another child would be a miracle...law and behold a miracle happened

Shows some doctors know jacksh*t

Lee247

How brilliant is that, fantastic

LEO-RS

Can you afford to have 2 in nursery?

Optimum would be a 4yr gap, get the 1st 1 off to school and then the 2nd one comes along. The older 1 can look out for the younger 1 at school well with the difference, more mature, more sensible, and can help you along too. It will also cause you a lot stress in the long run I think as kids 2yrs apart will probably crave the same attention, the same toys, the same everything. However 4yrs apart then the older 1 wont be interested in the younger 1's toys and all the fighting that comes along with that.

Hysteria1983

Don't assume everyone sends them to nursery, some parents stay at home and pop them put every year.

In my experience of childcare, there is no good age gap, I have seen parents with 5+ years between them, and others with only 10 or so months, it all depends on how you feel you can cope with two young children.
I was used to looking after 3 children under 10 months old on a daily basis, so to me it was like water off a ducks back, but to others, I imagine the prospect of having a baby and a toddler is just too much.

Funkii Munkii

This summer they'll be 16 years, 8 years and 7 months, so roughly 7 years between 1 and 2 and 7.5 years between 2 and 3.

Just wish I was a bit younger