J4CKO

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We are friends with a family, and have been for years that use the word Rape as a general day to day word, if our dogs are playing and get a bit frisky, apparently they are "raping" each other, if one of them leaves their Facebook account open and someone types on it they have been "Facebook Raped" and there are other examples where they just drop it into conversation, anyone else think this is a bit distasteful and an innapropriate use of what should be a word reserved to describe a violent sexual attack ? its funny as they are normally a bit of a soppy bunch.

I personally wouldnt use it like that in case someone in earshot has been a victim of rape or knew someone who had as it would be insensitive and trivialise what is a very serious matter, am I being over sensitive, the wife hates it as well.

Eternal Rage

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I agree with what you are saying, but it is a word that has evolved into more than just a phrase to describe sexual assault.

I have found myself using it, and then think, humm, what if someone's overheard.

Camoscooby

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+1

stef_2010

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It's only a word IMO

P1Fanatic

I think your overthinking it. As above its just a word so depends on the context used. What would you think if someone said "I could murder a brew"?

Simon

what would scooby do

Yes I use it like this:

"Oh christyflaps the foamers have raped the shelves.."

foamers=stressed out shoppers usually at sale time.. and they have emptied all of the shop shelves of product

J4CKO

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I think its perhaps because the wife doesnt like it and goes on about it means I am tuned in to it, I think she doesnt like it as they always say our dog is "raping" theirs.

I will use the "Murder" a brew line on the wife to try and give her some perspective.

I think its because the use of the word has evolved more recently but we have been Murderign brews for years.

The Zohan

Spot on!

Hysteria1983

I too have seen this term used to describe something non-specific, or unrelated to it's actual meaning.

It doesn't make me think it's disrespectful of them. It does however make me think they themselves have never encountered sexual abuse or know someone who has suffered, in that, I think they are just having a laugh or behaving a bit immature.

If such people knew how victims or rape, or sexual assault felt, abd how it made these 'victims' feel to use the term so loosely, I doubt they would do it.

Hysteria1983

I too have seen this term used to describe something non-specific, or unrelated to it's actual meaning.

It doesn't make me think it's disrespectful of them. It does however make me think they themselves have never encountered sexual abuse or know someone who has suffered. So, I think they are just having a laugh or behaving a bit immature.

If such people knew how victims or rape, or sexual assault felt, abd how it made these 'victims' feel to use the term so loosely, I doubt they would do it.

Coffin Dodger

What about the crop Rape, are you allowed to talk about that.

The oil is supposed to be very nice and good for you

David Lock

Strange friends you have

I don't think I know anyone who would use the term as you describe, young or old. I suppose the only time is when it is used in non-sexual terms would be to describe a strong feeling such as "the town planners have raped the countryside"

But I probably say "I'll kill him/her" on an almost daily basis depending on which member of the family or pet has done something against my high standards

dl

Hysteria1983

Rape seed oil is great stuff!

But that's something completely different.

Leslie

Yes of course, but it depends on the context in which it is used of course. I could well imagine someone who had been attacked in the past being pretty sensitive about it.

Les

what would scooby do

or if they are from Wellingborough they may demand more

Xx-IAN-xX

In the words of mr-impreza who wants bumming or even facebook bumming

Dedrater

All in context imo. I tell the missus to "go get raped" when she pisses me off, obviously don't mean it.

Not a word I would use in work or around people I don't know.

lilesk

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I think it's a strong word, and one I have used on occasions.
Such as when I've had a really bad night on Call of Duty, I feel I've been raped.
I try to restrict my use of it, a bit like swearing. It's OK in moderation, and in the right circumstances.

Lee247

I'm with your wife on this one, J4CKO. I would not dream of using it as an everyday type of word and wouldn't like to hear it used as such, either

ALi-B

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Rape is an ambiguious word anyway and often not correctly used to decribe a sordid event.

Like the dripping pulp left over from a good pummeling of your grapes, or the cultivation of your Brassica napus.

Lee247

Oh I agree, it's just not a word I would use. To each their own.
I am very partial to the "f" word, no idea why but it tickles me to bits (read into that what you will) but I cannot tolerate the "c" word.

Lydia72

I would find it tacky to be honest, especially if they were saying it around children.

Ginola

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friends of mine use this word regularly in discriptive ways of prouncing there anoyance at team play internet games , "THERE FooKIN RAPEING US COME ON NUBS!!" etc

its not that they are imature or ilitirate the words useage has simply changed over time, as have many others , someone mentioned GAY , this means happy ? etc etc words and the meanings of/useage of them change.

Jaybird-UK

I bet you are happy saying "I could murder a curry" or "I could murder a pint" etc

isnt that just as bad?

belliott69

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rape in todays language has evolved into more then one meaning as have other words over the years, i use it sometimes not to be derogertory to sexual abuse victims but as others have said, ie if i was playing footie and we lost 6-0, "god they raped us today", would be an example. i can be partial to the c word as well if someone has done something bad enough to deserve it.

scoobyvirgin

It's a term I use every now and again, mainly when my mate is playing the fruit machine and losing. "Getting raped again?"

Torquemada

Never has been just about sexual assault but I hear where you are coming from. I hear women and men using it alike, I have used it myself but not in polite company. e.g. I've been raped for money by the taxman this month.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/rape

DYK

I don't like the C word when a Londoner says it..

I remember when i was working with a guy from London some time ago,every day when he would say to me (Alright ****) I was like Never asked him what it means,I would just say Alright ,and my mate from Luton don't know either what it means...

Will