my wife has just lost her best friend
28 May 2010, 08:49 PM
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my wife has just lost her best friend
my wife is absolutley heartbroken tonight shes just lost her best friend aged 26 routine operation heart stopped she is inconsolble and think its a dream im trying to cope the best as i can
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28 May 2010, 09:12 PM
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28 May 2010, 09:13 PM
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Been in a similar position with a close freind, who's wife died of an illness very sudden, left 2 young children behind. It feels like you're in hell and no way out. Somehow, it does and will get better.
28 May 2010, 09:21 PM
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I take it this just happend today? What was her friend in for?
She will be in shock at the moment and the whole thing just wont feel real, that is a good thing for now, crazy as it may seem.
She will be in shock at the moment and the whole thing just wont feel real, that is a good thing for now, crazy as it may seem.
28 May 2010, 09:27 PM
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gaul bladder her heart stopped for sometime got it restarted and her lungs started filling up end off wife keeps saying my little fat specyfoureyed friend has gone and has she died who she loved its fookin hard
28 May 2010, 09:29 PM
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Sorry to here that mate I lost a friend in a car accident and I was in total shock when I heard as I had only seen him a few hours earlier.
I know it's of little consolation now but hopefully in time your wife will be able to look back with fond memories of all the good times they spent together.
I know it's of little consolation now but hopefully in time your wife will be able to look back with fond memories of all the good times they spent together.
28 May 2010, 10:13 PM
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Sorry to hear about that Nick. My bridesmaid from 13 years ago died the day before yesterday, a long time family friend of the wife. Brain cancer, told a year ago after headaches, dead within a year. I find it so upsetting. 29 years old, no age to go.
28 May 2010, 10:53 PM
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Grab moments while you can, but always be on call, she's in a dark place right now but you'll be the one to lead her out; and you will.
28 May 2010, 11:16 PM
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My younger brother died a month ago from a brain tumor - he was 28.
Although we knew it was terminal, and it was a long decline, the end came very suddenly.
It's a very surreal situation. My mum, older brother, his wife, my girlfriend and another family friend were all just numb on that Sunday morning. It just didn't seem real.
Oddly, we all ended up going out for breakfast. It's a situation where you are all helpless, and it is difficult to not only comprehend the situation, but to also understand what to do.
Things will be very difficult in the short-term, but they will get better in the coming days. The hurt will take a long time to heal, and everyone grieves in their own way. Take each minute, hour, day as it comes. Support each other. Maybe ask a close mutual friend, who may not have known your wife's friend so well, to help comfort the both of you. Sometimes having someone slightly removed from the situation can help to add some normality and reality to things.
Look after each other.
Although we knew it was terminal, and it was a long decline, the end came very suddenly.
It's a very surreal situation. My mum, older brother, his wife, my girlfriend and another family friend were all just numb on that Sunday morning. It just didn't seem real.
Oddly, we all ended up going out for breakfast. It's a situation where you are all helpless, and it is difficult to not only comprehend the situation, but to also understand what to do.
Things will be very difficult in the short-term, but they will get better in the coming days. The hurt will take a long time to heal, and everyone grieves in their own way. Take each minute, hour, day as it comes. Support each other. Maybe ask a close mutual friend, who may not have known your wife's friend so well, to help comfort the both of you. Sometimes having someone slightly removed from the situation can help to add some normality and reality to things.
Look after each other.
29 May 2010, 12:25 AM
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As said, really sorry to hear this. It certainly is no age to go. 
I guess this is always the worry about surgery, it really frightens me.
All I can say is, is be strong as you can be for your wife, but grieve together. Don't be afraid to be upset, just be there for each other.
Take care.
I guess this is always the worry about surgery, it really frightens me.
All I can say is, is be strong as you can be for your wife, but grieve together. Don't be afraid to be upset, just be there for each other.
Take care.
