delcbr

hi please only reply with a sensible answer.......people keep telling me that i need to get a life and i know its true but i really dont know how to go about changing my life for the better.
iam 29 male iam an engineer i work night shift i like cars and bikes dont really have much friends or a gf at the moment i have had gf's before.

i dont have a social life and when it comes to the weekends i dont get up to anything.yet i am confident when speaking to m or f and i can chat away being friendly with my neighbours.

i just dont find myself in a social group or meeting people or getting out at the weekends
so for yous people who do have a life could yous give me some pointers and some things to try and help me amend my life what things do yous do that makes yous happy?even if yous dont want to post a reply for other people to see pm the answer its better than nothing

oh yea i know the 1st step i should do is get off shift work.

spireite

Think you may have come to the wrong place mate , do you think any of us as got a life posting on here all the time . anyway im off to get the popcorn this could be interesting .

Walwal

My 1st reaction is you need to get a social scene. Do the people from work ever go out as a group?? If so, tag along.

Andy.

Coc-ker

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Try and find people with similiar interests, local meets etc.

J4CKO

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Lad at work does some fantastic stuff with this lot.

J4CKO

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PS, you can have j4ckos mate if you like,

Be careful what you wish for....

dpb

Social life can stem from the most bizzare/banal situations actaully , thats all you need to know - its a matter of listening to what someone is telling you...!

just remember also if you can count real friends on more than one hand your a bit of a freak

PetesDad

As said above ... you are asking people who are hooked on ScoobyNet, we have no lives!!!

..... don't listen to a word on here in answer to your question - ask the people in the Gym, Local .. etc.!!

powerwrx

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do you drive a scoob? if you do ,find time to get to some local meets, im sure ull be welcomed. i work shifts myself but it doesnt stop me having a scocial life,although nights arnt the best shift to be on i must admit. work all night-sleep all day(not good). think you need to get off that shift.

Lisawrx

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As has been said, if possible it may be worth getting off the shift you are on, I can imagine how difficult it would be to balance work and social life on that shift.

Until then, have you no common ground with the others you work with on night shift? They may not become life long pals, but may get you out there into the social scene in someway, if even only short term. Getting a new job/being on a different shift could open up a whole new world so to speak, if that is a viable option.

Only you can really know what your real likes are, and as difficult as it can be, you sometimes just need to get out there on your own and find your own path. You may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome, sometimes it's thinking about doing new things that is worse than actually doing them.

Car meet may be a good idea if possible, if that is one of your interests, just get out there and chat.

Good luck, just get out there.

SwissTony

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SwissTony

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paulwrxboro

do a corse at collage any thing that takes ya fancy
i also found the people at golf are easy to get along with and always wanting to have a game

or buy a small hotel in blackpool people are always asking me and the mrs to go for a drink with them

Fuzz

**** me did I write this in my sleep.

Jamo

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Age verification

and get a job where you work daylight hours

BOB.T

Stop saying 'yous'

GC8WRX

Adult friend finder!

Wont find any long term mates on there but at least youll get a ****!

Coffin Dodger

Pete

j4ckos mate

you have a great life mate stick as you are, no kids, women,

jsut get your self to sandyssuperstars once ina while and join a gym as well, you will be laughin mate

j4ckos mate

oi just seen that

r32

Join a local club or clubs, car club, etc etc

Dr Hu

I was in a similar situation to you a few years ago - I sat on the sofa one day & thought **** me there got to be more to life than this.....

SO i did something about it - someone on here(POC) said he had just had a great night out with Round Table....

Who I thought? - Round Table

Best thing I ever joined - only go out every other tuesday, but go with 10 or so other guys, and done some amazin stuff - all on tuesday nite!

Canoeing, quad biking, go-karting, rock climbing, archery, mud buggies, hovercraft racing, treasure hunts, rifle shooting, clays....you name we've done it, this in addition to the copious amounts of beer consumed regularly....

Best thing I ever joined - and reccommend it to anyone on here - Its like scouts for men!

next Tues - I'm going Clay Pigeon shooting, the week after we having a trip to a classic Jaguar restorers, day after its agricultural sports day - racing diggers, farm machinery etc.....

Last week we were Quad Biking, then pub...

jonc

There are a few lives for sale on ebay, I kid you not!!

Fuzz

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The getting a **** to Nutters ratio is pretty good.

2:1 so far.

j4ckos mate

id aim for days, and maybe a pub job ?

New_scooby_04

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Which is all well and good until one of the nutters cuts off your dangly bits! That will have an adverse effect on your ratio

To the OP: Sounds like your working hours are your major problem mate. Change them. Get yourself a couple of hobbies you'll enjoy, problem sorted!

Ns04

Markus

Just had a look at the Round Table link and have to say that does sound rather good so I'd suggest going along.

You say you have an interest in cars, see if there are any local meets and pop along. Even if you don't own the marque whose meet it is, they are generally very friendly people. I made a lot of friends via going to meets, and I'm still in contact with them even though I no longer own an Impreza, nor am I even in the same country When I do pop back to the UK, if there's a meet, I'll pop along and I'm still more than welcome.

Peanuts

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read magic bullets or mystery method and get out sarging

TopBanana

Have you thought about stalking someone? It might be exactly the sort of focus you need right now.

Scoobychick

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Become a Scoobynet moderator, that'll get you lots of nice new friends









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