Any advice for calming 'first date' nerves.....!
15 August 2003, 10:36 AM
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You would think at 34 I'd be used to this 
But ... known her for a short while through friends and I finally asked her out and are going out tonight..... and she is 'so nice'
Plenty of times this hasn't bothered me but when you really like them... then boy, do the nerves start to jangle
Any advice gratefully accepted
PS Booze and valium out the equation as have to drive
... must remember to keep speed down through the twisties
But ... known her for a short while through friends and I finally asked her out and are going out tonight..... and she is 'so nice'
Plenty of times this hasn't bothered me but when you really like them... then boy, do the nerves start to jangle
Any advice gratefully accepted
PS Booze and valium out the equation as have to drive
... must remember to keep speed down through the twisties 
15 August 2003, 10:48 AM
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Fatherpierre....
Unfortunately don't have time mate or would have gone out on mountian bike to help relax..... but meeting @ 7:30 and prob stuck at work till 5:30 
Cheers
Unfortunately don't have time mate or would have gone out on mountian bike to help relax..... but meeting @ 7:30
and prob stuck at work till 5:30 Cheers
15 August 2003, 10:49 AM
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Oh you men are awful!
Just be yourself. She will like you more if you are a bit nervous I would imagine, it shows you care and that you havent got used to doing this kind of thing.
Men that are too confident are just dumped and called "Cocky & Arrogant" in my case.
You'd want her to just be herself wouldnt you?
Just be yourself. She will like you more if you are a bit nervous I would imagine, it shows you care and that you havent got used to doing this kind of thing.
Men that are too confident are just dumped and called "Cocky & Arrogant" in my case.
You'd want her to just be herself wouldnt you?
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15 August 2003, 11:06 AM
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Just be yourself Simon and you'll be fine. Nerves are a nightmare though but I suppose that since you will be rushing about to get ready after work that should help you take your mind off it a bit. Just be thankful you are not like me cos when I am nervous I can's stop talking!!!
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15 August 2003, 11:07 AM
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Thanks Mrs P1 and AJ
Brun
Nice one mate... although not too sure if many others will pick up on the humour
[Edited by SiPie - 8/15/2003 11:07:46 AM]
Brun
Nice one mate
... although not too sure if many others will pick up on the humour [Edited by SiPie - 8/15/2003 11:07:46 AM]
15 August 2003, 11:23 AM
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she may find the nervous thing endearing
if all else fails, chloroform is your best friend.
At the end of the first date with my girlfriend, I asked her if she wanted to come to a family party the next day. I went on to tell her that all my family are goths and we have a fresh batch of chickens ready to sacrefice, so it should be a good night.
This was of course a wind up
Her face was a picture, 5 and a bit years down the line and shes almost like family
if all else fails, chloroform is your best friend.
At the end of the first date with my girlfriend, I asked her if she wanted to come to a family party the next day. I went on to tell her that all my family are goths and we have a fresh batch of chickens ready to sacrefice, so it should be a good night.
This was of course a wind up
Her face was a picture, 5 and a bit years down the line and shes almost like family
15 August 2003, 11:46 AM
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dont be nervous.
remember...she agreed to go out with you in the first place...so she must like you.
go home and have a long shower and just chill out for a bit. Play X box or something to relieve tension and nervousness.
just stop thinking about it as a date...and think about it as two mates going out for a drink. its the word "Date" that makes people nervous.
good luck mate!
remember...she agreed to go out with you in the first place...so she must like you.
go home and have a long shower and just chill out for a bit. Play X box or something to relieve tension and nervousness.
just stop thinking about it as a date...and think about it as two mates going out for a drink. its the word "Date" that makes people nervous.
good luck mate!
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If i'm nervous on a date, i find i either start joking around too much or start asking loads of **** questions acting all sensibly, either way i end up looking like a right doughnut. Fortunatly girls know that we do this stuff when we are nervous, and can see right through it.
If you already know her, then she already knows what you are like, so the chances are that even if you make a dick of yourself by being nervous, it won't change her opinion of you.
Just chill out and ejoy yourself!
(I really should practice what i preach!)
If you already know her, then she already knows what you are like, so the chances are that even if you make a dick of yourself by being nervous, it won't change her opinion of you.
Just chill out and ejoy yourself!
(I really should practice what i preach!)
15 August 2003, 11:51 AM
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make sure you enjoy yourself mate, dont forget to compliment her hair, even if it looks $hit.
let us know how you got on.
Second date, with my gf i got into a massive punch up well i was 17 so it was to be expected, thank god i grew up. You would be surprised what women will put up with
let us know how you got on.
Second date, with my gf i got into a massive punch up
well i was 17 so it was to be expected, thank god i grew up. You would be surprised what women will put up with
15 August 2003, 11:57 AM
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erm...if i were you..i wouldnt compliment her on her hair....that might sound a bit weird.
but by all means...when you see her...say that she either looks very nice or gorgeous...depending on how assertive youre feeling
she will automatically relax after that which will in turn make you more relaxed.
but by all means...when you see her...say that she either looks very nice or gorgeous...depending on how assertive youre feeling
she will automatically relax after that which will in turn make you more relaxed.
15 August 2003, 12:09 PM
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.........oh, and another thing, be civilized but remember to be flirty aswell. I always act too civilized and pally and before i know it, we're just good friends and she's asking me advice on blokes that she fancies!
15 August 2003, 12:36 PM
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Thanks guys n' gals
Looking forward to it so I'm sure it's just good old fashioned excitement rather than nerves
My outstanding wit and charm will shine through the nerves and I'll post up to let you guys know how it went
Must remember to switch my phone off though as I can picture the scene ........
<Ring ring>.....
<girl on date> ..... Who was that?
<Me>..... Oh wrong number
Looking forward to it so I'm sure it's just good old fashioned excitement rather than nerves
My outstanding wit and charm will shine through the nerves
and I'll post up to let you guys know how it went Must remember to switch my phone off though as I can picture the scene ........
<Ring ring>.....
Hey Si.... It's Kenny (Saxo Boy), I'm on the **** of a standard 911 and he looks like he's up for a play, what's the power to weight ratio of these beasts mate and do reckon I'll whip his ***....wish me luck mate
<Me>..... Oh wrong number