248SPG

sorry to be a downer on this wonderful BBS but I am in need of help or advice from both males and females about a relatrionship problem I have!!!

I have been seeing this Girl who live in Belfast for over a year and 1 week b4 my b'day she tells me she wants to take a "Step back"

What do I do ???? Do I fight for her like I want too or do I just go with what my mates say "Long distance Relationships never last"

btw - I live in Berkshire and we see eachother at least twice a month!!!

HELP!!!!! :-(

steve G MAN

bin her mate

248SPG

Cheers Steve G and what a conicidence we share the same Initials!!!

SCOSaltire

id say dump too...

but its good that u want to make things work... coz when theres a little thing that goes wrong in a relationship - ull be able to fix it

Popeye P1

LOL at 'bin her'

Yeah get rid, kick her into touch NOW!!!!!

marty_t3

Yeah, ditch her mate. She's not the one for you.

bigsinky

you will miss the belfast accent m8. fraid im not the most qualified to give advice coz i got a divorce for crimbo, so i went out and bought meself a scoob. best fun ive had in years m8.

cheers

big sinky

fast bloke

How can anyone miss a Belfast accent - I have unfortunately been cursed with one!! I'd miss it like a wet fart on a foggy day


248SPG - If she is a babe post her number and I'll make sure she is well looked after. If she isn't, go and find smeone you can **** every day

Luke

Sounds to me as if she going behind your back with one of your friends...

get round there and give her one up the pokey to say goodbye...she will let you just to get rid of you.

Good Luck and dont worry.

CELL

Hi, its Scooby_Loo, I forgot my password so I have used cell's account!


I had a long distance relationship with CELL to start with, I lived in Edinburgh and he lived in Sheffield. I now live in sheffield.

Fair enough, I saw him almost every weekend, but if it were twice a month I would want anything but a step back. Im only assuming here that it isnt that serious, although in long term relationships both parties can get even more emotionally involved (absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that) and feel like its going nowhere and it does get really frustrating. Maybe shes scared because she feels this way and she is also being told long term relationships are a waste of time?

I say talk to her about it face to face, theres a hundred and one reason as to what it could be.

Good Luck

Loo

andrewdelvard

Say goodbye. It's the only chance you'll have of getting her back.

SCOSaltire

Scooby_Loo has a good point...

it could be her m8s/family telling her that long distance relationships dont work - so ask her whats up and ask if shes doing it so she doesnt get hurt...

if ur not satisfied with the answer, then call it quits

steps back rarely work - just make it a drawn out break up

moses

matey i know u love her but imagine a few yrs down the line u get married and if she is taking a step back now she would do it later and screw u for half of your money so i say get a decent one

Brun

I agree with SCOSaltire.

248SPG

Thanks alot for all the advice guys!!!!

I think it is time to call it a day then :-(

Well whats meant to be is meant to be!!!!

Fastbloke - She is a babe and no point in having her number as she hates scoobs!!!!

Also I am REALLY going to miss the accent!!

[Edited by 248SPG - 1/26/2003 2:36:54 PM]

BOB.T

Dude, wait till you get your B'day pressies before you bin her off

stevebt

iTrader: (8)

why dump her you can still see people where you live and talk to her plus the odd time you might be able to go and see her if you have nothing here no harm in having a spare hehehe

rr_ww

Long distance relationships are seriously HARD work. If you still have feelings for her try and remain "friends". Meet up every 4-6 months or so, not as a precursor to getting back together just to have a drink and a laugh about what you've been up to in the meantime.


Or alternatively [Astraboy mode] **** all her mates and phone her at 3am to dump her [/Astraboy mode]

248SPG

Bob - Already got the pressies luckily!!!

Anyway going to talk to her later so I will see what happens!!

Amanda-Jane

If you truely love her fight for her. I would do the same. It could just be a case of friends/family telling her what to do. I've had relationships like that before and I always listened but not now, I do what I want now and **** everyone else!

I only see Kenny at weekends and it can be tough through the week but it makes it all more worthwhile at the weekend.

We all make mistakes in our life and I have made one recently but if something is worth saving then do everything you possibly can to make it work. It might feel strange/different being together for a while after this but I am sure you will work through it if you truely want to.

AJ

Popeye P1

How can u miss a Belfast accent? Does the Rev Ian Paisley turn you on? LOL

248SPG

LMAO @ Popeye!!!!

Cheers for the advice AJ This is so confusing!!!

bigsinky

told ya bout the accent didnt I

cheers

big sinky

Redkop

248SPG ... what reason has she given you for wanting a step back??

248SPG

Red - She is just saying that she is hating life a lot at the moment and she needs time to work out what it is in her life that she needs to change.

I am just thinking that it may be just an way of letting me down easy!!!

MoSizlak

I think you should act like you're not that bothered,say that you still respect her as a person and think its really important to stay "friends"
Then hook up with some local talent and take the odd trip over to belfast for a bit of "the other"

248SPG

MoS - Sounds like a good plan but my worst feature is being too much of a nice guy.

Desperatly looking for a scoob now though as I hear the women love 'em!!!

248SPG

Just spoke to her and she doesnt want to talk about it!!! What now then??????

andrewdelvard

Remind her that you have feelings as well and that you need to talk about it....But it does sound like it's over. Sorry mate.

CELL

Scooby_Loo the relationship guru says:

OMG what a b1tch (sorry, i know it's your bird). Tell her to **** off [img]images/smilies/mad.gif[/img] !

Loo