Weird one,but did some work for a client about 3 years ago.She had my mobile.Never had a relationship with the person in any way,shape or form.And never would.lol

About a year ago she found out I was divorced.No idea how.Has sent berween 20-30 text messages to me a day,every day, without fail,professing her love for me,then hate,then love.etc etc

At first it was funny,then bloody creepy,then bloody scary

Anyone attracted an utter fruit loop??! Fecking weirdos out there

Oh,and have blocked her but messages just go to spam so can still see she is texting

 

Just plough her and get it over and done with !

Mick

 

Have you told the police? If you are genuinely concerned you should as it's just a form of stalking.

 

No. Never.

I'm not really that ugly but I have very clear and strict boundaries with my service users and all the people I know, even as friends and acquaintances TBH. No one has ever tried bothering me like that. They won't dare. If they did, they'd be reported to the cops.

I'd never find it funny; even in the beginning. I'd be stepping outside my professional boundaries, if I did.

I suppose it has a lot to do with what profession it is, and what the ethics of the profession are. And of course, with your own level of vulnerability to things like that. And of course, some people may chase you without any encouragement because they have a screw or two loose in their upper storey. The victim should take care, in such cases.

 

Yes. I second that. Do it. Such obsessive behaviour by the perpetrator can lead to them harming to the victim in one or other capacity. That's why I said- Take care

 

20 - 30 is a lot

 

How many a day do you think are acceptable from a stalker, Duncan?

 

about 12 -15

 

Honestly, even less should ring alarm bells even initially, well, unless it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

On the subject, I do see a lot of people on line that talk of being stalked are stalkers themselves TBH. Some just want to feel valued, so they create stalkers around themselves with their own acts and then call those stalkers bunny boilers, cat pinchers, shovel robbers etc. When some people are really and factually being stalked by some weirdos without encouraging them, they end up getting very, very traumatised. They must report their stalkers to police.

 

Hey Swati :-)

Encouraged nothing,done nothing,never known anything like it! Unfortunately think it is the world we are in.Had to block her from linkedin too.Just shows you the dangers of the internet too..lol

Oh well.Police job I reckon ,in fact, I'll stick to deleting,but crikey she is annoying

 

Well, you did say that at first you found it funny. Loz, perhaps your profession allows you to take such behaviour funny at any point (early point, in your case). You finding it funny initially might have encouraged her without you thinking of it as an encouraging factor.

To be honest, in any day and age, with or without internet, a vulnerable person is a danger to oneself, never mind others endangering him/her.

Anyhoo, good luck.

 

Yeah I have had a couple over the years, latest one is Jayallen, he's obsessed with following all my posts on here and always commenting about me, I just take it as a compliment and think he must have a pretty sad existence to be spending so much time on me, it's a bit sad and pathetic really, shows that there's something seriously missing in their life.

My advice is just ignore it and pity the fool, and try not to encourage them, that's what I do.

 

lol.I just delete everything

Just strange behaviour from an adult.lol

 

I know that one reply would encourage.lol

 

Has she sent any pictures yet?

 

Hah! no way

 

Yup

Utter nutter

 

I would report to police and in writing. Obviously keep record of all calls and do not reply.


Better to make a fuss rather than her turning up at your door with a knife in her knickers or stripping off and accusing you of rape.


Sorry to hear of this and hope it's resolved for you. David

 

Try telling her you will be reporting her to the police

 

Hi,
You need to report her to the police - as a preemptive strike.
This is because by ignoring her - this could make her turn it back on you and invent stories that you have been stalking her!
Get a log of your texts and calls with the police - so that you have evidence that you have not instigated it, replied or harassed her.
Cheers
Steve

 

Just as a matter of interest,surely the police could get all her phone records to show all the messages she has sent anyway ?

 

Depends on the length of time and the reason for their request. It would require a court order and unless she really gets bad it's not likely.

Deleting them isn't a smart move IMP, keep the evidence. It might sound funny here, but this woman sounds seriously unbalanced and I'd be very careful.

 

Tell her your flattered but you've found someone that might get her off your back..

I have the opposite problem I always say I'm married with kids in the first instance of a conversation works sometimes and most times eggs them on even more

 

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Can you give her my number...

 

I went out with a proper nutter for a few years. Never again.

 

We need a picture of her for a definitive answer to your query.

 

+1


I had one mild issue with the daughter of a tenant. She got hold of my number via her mother and pestered me for a bit.

Had the whole undying love bit and I as gently as possible explained that I had no interest and her response was pretty vicious. Fortunately, that ended it but was awkward when I had to have contact with them.

I wouldn't leave it and dismiss it. A few texts and accepting of the brushoff like the above OK, fine. If it's carried on like you say then that's a problem that probably shouldn't be ignored.

 

I married my Nutter. Of course, I didn't know she was a nutter until after we were married!

 

Is she well off ?