I lived with someone for 10 years only for her to p1ss off and take half of everything. Had quite a few relationships since but after living on my own for nearly 7 years.....that`s the way it`s staying! I`m not saying I want to be alone, just won`t live with anyone again. If a girl has her own place and is happy with that situation, then great....but that`s as far as I`ll ever go again. As for the meaning of love....**** knows!

 

After 10 years? That sucks! Do you mind me asking what reason she gave for abandoning such a long term relationship?

 

Yup

And definitely not a boring missionary position girl that has to have the lights off

 

too right if you didnt see it, it didnt happen

 

No, don't mind you asking. Tbh, she never gave a definitive reply when I asked why!

 

Its pretty ****ty when taht happens. It happened to a few of my mates. Some long termers where she suddenly upped and left with no real reasons.


Although in those cases the woman shacked up with another bloke rather quickly. Too quickly IMO : I know for fact one bird was seeing a bloke behind my mates back....at the time she worked for my mum who had noticed her doodling on a notepad with this other guys name scribbled all over the place....I didn't find this out until after the split though. Of course I relayed said information on, as it did involve a house, so it did get pretty messy.

 

Tbh i think that most if not all people have had a **** ending of a relationship, thats life and what doesnt kill you makes you stronger however im wondering if the whole saying of one person for each person and the term 'soul mate' is really true, if so what happens if you have that soul mate and lose them, is it a case of giving up and not looking ever again or settling for second best

 

I've seen that happen to a few mates too and it's never easy because people want an explanation for closure and you can't blame someone for feeling like their entitled to one after 10 years together; it's not as if it were a fling!

I guess sometimes explanations are invariably inadequate though and it's the result that matters and stays the same regardless, so best just to leave it and move on.

 

a subaru is modded for life, there's women everywhere

 

that post should go in here..

https://www.scoobynet.com/scoobynet-...sist-rant.html

 

same boat as you puts you off a bit but i was only married a year she too the lot house etc never again

 

I agree. I had to remortgage to `pay her off` and I just couldn`t afford to do it again. It`s my house and it always will be If that`s not acceptable to future girlfriends/partners, whatever, then b0llocks to them On MY terms from now on



I could have had a better `solution` for about £15k

 

i can only guess what worth every penny

 

I'd have done it for £10k

 

Romantic notion of love is great! Even the ones who treat relationships as business deals should spice it up with some poetry and romantic gestures.


There are some obvious reasons for not doing something about it. It could be because you may think you believe in something that's out there, but you really don't. You are either unsure of yourself, or unsure of that 'something'; or it could be both.

Some attached ones that do something about that 'something' are the ones who either have cowardly affairs, or they'd do a shameless, anti-social runner with that 'something'. And then their ex and many others would call them the bitches or the barsturds of the century. There are some stories in this thread itself referring to such or similar occurings, and the abandoned ones have been left traumatised. Not the best, man.

 

Indeed, but what do you do in that situation? Does the uncertainty mean that the person you're with is not true love and that you should end it with them so you can go and find it?

Isn't it a bit disingenuous and unfair to stay with someone if you suspect that "true love" is elsewhere? Or is that just how relationships work i.e. most are compromises which people entertain as it would seem something of a nonsense to be condemn oneself to being lonely whilst waiting for something that may or may not happen for them?

I wonder how many people can genuinely look at their partner and say "I sincerely believe that you are the one for me"?

 

It was £10 a pop in my case

 

What kind of "load" are we talking about shooting here?!?!?!

 

In my opinion, it is ingenuine to stay with someone if you suspect that 'true love' is out there. Its the time when you need to explore your feelings. Depending upon what is found in that exploration i.e. just some fatal attraction or a genuine connection out there, one needs to make some serious decisions.

It is wrong to stay with people that you don't love. Love is not a business deal. Love is a genuinine feeling which cannot be bought. Ethically, you should set the person free who you don't love any more (or never really loved them, anyway) so that they can find someone half genuine for themselves. You have no right to string someone along for your own psychological safety, and for your practical and selfish reasons. Again, you feel great about yourself by thinking that you don't want to hurt them. The fact is that you don't want to be on your @rse; just in case it doesn't work out with what is out there. People with young children in such circumstance find it difficult, which is understandable.

I also believe that people should try their best to walk away from first relationship before they start another one. Stopping to love your lover is hurtful enough for them; why make it worse for them by having affairs.

There are people who don't entertain relationship without love. They would start breaking things if they had to be false, or kick the other one out if he/she acted like some bullsh!tter or treated relationship as a deal for convenience.

 

Hi, my name's Alan, and I'm genuinine. I strongly dislike those who are ingenuinine. Don't even get me started on the ingenuininuine peeps.

 

Shuddit, smartbutt!

Thanks for taking a pith. I have corrected it now.

 

Damn!!!!!!


God knows what you`re on about

 

I aim only to educate...

 

 

Or at least not for the eyes!

 

MICKY FLANNAGAN:

"I'ss all abaht the fagiiiiina! I'ss all abaht the fagiiiiina!"